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For teen mom, a lifetime of responsibility comes with new baby

Parenting brings a new perspective

Katie Schimmel pauses after dressing Nicolas at her father's Lawrence mobile home. Although she wants an apartment of her own, money is tight and getting out to find a job is difficult without a car or means of daycare for Nicolas.

Katie Schimmel pauses after dressing Nicolas at her father's Lawrence mobile home. Although she wants an apartment of her own, money is tight and getting out to find a job is difficult without a car or means of daycare for Nicolas.

February 28, 2010

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This is the second story in a series that follows 18-year-old Katie Schimmel's journey into motherhood. Read the first story.

With parenting comes a never-ending list of questions.

For 18-year-old Katie Schimmel, those questions are mostly answered with the cries, whimpers and grunts of her 2-month-old son, Nicolas.

Growing up together

Eighteen years old and pregnant, Katie Schimmel's life was about to change forever. For four months, we followed Katie's journey to motherhood.

“Hey, why are you crying?” she asks as she soaps his head and rinses him under a running faucet during bath time.

“Is it a little too hot for you?” she ponders.

That the baby is still fussing is the only direction she receives, leaving her to guess at what comes next.

Most of the time she knows.

And when she doesn’t, she’ll follow it up by asking “what?” or just mimics the sounds that Nicolas makes.

At 2 months, Nicolas is a healthy 11 pounds, smiling and holding up his head when he lies on his tummy. He is ahead of his age developmentally, Katie proudly shares.

Nicolas still has the tuft of blond hair and old-man face he was born with. When he is about to cry, his whole body seems to scrunch together. And when he is content, lying in Katie’s arms or in his swing, he looks at the world in bewilderment, as if asking his own question: “How did I get here?”

Lessons in mothering

Most of the parenting skills Katie knows come from her best friend, fellow teen mom Marissa Carley, or Jenni Stark, a family support worker for the Healthy Families program with the Kansas Children’s Service League.

Marissa delivered her son last June, when she was 18. She read everything she could about parenting. It’s through Marissa that Katie has heard about Healthy Families, food vouchers from WIC and cash assistance through the Kansas Department of Social and Rehabilitation Services.

Marissa also shared information on which car seats and infant swings to buy and passed along leftover baby formula, Pedialyte and diapers. From Jenni’s weekly visits, Katie has learned more about tummy time and soothing techniques.

The intention of the Healthy Families program is to prevent child abuse through supporting families that have multiple stressors in their homes: high poverty rates, single parents or young moms.

Lawrence teen embarks on journey of motherhood

For four months, the Journal-World and 6News followed Katie Schimmel as she prepared for and took on the responsibility of teenage motherhood. During that time, her life was roiling with change — from her on-again, off-again relationship with Mike to her health. Enlarge video

“If you would want me to go with you to one of those doctor’s appointments, I would be more than happy to go,” Jenni offers to Katie when the two meet a month after Nicolas is born.

“ ... If you have questions you are uncomfortable asking,” Jenni continues.

Katie is one of nine families Jenni visits. She is there to give rides to job interviews and doctor’s appointments, help fill out state assistance forms or just hand over the phone when a phone call needs to be made.

Many of the clients that Healthy Families serves are similar to Katie: young mothers with unplanned pregnancies in rocky relationships and unstable living situations.

“Often overwhelmed” is how Jenni describes them.

It’s complicated

While Katie never admits to being overwhelmed, she does express frustration.

Since Nicolas arrived in December, the two have shared a bedroom in the back corner of her dad’s mobile home. On Katie’s walls are pictures of Tweety Bird, horses and SpongeBob SquarePants. There is also graffiti in bright magic marker, a plastic black rose and gaping holes where the trailer’s insulation shows through.

Technically, Katie says, she is a single mom. The label is a difficult one to attach because Katie has moved back and forth between her dad’s mobile home and the duplex where her boyfriend, Mike Glynos, lives.

Mike and Katie met on the school bus in 11th grade. The two have been in a roller-coaster relationship since.

When things are good between them, Katie brings Nicolas to Mike’s west Lawrence home. Mike’s mom, two brothers and a roommate also live in the three-bedroom house. Mike, Katie and the baby have set up quarters in the loft.

When the arguing starts and the relationship begins to crumble, Katie retreats to her dad’s mobile home. While a visitation schedule for Nicolas has been discussed, it isn’t followed.

“It is just kind of up in the air. When he comes, he comes,” Mike’s mom, Monique Glynos, says. “So it’s hard to plan things.”

At times, Katie has threatened to file for child support and worries that she’ll have to fight a custody battle. Before the baby was born, Mike’s mom bought a stroller and car seat for Nicolas. Other than that, Katie says, there has been little financial support.

Overwhelmed

“I’m going for child support. I actually decided today. I’m not going to be nice anymore,” Katie says.

The comment is made in early February, amid a flurry of chores: bath time, washing a sink full of bottles, doing laundry, feeding the cats.

She rocks Nicolas’ swing with the ball of her foot while she puts clean sheets on the mattress in the baby’s crib.

Life as a teenage mother: Learning every day

For teenage mother Katie Schimmel, every day provides learning experiences and challenges. Enlarge video

“Before I had a kid, I was an extreme multitasker,” she says.

The past few days have been rough. Nicolas visited the emergency room because he kept throwing up. He had a virus and needed Pedialyte to stay hydrated.

Part of the $357 Katie receives from SRS each month has disappeared. She thinks an acquaintance might have stolen it. If she doesn’t get it back, she will have to start selling belongings. The month before, Katie borrowed $75 from her grandparents to buy baby supplies.

And things are bad with Mike, who wasn’t taking Nicolas on the weekends like he said he would, Katie claims.

Part of the pressure for Katie to seek child support comes from SRS. By law, for people to receive cash assistance, they must seek child support if the father is considered an absentee parent.

“If they are not going to help me, then I’m not going to sit around,” Katie says that day.

Back together

A few weeks later, Katie and Mike’s relationship has improved.

“He’s being a lot nicer to me. It’s weird,” she says. “It makes everything a lot easier.”

By the end of February, Katie is staying at Mike’s house for a few days. They have pledged to get back together.

Mike and his mom say they “absolutely” want to be part of Nicolas’ life. It was Mike who proposed Cobain, after ’90s grunge rocker Kurt Cobain, for the baby’s middle name.

“He is probably the most important thing right now,” Mike says of Nicolas. “I love him more than anything.”

Monique calls Katie “an impressive young mom” who has been able to tap into “all the resources Lawrence has to offer.”

But with no car, job, high school diploma or place of their own, Katie and Mike weren’t prepared to have a baby, Monique said.

Complicating parenthood are Katie and Mike’s disabilities. Both have seizures, and Mike has a sleep deprivation disorder. Neither one has been able to get a driver’s license. For Katie, that means using Lawrence’s public bus system or relying on others for rides.

“Neither one were ready for this,” Monique said. “All of a sudden adulthood has jumped right in front of them and said, ‘This is how it is going to be. And it is hard.’”

Growing up

On a sunny but brisk February day, Katie prepares to make the 10-minute walk to Lawrence Memorial Hospital for Nicolas’ checkup.

“I can’t believe he’s 2 months already,” she says.

Today, things are good for Katie. She and Mike are getting along. And, for the first time, she mentions that she wants to join the Coast Guard when Nicolas is older.

She is full of advice for teenage moms: Don’t go into delivery without an epidural; access the Healthy Families program; don’t buy cheap binkies; and cut the baby’s fingernails while he is sleeping.

In the past few months, Katie has applied for work at Walmart, Target and Kohl’s. She is still looking. Maybe she’ll be a waitress or find a job at Checkers, where her friends like to work.

She still needs to pay off the medical bills that accrued, about $2,000 worth, from her pregnancy before the state’s health insurance program kicked in.

With a new baby and the snowy weather, she said it’s been too hard to stay with the high school completion program. She has decided to get her GED instead.

She continues to talk about getting a place on her own with the help of the federally funded Section 8 housing program.

A job, an apartment and a better relationship are all things that Mike and Monique want as well.

“What I honestly wish for these two is that they could find a way to get along and make it work as a couple for the baby,” Monique said. “They have a hard time coming together like that, but, hopefully, with a little bit of maturity they will find a way.”

This spring, Katie wants to visit her sister and mom in Florida and work on losing the extra baby weight. In May, she is scheduled to get an IUD for birth control.

“I don’t want another kid,” she says.

Katie says this all while packing the baby bag with diapers. She then bundles Nicolas up in a blue Winnie the Pooh snowsuit and covers him with a white blanket.

Because the stroller is too bulky to make the trip and the baby has already outgrown the shoulder sling, Katie carries Nicolas in her arms as she cuts through the snow-covered mobile home park and crosses a wooden bridge that leads to the hospital.

As Nicolas grows up, so will Katie.

Comments

Paula Kissinger 4 years, 9 months ago

Simply, the baby's parents are still children and will be in that mental mode for a long time as they have more than seizure disorders...they have mental health issues and the father has actual health issues as well. Their own parents are not much help emotionally or financially although one of them is, or was, financially capable of providing more support not too long ago. Michael is qualified for SSI but apparently no one directly involved with this situation has managed to figure that out yet. I know Michael's family but I don't speak to them anymore or I would pass this information along.

A child support order should be obtained immediately. I laughed out loud when, in the previous article, the father's father insisted that he not sign the birth certificate as though that was going to preclude him from any responsibility. Evidently he is not living in this day when DNA tests are mandated. It will be up to the mother and the court system to enforce the child support order and I hope they do.

Did anyone wonder why the SRS is not on this mother's doorstep investigating the living conditions for that child ? Leaking insulation in the winter ? Did the LJWorld know that by depicting these sub-standard living conditions and lack of funds for the child's welfare they were setting this girl up to possibly lose her child to the SRS ? Could be a better chance for a better life for him though......

Dysfunctionality breeds dysfunctionality as you can see here...it is on the 3rd generation now. I don't understand the purpose of the story other than this is a part of life and this is what this girl is living. This is not news and did not belong on the front page of the Sunday newspaper. Most people are aware of this existing in society and has been "the norm" for quite some time. If the intent was to show what kind of life lies ahead for teenagers who have children under these conditions I doubt it will have little impact. Kids are going to do what they want to do and if they do not have good support from the adults in their lives this usually is the scenario. It also happens when kids have emotional issues that they refuse to deal with and insist on doing it "their way".

From the sound of the article Katie's only support is from a girl her own age so I doubt she will learn much about actual child care and responsibility other than how to "milk" the system. It is a shame that those of us that have lived decent lives must pay for those who have not and that we will have to continue to do so by paying for their kids and their kids' kids and so on...and so on...and so on....

katie_bear 4 years, 9 months ago

pitbullgrandma-- if you have known my boyfriends family before then why do you tak bad on them in the paper. this is news. its happening around the world and other teen moms need to know how hard it is and will be. michael does know about ssi. he has filled out for it. and you saying srs will take away my baby. they have no right because i do support my son. he is in a healthy living place. you dont know me or any time about me so you can just keep your two cent to your self.

kittycatty26 4 years, 9 months ago

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beatrice 4 years, 9 months ago

Katie, don't read these comments! Just don't! And certainly don't respond to them! You really don't want to know what people have to say about your situation, either specifically or about teen pregnancy in general. It won't be pretty.

You have been warned.

Paula Kissinger 4 years, 9 months ago

Well Katie, I'm glad to hear that Michael is finally doing something constructive with his life. Now he can give you some money so that you can get out of that trailer and find a decent place to live for you and your son. That would most likely be in Section 8 housing. I hope you have applied for it. Did you apply for SSI as well ? I think you would be entitled also. You most likely would be eligible for Medicaid as well but, then, you should have applied for that the day you found out you were pregnant. You wouldn't have any medical bills now.

My point is that you and Michael, cannot even maintain a decent relationship much less try to raise a child. You are emotionally, educationally and financially unable to do what is basically necessary to take care of yourselves. If this were not true you each would be living independently, not with parents. Michael's mom's place is much better suited to house a child than your Dad's place...fact. Babies get sick enough by themselves in the best of situations much less living in conditions where there is insufficient heating/cooling...fact. By agreeing to do this newspaper story you have set yourself up for these comments and intrusions into your life...fact.

I have known Michael for a long time and know that his heart is in the right place but good intentions do not monetarily support an individual or a family. His dysfunctional life will not get better until he figures out that he can do better for himself and finds some good medical and mental health help. Holding on to the idea that you can do what you want should eventually be overgrown with what you need and, now, what others need from you. Normally, the human brain does not fully mature until around the age of 25. You and Michael have a long way to go and definitely need a lot of help along the way. There are many services available to both of you to get yourselves together and move forward successfully into the future, thanks to responsible citizens like myself. It will not be easy but you must now put your son first for the rest of your lives. If you don't do that then he will end up like you and Michael or worse...that, also, is a fact.

ksarmychick 4 years, 9 months ago

katie_bear (anonymous) says... to kansasperson-- thanks. i know people will say what they want to say and i don't let it bug me. so what im a teen mom. i am not poor. i can support my son and maybe me and his dad fight a lot. we still get along. so people say what you wish cause it wont bug me a single bit

-katie


Really? From the looks of where you are living, you are poor. You don't have a job, a car, or a place to live that isn't falling apart. From this article I get that you are recieving government assistance, so you aren't supporting him, I and every person working is supporting him. You are planning on applying for section 8 housing, which mean the tax payers will be providing you with shelter. You don't even have sheets on your bed, thats disgusting. Being a teen mom isn't and shouldn't be an excuse of why you CHOSE not to finish high school. From your comment you should get off your butt, get a job, and support your own family. Quit lying to yourself and pretending that you support your own child when you don't.

Truami 4 years, 9 months ago

I don't believe the living conditions are that bad (for SRS to come in and take the child). If a cat can raise 4 - 8 kittens in the outdoors, I believe one 18 year old girl can take care of a child in a mobile home with a few holes in the wall (especially with the amount of networking already established by the new mother).

Truami 4 years, 9 months ago

Also, the reason that our newspaper would decide to post this article is inspiration. Here is a short list of people whom I believe will look at this story for hope. 1. Young Mothers (expanding beyond the teen years to the mid-twenties, affecting mothers who are overwhelmed and need to see that they are not alone in this world) 2. People with medical disorders (just because she has a kid does not mean that she only shows hope for people with children but all people who have to multitask in a life with specific diathesis that they have no control over ) 3. People who are poor 4. People who are rich (and might need a story to show them a larger world than their immediate community) 5. 25 year old on again and off again college male (this is my last example because it shows me, someone without a child, who has his own place, has a high school diploma and enough college experience to be equal to a graduate, has a job, has no medical ailments, but still needs just a little bit of inspiration to go on with his day)

Please, before spreading more negativity, read a philosophy book or take into consideration other people in, if not the world around you, the community around you.

denak 4 years, 9 months ago

Katie,

A few things:

The books "What to expect during the first year" and "Touchstones" are both excellant books to help you understand what your son is going through during the first year. There will be a lot of moments in his life....not just the first year...when you wonder what planet he came down from....these books will help demystify some of the process for you.

Two, I realize you want to make things work with your son's father, but you have to think of him first. The sad reality is that statistics show that most unwed fathers are out of their child's life three years after birth. So, if you haven't applied for child support, do it. I know you are going back and forth on that subject but it isn't about being "nice" or "mean" or anything else, it is about getting what your child needs...which is adequate support.

Three, as others have states, your living conditions aren't that great. You really need to go down to the Housing Authority and apply for Edgewood or Section 8. Right now, the description of the trailor doesn't sound all that great. It might be fine now, when the baby can't walk, but once he starts walking, there is the chance that he will eat the insulation. So, please do that.

Fourth, I strongly encourage you to go back to school or get your GED. I know it is hard. I am a single mom also. It isn't easy but getting your GED and the college education is the only surefire way of making sure your son gets what he needs in life. As I said, it is hard but the sense of satisfaction you get will be immesuarable plus it increases your son's chances of finishing school also.

Dena

HoneyDew 4 years, 9 months ago

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luvleeone 4 years, 9 months ago

I really don't understand the point of this story at all... I was 15yrs old when I had my first child I was 16yrs old when I got my first job and was still in high school, I was 17 when I moved out on my own held that job until I was 18yrs old, all at the same time of being a single mother with no help! I then had my second child when was 19yrs old still no help this story has nothing to do with how hard it is to be a young mother... it seems to me they are just focusing on how bad her situation is and everything she's not doing or doesn't have instead of what she should or could be doing for her son! family support helps anyone in any situation but your child will depend on you not your family the mother is going to be the one doing for that child when no one else is! Katie really needs to step up it's hard being "young" and having a child but that doesn't mean its the end of the world! it means you need to grow up and step up do what ever it is you need to do to get things done for you and your child don't depend on welfare to support you do it yourself and stop being around people who is going to take your only support you have from you! stop worrying about the father of that baby and worry bout your son his father may or may not stick around only time will tell but that baby is ALWAYS going to be there and be number one in your life nothing else matters after that... no matter what any one says on this comment board its up to katie to step up and do what she needs to! This could have been a way better story if they wanted to do a story about teen mothers they should really try to inspire them by showing IT CAN BE DONE! not by putting a story on the front page about how this single mother doesn't have this and doesn't have that! it just makes her look lazy

yankeevet 4 years, 9 months ago

So why are their so many single moms in this country?

amourmollete 4 years, 9 months ago

pitbullgrandma- you make some good points. the friend that you had talked about is me. my name is marissa and i have a 8 month old son named oliver and no i am not in the same place she is, i am married and my husband as a great job and we support ourselves. but that aside, yes this article was not the most flattering and yes there are things katie should be doing different but the bottom line is that she DOES love nick, i know because i am her best friend and i will always be there for her and she knows it. she does what she has to for her son and right now this is what she's able to do, she has a lot more potential but it takes time, it took me and my husband some time to get our acts together even after oliver came. but we finally did and its not impossible. so to everyone who is saying negative things, the point of this article was not to bash on katie, it was to show how hard it can be and how much teenagers should really really think before having sex. i love my son and my husband with all my heart but of course i still wish i was more careful. katie you know your doing whats best for you right now so keep at it and you know i'm right there for ya.

damnitimpissed 4 years, 9 months ago

This is a bit too much of people's personal lives laid out for the community imho

elkelli 4 years, 9 months ago

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lawrencechick 4 years, 9 months ago

There is no doubt that while not ideal, this situation has played over millions of times. The good news is Lawrence has a tremendous amount of support, unlike many communities. Katie has to realize that the only two that matter right now are her and her son, and while it may be unfair, she is the one who will be responsible for molding his future. He must be the priority in every decision. One thing I would say to Katie is please, scrutinize every person that comes into your son's life and make sure they would not hurt him.

crissamber 4 years, 9 months ago

I recall another pregnancy article a few months ago that didn't receive and rude comments bashing the parents on their living conditions or the fact that they don't plan on more education after they graduate high school. Yet, the first pregnancy article didn't go into nearly this much detail, they didn't follow them around for 4 months. Katie, if you didn't want people to get rude and bring up your disugsting living conditions then maybe you shouldn't have done this article. Especially letting them take a picture of your son laying on a bed without sheets in a disgusting room. Get a job, get your child out of that trailor. Like, whom ever it was that said this first, if you don't move out, before you know it, your child will be rolling around, crawling, walking, anything and watch, he'll start eating that insulation.

crissamber 4 years, 9 months ago

I recall another pregnancy article a few months ago that didn't receive and rude comments bashing the parents on their living conditions or the fact that they don't plan on more education after they graduate high school. Yet, the first pregnancy article didn't go into nearly this much detail, they didn't follow them around for 4 months. Katie, if you didn't want people to get rude and bring up your disugsting living conditions then maybe you shouldn't have done this article. Especially letting them take a picture of your son laying on a bed without sheets in a disgusting room. Get a job, get your child out of that trailor. Like, whom ever it was that said this first, if you don't move out, before you know it, your child will be rolling around, crawling, walking, anything and watch, he'll start eating that insulation.

aletheia 4 years, 9 months ago

I wish I had more time to rebut many of the negative, judgmental comments being made toward this young mother. However, I do have time for one ...

It seems that most of the posts have overlooked the most innocent victim in this discourse. A beautiful, baby boy who is full of innocence and wonder at this stage of his life. Even though the statistics are grim, all any child truly needs are te basic necessities of life (food, shelter, medical care), unconditional love, and a supportive, nurturing environment. Thankfully, the mother has already proven that these things are important to her and thank goodness there are agencies out there willing to assist in any way they can.

No matter what opinion you may have about the mother, it is important not to miss the point. There is a child at stake. One who does not have a voice and who needs all the support he can get. Arguing about what should've been done is a moot point. It's more constructive to offer support, training, and yes, if necessary, whatever government resources are available to assist in providing this child an opportunity to succeed. He deserves it.

ChristineMetz 4 years, 9 months ago

Hi,

For those who have questions about why the Lawrence Journal-World and 6News did a story about Katie - here's a link to a comment I made in another thread.

http://www2.ljworld.com/news/2010/feb/28/teenager-mother/#c1165704

Thanks for your interest and comments. Christine Metz Special Projects Reporter Lawrence Journal-World

LoveThsLife 4 years, 9 months ago

I wish Katie the best..that is a long tough road. I hope she gets the love and support she needs so that she can take of that beautiful little baby.

Amy Bartle 4 years, 9 months ago

I'm glad to see this article and plan to share and discuss it with my young teen. Thank you to the young mother for sharing all the hardships you have had to face and thank you Christine for writing the article. I hope young people who read it will get a clearer picture of how hard it is to raise a child with few resources.

angpryncss2 4 years, 9 months ago

I am Michael's mother, Monique. I don't like the article and was only recently told that the reporters have been following Katie throughout her pregnancy (at Nicolas' birth to be exact). I also don't believe it belonged on the front page of the Sunday paper either. The CHILDREN are both far too immature for parenthood and I warned them of this for the past 2 years. However, a baby did come into our lives and he is very loved! Katie and Nicolas are ALWAYS welcome at my home! They lived here for 3 weeks after Nicolas was born. Yes, it was hectic, but worth it. As far as Michael not living up to his end of the bargain about child visitation is a joke! It was my idea to set up the every other weekend and Wednesday nights. As the first weekend approached, we were told by Katie that Nicolas would not be visiting. This was frustrating but nothing I could do about it at the time. We have decided to let the courts decide all those details. I have also offered Katie and Nicolas my home permanently but again the offer is never taken. So for now we will see him when we can. Also, I will provide diapers, wipes, formula, transportation etc. when I'm able to do it (until Michael can find employment) and Katie knows this. I always offer to provide transportation but it is never asked for! So, if she is tracking through snow and below freezing temps, that is her decision! I often ask her "Why didn't you call me?" As far as my son having health issues, that is true, so what. Michael is actively looking for employment. He understands that child support is something he will have to pay for the next 18-19 years. His own father still owes me over $50K in arrears. He is very aware of how much child support helps the family financially and has never disputed helping. As I was in the hospital room when the BC issue came up, I encouraged Michael to sign it. Yes, there's always questions about paternity in this type of situation. We will find out soon enough if Michael really is the father. In all honesty, I do question it, and I'm sorry to say that but it's the truth. It was his deadbeat father (the one who still owes $50K in arrears), who told him not to sign it and made a big issue about it. This man was never really in Michael's life growing up and it shows! In Michael's defense, he has a good heart and is trying to figure this whole thing out. I think that in time they will both mature and make better decisions. In closing I will say that Katie is an impressive young mother with what she does have to offer my grandson, Nicolas. However, I wish she would depend on us more and the system less. We are here for her, always have been and she is aware of this! I love you Michael, Katie and Nicolas. But for the future, let's keep our private lives just that, PRIVATE, not on the front page of the newspaper!

Christine Anderson 4 years, 9 months ago

So, paternal grandma, it sounds like you and Mike are threatening Katie with taking her son away? (You say you will "let the courts decide those details) With the Healthy Families support worker coming into Katie's home, she is a mandated reporter. Meaning, if she sees something that seems to be threatening Nicholas, she is required to report it, and she would have by now. It seems to me this girl realizes that she can't do it on her own, and so she has wisely reached out for help. Personally, I hope she does get Section 8 ASAP. There is, of course, a waiting list. I also hope that if your son isn't going to be (or is unable to be) a better father than his own that the courts relegate him (and you) to a non-threatening place in Katie and Nicholas' lives.

angpryncss2 4 years, 9 months ago

What? Where did you see that I was threatening anything? Reread! We only want more time with Nicolas. Apparently you missed the part where I said she was an "impressive young mother" or the part where I said "I love you" LOL...

Sunny Parker 4 years, 9 months ago

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amourmollete 4 years, 9 months ago

Monique, I'm sure you don't mean to come off sounding like your a threatening but it does in fact sound like you are. Everyone knows that of course you love Nick and of course you love Mikey, and Mikey is trying regardless of what people say, and Katie is trying to make things work as well. But the facts are that even Mikey knew about the story when Katie first started, so why he didn't tell you? I don't know, to me that sounds foolish. I agree that this is really a private matter but it's a little too late for that now. And as for you purchasing things for Nick, the only things that Katie has mentioned you buying for him is the car seat and stroller (which are two very important pieces of baby gear) and she has told me multiple times when she needs to go re-stock on necessities such as wipes and diapers and formula and not once has she ever said that you contributed to it at all. Which honestly is Ok because it's not your child you shouldn't be responsible for providing for him. And weather or not your choose to like this article or not it's really not your call because its Katie's the only thing in your power about it is to not be a part of it.

angpryncss2 4 years, 9 months ago

Marissa, it actually is my call to like a story or not . All I'm saying is that if Katie asks for help I'm there for her and Nicolas...that's all. Unfortunately, she doesn't ask. Take Care

angpryncss2 4 years, 9 months ago

I see Sunny's post was deleted. The one comment of support for us is deleted...funny how this works. I just want the best for my grandson. I will not be posting again. Hope you all can find happiness in your lives. Best of wishes!

fudgystuff 4 years, 9 months ago

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