Bill Clinton facilitated the release of Laura Ling and Euna Lee in North Korea. Professor Henry Gates and Sgt. James Crowley had beers at the White House. Footballers David Beckham and Landon Donovan agreed to an on-field truce in Los Angeles.

Before we lose this detente mojo, we need to tackle one more area of controversy: Let’s negotiate a peaceful coexistence of bicyclists and motorists.

You know the dispute. No doubt you’ve encountered it during your commute to work or in the middle of your morning ride. The bikers think drivers are aggressive and self-centered. The drivers think bikers are bottleneck-inducing traffic-law violators.

The conflict exists all over the world, according to Joe Mizereck, a cycling enthusiast and founder of 3 Feet Please, an organization that advocates for laws to ensure biker safety. “There are a lot of people who think they’re in control,” Mizereck told me. “Certainly for the past 60 years, motorists have been in control. Vehicles are certainly the big guys on the block. But there are some changes taking place here, and we’ve got to get along.”

And soon. Hundreds of Ride of Silence events have popped up throughout the world to honor the increasing number of cyclists injured or killed in accidents with motorists. In Doylestown, Pa., Bev Bongiorno worked to establish a ride in memory of her sister Valerie, who was killed more than three years ago after she was struck during a ride by a trailer attached to a passing truck.

I used to side with the motorists. I remember thinking bikers had a sense of entitlement that seemed to grow out of their Spandex shorts. They were posers — Lance Armstrong wannabes with expensive carbon-framed bikes, designer shirts, padded pants, and flashy helmets. They took up too much space, seemed to relish slowing down traffic, and thought nothing of blowing through stop signs and red lights. And the more their ranks grew, the more they thought the road was built for them.

Then, three years ago, I was invited (well, shamed is more like it) to ride my bicycle from Philadelphia to Atlantic City, N.J., as part of the Irish Pub Tour de Shore, which benefits police charities. The tour is one of many local bike tours with a charitable purpose. They appear to be growing in number and popularity, which is another reason we need to set some standards.

My bike experience until then was largely confined to a green number with a banana seat and monkey handlebars, which I used to pedal around my neighborhood in the Nixon era. For the Pub Tour, my gear included gym shorts, a T-shirt, sneakers, and a bike that had been a wedding gift 10 years earlier. Real men, I thought, never wear clip-on shoes. But by the time we reached Camden, I was no longer snickering at the better-equipped riders. As with so many other part-time pursuits, if you want to bike right, you need to have the proper equipment.

By now, three Tours de Shore have afforded me a whole new perspective from the bicycle seat. I now know, for example, that many bikers ride along the white line because it offers the smoothest surface — a far safer path than the field of potholes and debris often found a few feet to the right. I also recognize the alarm that the blowing of a horn can cause for a biker. And I understand the hazard that a closely passing car can present.

I also acknowledge bad behavior on the part of bikers and confess to having contributed to it. Cruising along some bucolic farm roads about 15 miles from Atlantic City, I have drifted through a few stop signs based on a fatigue-induced sense of entitlement. That was wrong. But I now understand what causes some to behave similarly.

I’m also convinced that bikers have a legitimate right to use the roadways. But ending the kerfuffle between them and motorists is going to take some compromise on both sides.

Here’s a starting point: Bikers should recognize that hitting the road means obeying laws as every other vehicle does. So ride with traffic, stop at lights, and yield when appropriate. Recognize that not all roads are meant to be pedaled.

And stick to single-file lines. That doesn’t mean hugging the guardrail or the side of the road. Cyclists who give themselves a couple of feet will make it more likely that drivers do the same.

Drivers, meanwhile, should give cyclists at least three feet of clearance when passing. They should stay off the shoulder, even when the car in front of them is making a left; it’s meant for bikers and emergencies.

And stop honking at bikers to make a point. Treating them like vehicles on equal footing with cars will go a long way toward keeping everyone safe and civil.

“Still, to this day, every time I see a rider while driving, or even when walking the dog, I can’t help but think about Valerie,” Bev Bongiorno told me. “I hope that bikers are riding safely and that all the drivers on the road are watching out for everybody else on the road, but especially the bikers.”