To the editor:

In the Nov. 6 Journal-World, Chad Lawhorn wrote that relationships begin or change with language used. Negative language gets negative results; positive language gets positive results. The first step in a relationship depends on how language used fosters fair compromise.

Lawhorn’s suggested three little words are “You were right.” These are good words. I also suggest the following phrases to promote fair and productive conversations: Let’s protect democracy; help everyday Americans; work toward change. Others are: Would you consider? Do you agree? Let’s work together.

Sen. Bob Dole was a master at beginning and changing relationships with open-minded language coupled with clever humor. Getting our country back on track toward progress requires all legislators — federal, state, county and city — to cross the aisle and work together. The road toward compromise is uphill. Progress and compromise are accomplished when both sides listen more than they talk and show mutual respect when making their points.

Let’s start with three of the biggest needs: U.S. deficit, healthcare for all and regaining the world’s respect. To get started will require every legislator to compromise, show patience and restraint. Voters have made it clear — we want our legislators to follow Bob Dole’s lead — cross the aisle and cooperate. Conversations must be honest and civil. They must start with examples of three little words. Both sides must say them. And most importantly, both sides must mean them!

Charley Crabtree,

Lawrence