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Hundreds honor fraternity student’s legacy

Faith, sports characterized 19-year-old

Mourners gather at a memorial service Thursday for Jason Wren in front of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity house of which he was a member. Wren was found dead Sunday at the fraternity house after a night of drinking, his family has said.

Mourners gather at a memorial service Thursday for Jason Wren in front of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity house of which he was a member. Wren was found dead Sunday at the fraternity house after a night of drinking, his family has said.

March 13, 2009

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Hundreds gather in memory of Jason Wren

Family, friends and loved ones of 19-year-old Jason Wren gathered in his memory on the lawn of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity house. Enlarge video

Friends, family and fraternity brothers of Jason Christopher Wren remembered him as an intelligent, loyal person Thursday but asked the hundreds of attendees of a memorial service to not let him die in vain.

The front lawn of the Sigma Alpha Epsilon fraternity house was packed with shivering mourners during the cold March evening, remembering Wren, 19, who died Sunday at the house, 1301 West Campus Road, after a night of drinking, according to his family.

“Next time you have someone offer you a drink, say, ‘In honor of Jason Wren, I put my drink down,’” his father, Jay Wren, of Littleton, Colo., said, shortly before unveiling a bumper sticker with a similar slogan.

He and others remembered a religious man — he had a tattoo of a cross on his back, his father said — and one who loved sports, music and smiling.

Patrick Stacy, the vice president of the local Sigma Alpha Epsilon chapter, said that though he knew Jason Wren for only a month or so, he remembered a smart, easy-to-talk-to, loyal brother.

“We must see all the positives we can,” Stacy said, telling the crowd to look after friends who become intoxicated. “I urge everyone to use alcohol responsibly.”

Kevin Munch, a friend who drove Jason Wren to lacrosse practice, stood alone after most of the crowd had dissipated, looking at his friend’s picture on a card that had been distributed at the memorial.

“He hustled harder than anybody on the team,” said Munch, a sophomore teammate wearing his lacrosse jersey, along with the rest of the squad. “He brought a sense of intensity. It’s going to be hard going on without him.”

Jay Wren called on the assembled crowd, and on fraternities in particular, to not be afraid to call for help if a friend was in need, and repeated his call for the fraternity to ban alcohol.

Brandon Weghorst, a spokesman for the fraternity’s national organization, said an investigation into the incident is still ongoing, but so far, he said the organization has found no reason to believe there is any overall problem with the chapter. No social event at the chapter had been scheduled the night Jason Wren died, Weghorst said.

Jay Wren also criticized Kansas University for not letting him know the reason for his son’s recent expulsion from the residence halls.

“I wish we had known,” if Jason had alcohol problems at school, he said. “Parents should be allowed to know if there’s a problem with our children.”

Earlier in the day, Todd Cohen, a university spokesman, said that KU withholds student records from parents — including in situations where alcohol abuse is involved.

“What has been our philosophy is we want to create an atmosphere that the students be treated as the young adults they are,” he said.

KU tries to strike a balance between privacy rights of students and the interests of parents, Cohen said, and encourages students and parents to discuss their rights at enrollment.

Though the law that governs such situations, the Family Educational Rights and Privacy Act, allows universities to release information regarding situations of underage alcohol abuse, KU, like many other universities, does not do so, Cohen said.

However, other universities, such as the University of Colorado and Colorado State, have chosen to release student records relating to alcohol abuse to parents, and Cohen said KU’s policies are always under review.

Lawrence police and the coroner have not yet released results of an autopsy investigation into Jason Wren’s death.

Comments

Danimal 5 years, 9 months ago

My bus was rerouted yesterday afternoon because they closed the street in front of the house for this. I like how the guy in the middle of the picture couldn't even put on something nicer than his North Face and track pants for a memorial service, classy.

Boston_Corbett 5 years, 9 months ago

OK, it is time for Ocean and others to start the bashing of the residents of Greek housing instead of discussing the broader problem of alcohol attitudes, education, culture, and laws.

lawrencefan 5 years, 9 months ago

But Danimal, the gentleman in his Northface jacket was there paying his respects, wasn't he? Look for something meaningful to critique next time, okay?

asleepinthechapel 5 years, 9 months ago

My sympathies to the family and friends.

It all comes down to the attitude that it's all in good fun until somebody gets hurt. It's a dangerous attitude for us to harbor.

TheDefinition 5 years, 9 months ago

Danimal, really? Was that really your post? He showed up, paid respects. Maybe he just got done with practice, intramurals, class... and had to rush to the house just to be there. Where do you get off calling out someone who was there? Where were you?

craigers 5 years, 9 months ago

Why do people need to get drunk in the first place? You want to honor him? Make sure you don't push it when dealing with alcohol and if you see somebody that has had too much, help them out. It isn't that difficult. Too many think they are just having a good time and end up killing themselves in the process. Get smart about alcohol. I can have a drink or two and not have a problem driving which is why I stop there. I don't understand how people say it is fun when they can't control their bodies due to being under the influence.

OldEnuf2BYurDad 5 years, 9 months ago

Danimal: You sat on your rear end typing attacks against mourners while "North Face" showed up in support of another human. "Classy", Danimal?

My respectful objection to the father is that students deserve privacy, and that if his son wasn't prepared for the responsibilities in front of him, it might have been preferable for him to enroll at Colorado State or someplace close to home rather be left up to his own devices so far from home. This young man was in over his head with plenty of friends around, but no one who was supporting him in helping him with what clearly was a drinking problem. One of the seniors who saw him boozing needed to step in. Hindsight is not much help, but it has taught us something, here.

My condolences to SAE and the family.

lenovo 5 years, 9 months ago

I find it aweful that the university didn't inform this boy's father for what many have said were multiple alcohol related infractions at the dorms. Close friends were saying he had been "written up" 10 or 11 times in his short stay at the dorms before they finally booted him. I believe if his father had known this information, he could have gotten this poor young man some help. I understand that the university wants to treat students as "young adults", but there comes a point where personal saftey supercedes all else. Even at 19, young men still need help and direction in their lives.

jonas_opines 5 years, 9 months ago

"Legacy" is going a little overboard, don't you think. When a 19 year old has a legacy, odds are it's not a particularly positive one. Why not just call it his life?

1029 5 years, 9 months ago

A) "KU withholds student records from parents — including in situations where alcohol abuse is involved" because they want to "create an atmosphere that the students be treated as the young adults they are"

I think KU should look at tuition bills and notify the parents in cases where the parents are paying for the kid's tuition. Their policy makes sense for young adults who are out on their own, but if mommy and daddy and paying for the kid to be there, they should have a right to know.

b) Ridiculous to criticize the kid without a suit jacket. I know most of these are frat kids, but independent college kids who have to support themselves may not have the funds to buy a suit. Maybe that kid wasn't a silver-spoon frat member.

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

Perhaps if the parents are footing the bill, children should have to sign the waiver allowing KU to share information with the parents. If kids are there on their own dollar or on scholarship, then perhaps they should be encourage to sign but since they were responsible to get there on either their own money or earned a scholarship, we could hope they would responsible enough to stay out of trouble.

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

There has been no mention of what kind of student Jason was, either in high school or at KU, but if he got good grades, I imagine his father was inclined to believe him that there wasn't a problem and that the dorm had overreacted. I imagine (not being a parent myself) that if a child does well in school and then is a good athlete on top of that, they would be less likely to look for problems and more likely to believe their kids when the kids tell them that everything is fine.

jmadison 5 years, 9 months ago

It is my understanding that the disclosure of information on individuals no longer living at home is precluded by a federal law, FERPA. In this case, the law appears to be a failure. Other cases have involved college students who were severely depressed or who used firearms to commit crimes on campus. Perhaps this law needs to be reviewed as it seems to be deficient in protecting the rights of students and parents.

OldEnuf2BYurDad 5 years, 9 months ago

"I think KU should look at tuition bills and notify the parents in cases where the parents are paying for the kid's tuition. Their policy makes sense for young adults who are out on their own, but if mommy and daddy and paying for the kid to be there, they should have a right to know."

That's a violation of federal law. The idea that students should "have to sign a waiver" is a good idea... however it must be enforced by the parents. It's not the university's place to force a student to reveal private information to parents.

My wife has story after story of parents calling her office at KU asking pointed questions about their student's status at KU... because a number of our students are taking money from mom and dad, and not even enrolling for years at a time. After 4 years, parents start asking about transcripts and diplomas... and there isn't one. These issues are matters of the HOME, and are not the responsibility of the university to resolve.

I think it's interesting that so many of his friends knew about the problem, and that his parents fully understood why he was kicked out of the residence hall; but WE blame KU (an institution) instead of friends and family (his community). I think "blame" is inappropriate all around, but to blame KU for their lack of involvement really doesn't make sense to me.

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

This is going to sound disrespectful and I don't mean to be disrespectful to either the deceased or his family, but perhaps his legacy is learning when to put down the alcohol and/or to be aware of when your friends have had too much. Something that says that says learn from his death.

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

OldEnuf - Parents are quick to jump on the phone to KU when their little darling has a problem, I agree. My dad teaches in the sciences at KU and when a student who apparently aced high school is suddenly failing his class, it's his fault. College is supposed to be hard. And no, his class is not the easiest subject. I got a D in it when I took it (thankfully, someone else was teaching it at the time). So maybe in someways, the rule is good. Otherwise, my dad wouldn't have time to teach b/c he'd be defending himself and his class to all his students' parents.

shockchalk 5 years, 9 months ago

A lot of folks would love to blame KU for this tragedy, but the fact is, they handled his situation in the Residence Hall exactly how they were supposed to. If you really need to throw blame around, maybe the focus should be on his brothers and their frat house. Binge drinking is an all to common problem in these places and the fact that so many people saw what shape he was in and chose to do nothing is reprehensible. What a sad tragedy for this family to go through. As long as this behavior is encouraged and accepted, we will continue to lose our young people.

kmat 5 years, 9 months ago

Hey OldEnuf - If the kid is underaged, getting busted on university property for repeatedly having alcohol on campus and the parents are flipping the bill for him to live on campus, then they should be notified. Since he was living in the dorms, his permanent address would still be his CO address and that's where his report cards would go. If his parents get the report cards, they should be notified of his repeatedly breaking university, state and federal laws.

KU should have reported this and called the police. Here are the penalties for minor in possession. He should have lost his license and served jail time. He'd have a record, but he'd be alive.

Penalties For Minor Alcohol Possession in Kansas For a first offense minor in possession of alcohol charge, the penalty is:

Up to 1 month in jail

$200 minimum fine ($500 if under 18)

40 hours of community public service

Required attendance in an alcohol education program

suspended driver's license for 30 days.

For a second (2nd) offense minor in possession of alcohol charge in the state of Kansas, in addition to the above penalties, the driver's license suspension will be for 90 days.

For a third (3rd) offense minor in possession of alcohol charge in the state of Kansas, in addition to the above penalties, the driver's license suspension will be for a 1 year.

Related charges: If you purchase alcohol for a person under the legal drinking age of 21, you are subject to a maximum penalty of 6 months in jail and a $1000 fine.

1210JayHwk 5 years, 9 months ago

shockchalk, were you at his memorial service? I was. Did you hear any of his friends speak? I did.

Some of the speakers said he was walking around giving people high-fives before he fell asleep. He was talking to people, laughing, etc, and then fell asleep. These are personal accounts. You cant say that "so many people saw what condition he was in...and did nothing..."

Is that just your opinion? Or were you there that night witnessing everything?

Its not like this kid was huddled over the toilet vomiting all night, or passed out on some floor with his eyes rolling in the back of his head. He literally fell asleep, like every drunk person does after a night of drinking, and his friends put him to bed, just like anyone else would.

roggy 5 years, 9 months ago

This very sad tragedy is going to make everyone look at their policies. As a parent of a college student (not at KU) I understand the father's frustration that he could not be informed as to why his son was kicked out of the dorm. It sounds like the son sugar coated the real reason he was kicked out. I understand privacy issues but as long as parents are footing the bill they should have the right to know why their son was kicked out of the dorm. Parents are unfortunately the last to know that there might be a serious problem. It sounds like this kid indeed had a serious drinking problem and knowing why he was kicked out of the dorm might have clued the parents in to it. How sad that they are probably hearing it all now when it is too late to help their son.
Someone commented that professors don't want to talk to parents. I totally agree but this is something very different.

mom_of_three 5 years, 9 months ago

I am just going to address the part where Jay Wren says KU should have notified him. Mr. Wren asked his son why he was tossed out of the dorm, and his son LIED to him. Why is KU responsible for that?
Maybe KU should adjust their policy for releasing information in cases of alcohol abuse, but the PARENT and the STUDENT were told of privacy issues at enrollment, etc. THIS was not a secret.
And I totally understand why the parents want someone to blame in this situation, but it starts with the victim in this case.

mom_of_three 5 years, 9 months ago

the kid didn't "sugar coat" it - he lied about the problem. And if the parents had a clue or suspicion about it, they should have asked someone at KU, and maybe they would have gotten an answer.
In a prior article, the father said the son drank at home in high school. He knew the kid drank underage, and he didn't care. Why does a parent think that behavior will stop at college????

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

No, I didn't say that professors don't want to talk to parents. They just don't want to talk to parents who are calling to blame them because Little Johnny, who got all A's in high school, is now getting an F in physics. It's a comment on lack of taking responsibility for one's actions. And it is not a comment on Jason, Jay, the fraternity, KU, or anyone else related to this sad incident. It's just a tagent from the posts.

shockchalk 5 years, 9 months ago

1210JayHwk, Not that it's any of your business but yes, I was at the service and did hear many of the speakers. I'm sure that's the way they want to remember it. Better to absolve themselves of responsibility and guilt then admitting they should have checked on him more often after he got up the first time. It's easier to blame the University right? It's obvious you think this is all a tragic accident that couldn't have been avoided no matter what? Is that how you see it? Grow up and get a clue unless you want to see more of these headlines and attend more of these memorials.

roggy 5 years, 9 months ago

I'm not sure Jason lied - he just didn't tell them all of the story or probably most of the story. I'm not blaming KU because that is their policy but after hearing that some of the Colorado schools have different policies, it is definitely worth KU revisiting their policies. I honestly don't think this tragedy is going to change the drinking habits of college students but hopefully it will make them more aware of the dangers.

Jim Williamson 5 years, 9 months ago

"If the kid is underaged, getting busted on university property for repeatedly having alcohol on campus and the parents are flipping the bill for him to live on campus, then they should be notified. Since he was living in the dorms, his permanent address would still be his CO address and that's where his report cards would go. If his parents get the report cards, they should be notified of his repeatedly breaking university, state and federal laws."

What part of "It's against Federal law" is confusing to you?

Jersey_Girl 5 years, 9 months ago

shockchalk - I think a lot of us learned a lot from this unfortunate incident. I know I did. I would have just put him to bed. Him getting up on his own would have made me think he was fine, since he woke up on his own. I wouldn't have done anything differently than his fraternity brothers did.

Danimal 5 years, 9 months ago

Hey, I'm not saying it isn't tragic that this young man died. I'm saying that you don't go to pay your respects in your workout/lounging attire. That's not paying your respects, that's just going through the motions. If this guy had class, or some sports practice I'm pretty sure they would have let him out a half an hour early or rescheduled a midterm so he could put on a suit and go to his friends memorial. And I'm not buying that he doesn't own one, some people aren't wealthy enough to own a suit but this guys probably got a couple at home.

It's an absolute tragedy that this young man died, but something just rubs me the wrong way that some people can't even be bothered to throw on some Dockers for a memorial service.

premedstudent3292 5 years, 9 months ago

Hello all, This is the so called "north face" guy. I would like to apologize to whoever was offended by my informal attire. I regret not having enough time to dress appropriately for such an event. I was on campus all day studying for a test I had directly after the service and had zero time to drive across campus to change, being that I wanted to be on time to pay my respects. I would hope we can get past this faux pas and focus on what was important: paying our respects to Jason Wren.

kmat 5 years, 9 months ago

Phogfan - why don't you read the law?

actually under the law, they should have called the police when they busted this kid with booze in the dorm.

And in cases of health and safety emergencies. Being sh*t faced drunk that many times at the dorm is a safety issue.

To quote: "If an educational agency or institution determines that there is an articulable or significant threat to the health or safety of a student or other individual, it may disclose the information to any person, including parents, whose knowledge of the information is necessary to protect the health or safety of the student or other individuals."

And there are specific regulations about notifying parents when they are abusing substances on campus. (under 99.36).

I used to be a teacher. I know the laws.

All KU has to do is adopt the same policy that many other schools have.

Here's a little light reading for you for the weekend.

http://www.ed.gov/legislation/FedRegister/finrule/2008-4/120908a.pdf

thelonious 5 years, 9 months ago

I almost never comment on these personal tragedy stories as most folks are pretty touchy, and it is easy for well-intentioned comments to be taken as disrespectful.

However, I found the headline of this story to be so sad - "hundreds honor fraternity student's leagacy". What is so sad is that because of what happened, there really is no legacy. 19-year old with promise flames out early due to binge drinking, and a promising life cut short. There is no legacy - only a tragedy.

Without demonizing alcohol, or excusing it as something everyone does, what I hope everyone takes away is just how dangerous it can be when consumed to excess, the responsibility we all need to have for our fellow humans to watch out for them when they make a mistake, and the fragility of life in general.

I certainly had a few world-class benders in my 20's, which I survived (thankfully) and which scared me into a life of moderation when it comes to use of alcohol. Let's make sure we neither judge this individual nor glorify the party scene - hopefully all can learn from this and practice a life of moderation in all aspects rather than a life of extremes.

And I extend my condolences to this young man's family.

shockchalk 5 years, 9 months ago

kmat -- Could you enlighten us with where you got all of this information? How many times was he sh*t faced drunk at the dorm? Seems to me, you are making your statements based on assumption, not fact. KU followed policy and is not the one to blame for this unfortunate tragedy. The frat house on the other hand will be under the microscope after this as they well should be. If you used to be a teacher, you should know better than to speculate on what happened and base your comments on fact, not a post you read or an opinion you have.

kmat 5 years, 9 months ago

Not based on assumption. He was written up many times at the dorms for alcohol. A person I know at the dorm said he was quite often drunk (sorry, I like sh*t faced better). You have to get written up A LOT to get kicked out of the dorms.

KU followed their policy, but their policy should be changed to jive with federal law. For the safety of him and the other students, his parents should have been notified of his repeated, underaged drunkeness at the dorms and should have contacted them when they kicked him out for these violations. He broke university and state laws and could have endangered everyone at KU and in Lawrence.

Typical post from you.

Tony Kisner 5 years, 9 months ago

KU withholds student records from parents — including in situations where alcohol abuse is involved.

What is the down side to releasing this information if allowed by law? The University needs to start thinking about who is the client which provides the revenue. If 18 year old kids were paying all the fees, the tuition at schools would be around $25 per credit hour at best.

kmat 5 years, 9 months ago

One other thing that bothered me with this is that no one found him until the next afternoon? If the frat brothers had been the least bit responsible, wouldn't they have been checking on their "friend" much earlier than that? I wouldn't call those friends.

dweezil222 5 years, 9 months ago

I love how there's an immediate call to ban alcohol, as though the alcohol itself were somehow to blame, not his irresponsible drinking habits. Just like there are responsible gun users, there are responsible drinkers, and neither should be punished just because someone else doesn't know how to be safe.

beatrice 5 years, 9 months ago

Notify the parents of a legal adult, just because they are footing the bill? If he had been on a scholarship, should they have contacted the banker where the endowment is held? An adult is an adult, even if he or she is just barely an adult. One shouldn't blame the alcohol, but the people who supplied the alcohol to this young man, even if they are fellow fraternity members, should be tried for manslaughter in this young man's death.

greenworld 5 years, 9 months ago

Before all of us start to sit here and over analyze all this lets keep in mind that one) he is gone and not coming back and two) all of this could have never happened by removing the element-alcohol. Everybody should listen to his father and his message to everybody about stopping any further drinking and removing the element. I think the message is loud and clear that there is way to much partying and alcohol in these frats/sororitys. A true wake up call/reminder in this boys case. Hopefully people learn from this tragic loss and realize that the choices that we all make directly effect oneself. RIP brother

lenovo 5 years, 9 months ago

well im glad you were there as well shockchalk, theres only one problem with all of this online arguing. And that is no-one really cares what anyone has to say on an online forum at ljworld.com. It is all useless arguing. Nothing is going to happen based on abunch of annonymous opinions on the internet. Much more credible sources have already confirmed that there are not going to be sanctions aginst the frat. End of story. Last word.

OldEnuf2BYurDad 5 years, 9 months ago

"Hey OldEnuf - If the kid is underaged, getting busted on university property for repeatedly having alcohol on campus and the parents are flipping the bill for him to live on campus, then they should be notified. Since he was living in the dorms, his permanent address would still be his CO address and that's where his report cards would go. If his parents get the report cards, they should be notified of his repeatedly breaking university, state and federal laws."

You are wrong about everything in this paragraph.

Report cards are sent to the student's permanent address; addressed to the STUDENT. It's NONE of the parents' business unless/until the student MAKES it their business (that is the law, not my opinion). Parents who open mail for their students are breaking the law even if it is arriving in their mailbox and they are paying the bills (assuming they don't have the student's permission).

Also, he was "underaged" for drinking, but he's was an ADULT. No one has any obligation to call a 19-year-olds momma if he breaks the law. He's was an adult, and the university and law enforcement were treating him as such.

So, again: these are not "university" issues or problems to blame on the university; these are 100% family matters. If the parents of KU students are paying the bills AND believe they have a right to be informed, they need to negotiate/require those things of their kids, and not expect them of the university. The fact that so many parents don't know how to require those things of the kids they are paying to go to college says a lot about how many parents are in over their heads, relationally speaking (this is not directed at this case in the article - I don't know these people).

Besides, when a kid wants to deceive their parents badly enough, they will forge grade cards, etc., anyway. At the age of 19, a person is suddenly responsible for a lot all at once.

rgh 5 years, 9 months ago

premedstudent3292,

I'm just glad you were there to show your repects. Who the heck cares what you had on. Is it important to all these folks for people to go to church in a suit or just making sure they go to church?

Christine Anderson 5 years, 9 months ago

Just a thought. If Mr. Wren was indeed "walking around giving people high-fives", it was probably because the effect of all he drank was culmulative. It took time for all that crap to build up in his liver, and then for the rest of the bod to say, "We quit." He would have been building up to the point of going unconscious.

justthefacts 5 years, 9 months ago

Those who advocate in favor of a college calling parents about a student in trouble have evidently not heard of the federal law that MANDATES (requires) the school to protect the privacy of students. FERPA prohibits a school from calling the parents of someone over the age of 18 to reveal what is contained in school records, without the written consent of the ADULT. Failure to follow the FERPA can result in a loss of many things, including federal dollars to the state. So, as much as the parents might want to know what their ADULT child (by law, over the age of 18 is adult) is doing - there is a federal law that keeps records private, unless the parent is still claiming that child as a tax dependent. So.... Lots of ideas. But we need the facts before we can start giving real helpful input.

Condolences to the family and friends. Sure hope the message is clear to his frat buddies; drinking too much is very uncool. Very.

TheDonJuan 5 years, 9 months ago

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janeb 5 years, 9 months ago

The grieving look for a legacy where there is none.

redmoonrising 5 years, 9 months ago

Sad that we have to speculate and point fingers all over the place. The kid was 18, considered an adult in this country but too young to drink. Who knows what he told his parents? Who knows what to look for when someone is drunk that they are in serious trouble? If the student is considered an adult, why should the univeristy, who has over 20,000 students, be required to police each of these adults? What does it matter what someone wore to his memorial service? Who knows what his legacy was but don't we all have one in our own way? Maybe his was to show people what alcohol in excess can do. I'm always amazed that we spend all our time here trying to figure out things that sometimes just don't have a clear answer. A young man died, his family is suffereing, his friends are suffering, the university population is suffering. All and none are to blame individually, even the young man because he drank to excess but was too drunk to know it. Let him go in peace while we learn from his mistake and those made by others. He's gone.

KEITHMILES05 5 years, 9 months ago

The father criticizing the university is ridiculous. If he was more involved in his sons life then he wouldn't have felt so guilty.

chasebald 5 years, 9 months ago

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forku 5 years, 9 months ago

Let me get this straight. The man lived in the frat house for 10 days. He was kicked out of a dorm for what we now know were multiple alcohol abuse violations. His dad says that he has had an alcohol problen since 9th grade. The face book page shows multiple pics of him drinking in high school and at his dorm. He used a fake ID at the restaurant. His file from the dorm was sealed, but he did not tell the dad or the frat the truth. Sounds a lot like a silent death wish and a deep seeded problem. Not sure the amount of alcohol he had that night matters. This was going to happen sooner or later if he did not stop or did not ask for help, or if dad, knowing of the problem, did not intervene. From what I have read, its the school's fault and the frat's fault according to the family. But the school knew him for a semester and the frat knew him for 10 days. His family knew him for 19 years. Don't know, but i guess that is where I would look for answers.

forku 5 years, 9 months ago

“I wish we had known,” if Jason had alcohol problems at school, he said. “Parents should be allowed to know if there’s a problem with our children.” ...Jay Wren... Now he says he knew the young man had an issue since 9th grade. So blame everyone else. It is a tragedy that Jason passed. So, dad, why dont you also blame and try to emotionally ruin the lives of the guys who were his friends at Oliver and knew his problem, or the guys who were with him that night by basically calling them killers (which you did the night of the ceremony.) I did not hear one thing from dad which celebrated his son--just him blaming everyone in the world but himself. There are students from Oliver and the frat who are home right now thinking they did something horribe and were responsible for Jason's death...Thanks to dad. What a guy.

forku 5 years, 9 months ago

Pogo..very classy... Which frat would not let you in?

imagold 5 years, 9 months ago

For those that think we should do as the Brits do and teach our children responsible drinking at an early age, read this: http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7856595.stm. The Brits are saying it's not a good idea. So are the Brits now saying "Let's do as the American's do."? Next...the roundabouts.

Deja Coffin 5 years, 9 months ago

My thoughts and prayers go out to all the friends and family of this young man. I hope that all those mourning the loss of him can be responsible tomorrow so something like this doesn't have to happen again. As I've said before, I've lost a brother at the age of 23 and the saddest thing to witness is people who were close to him not change their wreckless decisions. Life is too short and when you die it's your family and friends that pay the price for your mistakes by spending the rest of their lives mourning you.

Also, I can't remember what people wore to his funeral or wake or even who all showed up but I remember those who didn't show. Premed, it's better to show up in a sweatshirt then to not show up at all.

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