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If you were getting married today would you ask for a prenuptial agreement?

Response Percent Votes
No
 
62% 687
Yes
 
31% 340
Not sure
 
6% 69
Total 1096

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labmonkey 4 years, 1 month ago

A prenuptuial agreement is creates a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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edjayhawk 4 years, 1 month ago

The enticement of capitalism has ruined the sanctity of marriage.

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cletus26 4 years, 1 month ago

i think i would. but then again, it all depends on.....

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somedude20 4 years, 1 month ago

lets see how long this sweet poem lasts for: 1988 Pimp of the Year pageant as spoken by Fly Guy

"My b$%ch better have my money. Though rain sleet or snow. My 'ho better have my money. Not half, not some, but all my cash. Because if she don't, I'm gonna put my foot dead in her ass."

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KansasPerson 4 years, 1 month ago

Blackfox, why would you want them to be? I think if I were the same person I was 20 years ago, I couldn't even stand to be around myself. People change and mature. That doesn't necessarily mean they become less trustworthy. I find that on that score, people usually continue as they started out.

Anyway, the fact that people change is not something that should stand in the way of long-term relationships. Actually it's one of the things that makes marriage interesting. :)

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blackfox 4 years, 1 month ago

People change.There is no way to know that the person you marry will be the same in 20years.

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EyeonKansas 4 years, 1 month ago

I answered "no" only based upon my current relationship. When we met we were young. I have always had the higher earning potential, better at handling money, etc. In the past 15yrs we've been financially stable and once to the point we had to borrow money. He worked and earned as much as he could... and it is frustrating when he isn't stably employeed. We've had 3 children together. If we went ahead and married (he wants too, I don't) I wouldn't ask for a prenup. If our relationship were to ever end I WOULD ask the next person for a prenup... even if he was better off financially. This world is too unpredictable, fortunes lost too easily. Because my children are with my current love and it asks about TODAY... I wouldn't ask for a prenup.

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denak 4 years, 1 month ago

".....Even without a prenup your partner still gets half your stuff (in divorce) in the state of Kansas from what I have heard. Common Property or something like that? Anyone know about this?????..."

It is called Community Property and Kansas is not a Community Property State. In a Community Property state, all property and income acquired during a marriage is split fifty-fifty. The Community Property states are as follows: Arizona, California, Idaho, Louisiana, Nevada, New Mexico, Texas, Washington and Wisconsin.

However, Kansas is s an Equitable Property state which means that, in the event, of a divorce, the state will look at the relative earnings of each spouse, take in consideration if one stays home to raise the children, and the earning potential of each of the parties. Then the state will split the property accordingly but it will not be an automatic 50-50 split as in Community Property states.

The good thing about a pre-nup and living in an equitable propety state is that it, written correctly, a pre-nup can "override" the equitable property laws of the state. Of course, this has the potential of cheating one partner so each person should have their own attorney to look over the prenup to make sure that it is fair and equitable to each party.

As to the question at hand, whether I would get one. Absolutely and I would highly encourage anyone who has children from a previous marriage, to get one in order to protect their children. And if my intended wouldn't sign one, I wouldn't marry him.

Dena

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grammaddy 4 years, 1 month ago

Of course! Why would I risk all this on love? lol

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alm77 4 years, 1 month ago

Big, you are correct. Actually, knowing my husband, if I cheated he would fight until he got the kids and the child support. He's an awesome dad. I don't think he'd get alimony though.

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jrlii 4 years, 1 month ago

Definitely a pre-nup.

I figure getting married and then un-married cost me around $100K. And that was without any kids.

OTOH both the best man and matron of honor claim they tried to talk the priest out of marrying us. . .

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consumer1 4 years, 1 month ago

too late, she already got everything. Including my eight track.

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BigPrune 4 years, 1 month ago

...and alm77, if you cheated on your husband he would be SOL. Not fair.

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alm77 4 years, 1 month ago

"Prenups avoid future headaches." So does choosing the right person to marry and staying married to them. If my husband cheated on me, he'd find himself not only on the curb, but paying child support and alimony to boot! Who needs a prenup for that?

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BigPrune 4 years, 1 month ago

Since women file for divorce 85% of the time, proof in itself they exhibit more erratic behavior then men, hell yes, a prenupt for sure would be required.

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Ernest Barteldes 4 years, 1 month ago

I dont know the divorce stats in Kansas, but considering that here in NY the number goes over 60 percent, Id have to say yes. At least to protect my assets and to send her a signal that she cannot just walk out of a marriage just because she feels she can do better or other frivolous reasons. Prenups avoid future headaches.

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whats_going_on 4 years, 1 month ago

Wouldn't get married to someone I didn't fully trust.

I know people change and do stupid things, but thats just life I guess.

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Mel Briscoe 4 years, 1 month ago

yep. ain't no man gettin' my betamax.

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yankeevet 4 years, 1 month ago

Lovem and when or if they leave; just go get another one..........no bother with the paperwork..................you can come in to my house; but u leave with nothing........except maybe some satisfaction;;lol.................

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RETICENT_IRREVERENT 4 years, 1 month ago

Isn't a prenuptial agreement a favorable answer to the question of "will you marry me" or "are we getting married" ? As I recall "yes" or "fine" are valid responses.

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OwlHead 4 years, 1 month ago

Even without a prenup your partner still gets half your stuff (in divorce) in the state of Kansas from what I have heard. Common Property or something like that? Anyone know about this????? Either way, some people have too many hard earned assets to piss away on a marriage that has a 50% chance of failing.

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OwlHead 4 years, 1 month ago

Even without a prenup your partner still gets half your stuff (in divorce) in the state of Kansas from what I have heard. Common Property or something like that? Anyone know about this????? Either way, some people have too many hard earned assets to piss away on a marriage that has a 50% chance of failing.

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autie 4 years, 1 month ago

Ask for a prenup? Only if I wanted my ass kicked really hard.

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sierraclub 4 years, 1 month ago

Not sure!!!!! I cannot make a decision. Thank you LJWorld! Not sure!!!!

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Multidisciplinary 4 years, 1 month ago

I know two men that I would feel comfortable enough to not need one. On the other hand, those are probably the only two men I would ever feel safe enough around to marry should the situation ever come around, which I don't forsee. Maybe one more, but I don't really get to talk to him anymore, so I don't have a current barometer on that one. I can't begin to imagine meeting anyone new and developing that kind of trust, it's too rare. Those kind of people are one in a million. I found one down the street not too long ago, and can't begin to expect I'll find another in this lifetime.

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M. Lindeman 4 years, 1 month ago

mayatao (anonymous) says… I personally don't think marriage is only about love any more... It's great if two people can get together for the sake of purely love, but most of the time, it's not the case any more. marriage can't solely relay on love.

rdragon writes:

Why not? I think it should be.

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mayatao 4 years, 1 month ago

I personally don't think marriage is only about love any more... It's great if two people can get together for the sake of purely love, but most of the time, it's not the case any more. marriage can't solely relay on love.

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Hydra 4 years, 1 month ago

If I was getting married today I would run screaming the other way!!!!!!!!

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1029 4 years, 1 month ago

Absolutely. I ain't about to let some woman try to steal all my treasure.

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jwsuber 4 years, 1 month ago

Since you freak out when I touch your smoke-filled lingerie, I concede.

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AnnaUndercover 4 years, 1 month ago

@jwsuber It should be a collaboration. I have some ideas, should we ever have the need to create this document:

I never want to do the dishes, ever. BUT... Since you have a lackadaisical approach to laundry, I would be willing to head all laundry operations until such a point is reached where there are more than two parties for whom to do same-household laundry.

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oneeye_wilbur 4 years, 1 month ago

I would ask for a PrePaid Divorce agreement and a prepaid burial plan.

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jwsuber 4 years, 1 month ago

It totally depends on our relative wealth. Do I get to write it? Is that okay dear?

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AnnaUndercover 4 years, 1 month ago

Haha. My boyfriend just read my comment. :)

He said he wants "neck [kissing] rights in perpetuity."

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AnnaUndercover 4 years, 1 month ago

@tennesseerader I couldn't disagree more.

Prenuptial agreements protect both parties. I will absolutely have a prenuptial agreement if I ever get married, especially if I plan to have children.

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tennesseerader 4 years, 1 month ago

If you need a prenuptial agreement you shouldn't get married.

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