Your friend just announced she’s getting married — again. Now, the tricky part: What should you do about the gift? Serving platters, place settings, and kitchen appliances don’t seem as useful when it’s the second time around.
Whether it’s the number-two “I do” for the bride, the groom or both, a second-time couple probably doesn’t need many of the traditional registry items.
After years of independent living, the issue is more likely to be too much stuff rather than a lack of basic household gear. In fact, many couples don’t even fill out registries for their second weddings. Even if there’s no formal registry, though, it’s natural to want to celebrate their big day with some kind of gift. Ditch your old ideas about wedding presents and go for something that truly reflects the couple’s unique style and interests. Get started with these fun ideas.
If the couple has enough stuff, give a gift that lets them spend time together. Consider a gift certificate for dancing or cooking lessons, museum memberships, a day out on a sailboat or dinner at a fancy restaurant. Maybe you’ll help them find a new passion!
Look for single-performance or season tickets. Maybe there’s an upcoming concert or opera the couple will love. Tickets to a play, musical or the ballet will thrill culture-seekers. For a sportier pair, check out upcoming professional, minor league or college athletic events in your area.
Even if the couple’s kitchen is already fully stocked, they may be missing an espresso machine, indoor grill, or martini shaker set. Since they already have the basics, you can have fun buying them cool new gadgets and appliances.
If the bride, groom or both have children from a previous marriage, look for a gift that the whole family can enjoy together. A dinner cruise, tickets to a sporting event, an evening at the theater or day lift tickets for a nearby ski resort are all great options.
Since many couples skip honeymoons with their second spouse, surprise this pair with a weekend at a nearby resort or bed and breakfast. Day spas are also an excellent way for the couple to spend a few hours relaxing together after the hectic months of wedding planning.
A charitable gift
For the couple who really has everything, the best gift is one that lets them do the giving. Make a donation to their favorite cause in their name, or give a gift certificate to Global Giving (GlobalGiving.com) and let them pick the charity. If you’d like something more specific, try a site like Changing the Present (ChangingthePresent.org), where you can choose to give clean well water to a community in a developing country, sponsor half an hour of breast cancer research and hundreds of other small projects in honor of the couple.
If the couple will be living together for the first time after the wedding, get them something that celebrates their new home. Sure, they’ve got basic dishware and furniture, but do they have a hammock built for two? Or, if they’re renovating to accommodate their new life together, try a gift certificate to a home supply store.
Honor the bride and groom’s new life together with a one-of-a-kind customized gift. Whether it’s something useful (new address labels or a doormat with both their names) or just for fun (a case of Jones Soda with their photos or a customized game of Monopoly), the couple will love the thoughtful celebration of their new partnership.
Give the bride and groom something they can enjoy together for an entire year with some sort of monthly club. Who wouldn’t love a new type of chocolate, wine, or fruit delivered to their door every four weeks? If the couple isn’t the foodie type, consider a fresh flower club. Or, for a pair that loves to read, invest in subscriptions to a few of their favorite magazines.