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New parents look forward to challenges and joys ahead

Stacy Bain, left, holds her new baby Alexa Elizabeth, the first baby of 2009, born in Lawrence. Alexa's father at right is Dustin Tregnago. Alexa was born Thursday afternoon at Lawrence Memorial Hospital.

By Nick Nelson

January 2, 2009

Oh baby! Couple welcomes Lawrence's first child of 2009

Alexa Elizabeth Bain was born at 2:26 Thursday afternoon to Stacy Bain and Dustin Tregnago. Enlarge video

The new year brought a new addition to a local couple.

Stacy Bain, of Ness City, gave birth to Alexa Elizabeth Bain at 2:26 p.m. Thursday at Lawrence Memorial Hospital, making her Lawrence’s first baby of 2009.

“I figured there would be somebody else in the hospital, but they told me I was the only one in labor today,” Bain said. “I really didn’t know what to expect to go along with it either. It’s exciting.”

Despite some fatigue and a little pain, Bain said she was surprised to be feeling so well just a few hours after the birth. Alexa was doing fine, too, weighing a healthy 6 pounds, 9 ounces and measuring 20 inches long.

Bain said she would forgo her classes at Kansas University to take on the task of motherhood, but she’s looking forward to the sacrifice. Alexa’s father, Dustin Tregnago, of Moberly, Mo., agreed.

“I’ve just got to lose some sleep over it, but I think it will be worth it,” Tregnago said with a smile while little Alexa slept in his arms. Tregnago also is a KU student and plans to graduate in the fall.

There’s more that comes with being the city’s New Year’s Baby than just the title. Alexa received plenty of goodies as well. Representatives from Babies “R” Us were on hand to present the family with a basket valued at around $50 that included a onesie, diapers and a gift certificate. The Safe Kids organization contributed two safety gates, and LMH chipped in with toys, clothing and education certificates — all of that, not to mention expected donations from local merchants that usually accompany the year’s first child.

“I just feel really blessed that I get to have my own little girl, and that I’ll be able to teach her a lot of good, right things,” Bain said.

“And what a cool 21st birthday to have,” she said of Alexa. “New Year’s Eve, you get to go out and have fun.”

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2 January 2009
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ottmike (Anonymous) says…

Great! Another child out of wedlock! I'll bet HER parents are estatic!
2 January 2009
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brew_crew122 (Anonymous) says…

ottmike- This isn't the 50's anymore….get out of your parents basement and check out the real world.
2 January 2009
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mamsir (Anonymous) says…

congratulations to them. :) it sounds like they actually care about taking care of their child and are putting it first priority. they are also recognizing how much work it takes to be a parent but are willing to take on the task. you can't plan everything - things happen - and at the very least it sounds like this new little one will have two parents that care about her very much.
2 January 2009
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flux (Anonymous) says…

HA HA ottmike lives in his parents basement.
2 January 2009
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

Hey brew-The 50's weren't all bad!Perhaps the 'contest' can be reworded to say 'City's first baby born to a legal, legitimate family.'
2 January 2009
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Azure_Attitude (Anonymous) says…

Congrats and best wishes to the family!!Illegal? What? Did she steal the sperm?Some of us don't subscribe to your definition of legitimacy burger.What an a-hole!!!
2 January 2009
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smitty (Anonymous) says…

The photo says quite a bit…..daddy is lovingly watching his new born while Mommy is lovingly watching Daddy's face full of emotions.Congratulations to this young family.

2 January 2009
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Multidisciplinary (Anonymous) says…

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2 January 2009
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Buggie7 (Anonymous) says…

Congrats to baby Bain and proud parents!!!!
2 January 2009
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Dejacrew423 (Anonymous) says…

Congrats to the baby and her parents. Not sure her mom should be so excited that her daughter gets to go out drinking in 21 years but hey, atleast she said 21 and not 18 or something else. Guess I shouldn't be a stick in the mud. I have two little girls and I dread their teen and early 20 years. Guess that's because I was not too long ago a teenage girl and remember the crap I did in my earlier 20's. What is it they say, your kids going to be 3 times worse then you were. If that's the case, we're talking the next Thelma and Louise
2 January 2009
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morganlefay (Anonymous) says…

Congratulations to this couple and their families!The same people who have been discriminating against illegitimate children on these boards lately are probably the same people who supported Sarah Palin's pregnant teenage daughter. You people make me sick. It's the 21st century now and a lot of you out there still need to get used to it.
2 January 2009
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

Azure-No, I was just thinking ahead to eventual possibilities - do we shower the first baby of the year with gifts if the parents are illegal immigrants? Should there be some parameters? Just wondering.Sorry that everyone that doesn't agree with you is an a-hole!
2 January 2009
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Dejacrew423 (Anonymous) says…

morgan, sounds like you're the one who can't get over bashing Sarah Palin, why else would you bring it up? If you really want to see if the same people 'bashing' this family are people who 'supported' Sarah Palin's daughter then go through their past comments. It'd at least help you prove your point. Happy 2009!
2 January 2009
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Coach_Eric (Anonymous) says…

Congrats to them…but sorry you won't get the tax break until next year!
2 January 2009
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Dejacrew423 (Anonymous) says…

No kidding, bummer. I love my November baby!

2 January 2009
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denak (Anonymous) says…

To the parents: Congratulations on your new baby! Relax and enjoy your child. Each age brings challenges but also numerous rewards. Your child is going to teach you so much more than you will teach her over the years. Enjoy her while you have her because 18 comes way to fast. To all the naysayers: Children do well in a home where there are functional adults. How functional the adults are does not necessarily depend on their marital status. Yes, legally the baby is in a slightly better position if the parents are married and that point should not be dismissed. However, how well this child turns out is going to depend on how empathetic the parents are to the child's needs, how willing the parents are to sacrafice for the child, how willing they are to set up appropriate boundaries and maintain positive discipline and how well they are able to provide for the basics in life.This child is not automatically doomed simply and solely because her parents aren't married. Long term studies show that *most* children of single parents turn out fine.And don't read to much into the word, “most” as if it proves your point. There will be some children who fall through the cracks, just like there are some children whose parents are married and fall through the cracks.How well a child turns out depends on environment, personality, genetics and good(or bad) parenting.The parents seem to be taking responsibility for her and if they continue to do so, she will turn out fine.Dena
2 January 2009
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Dejacrew423 (Anonymous) says…

Thank you Child psychologist Denak! I wasn't married to my husband when we got pregnant with our first daughter. His family thought we were the biggest sinners in the world, my family just kinda thought, stuff happens. We got married before we had our second daughter when my oldest was 1 and a half. For me personally I feel like, to each their own. The best thing that child could have is people that love them and it seems like she's got that.
2 January 2009
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womanwarrior (Anonymous) says…

Supporting Palin's out of wedlock baby and supporting her mother are 2 different things. Her daughter is just an example of why abstinence only, which Palin preaches, does not work. Although I don't agree with Palin's politics, I think her granddaughter will be loved and cared for.Congratulations to the new baby. All babies should be loved in or out of wedlock, and you two look like you love this baby. It helps to have 2 parents present, but it doesn't mean a cilld is doomed because there isn't. Studies don't take into account of why the parent is single. It could be the single parent has a hard time forming relationships, which would make them bad parents anyway, married or not. I've never heard these studies take that into consideration.
2 January 2009
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

Thank you to those who have noted that 'it's the 21st century' and 'this isn't the 50's anymore.' Does this mean that the word 'illegitimate' has taken on a different meaning?
2 January 2009
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womanwarrior (Anonymous) says…

The people who like to condemn children born out of wedlock are usually the ones who are anti-choice. This mother made her choice, so get over it. Would you prefer she had an abortion? Geez Louise!!! Get your holier than thou attitudes out and flush them please.
2 January 2009
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

For what it's worth, I do hope for the best for the child. I hope the parents are in love and this wasn't a 'woops'. I am aware there are some good parents who aren't married and some bad ones that are. I just hope, for the child's sake, that it is a stable household in which to grow up in.
2 January 2009
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

woman-Is that the only choice? How about keeping your pants zipped? How about using contraceptives? Don't get yourself in those predicaments to begin with, and you won't have to make those tough decisions!
2 January 2009
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MaryKatesPillStash (Anonymous) says…

What if they are married, and she just didn't take his last name?What if, despite being unmarried, this was a planned pregnancy?What if they are married, but this is an unplanned pregnancy?Everyone who reads this article and immediately starts grumbling about “illegitimate children,” please rank the above in order of least despicable to most despicable.The fact that a person can even label a child as “illegitimate” is disgusting to me. A wedding ring makes a child legit? Please. How bent is your logic?

2 January 2009
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Yabut (Anonymous) says…

“I just feel really blessed that I get to have my own little girl, and that I’ll be able to teach her a lot of good, right things,” Bain said.Good, right things, like having babies without being married to the daddy?
2 January 2009
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Yabut (Anonymous) says…

And for those of you questioning legitimate vs. illegitimate, historically, only legitimate children could inherit their fathers' estates. That has changed, and the illegit child is no less important than the one who is. It's as it should be. However, there are those of us who wish the parents of these children would commit to each other before committing to a child for the rest of his/her life.
2 January 2009
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mom_of_three (Anonymous) says…

right, Yabut, like marriage means a life long commitment. Congratulations to the parents. It's great they are committed to their child, and maybe they will commit to each other. But if they don't, it doesn't mean they won't both continue to be there for their child.
2 January 2009
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Bassetlover (Anonymous) says…

There is absolutely no shame anymore. Anything goes. No accountability. And how dare anyone pass judgment. If this couple chooses not to marry, let's see how Alexa feels about that when she becomes old enough to know better–that is, if she is taught that lesson. Sad.
2 January 2009
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mom_of_three (Anonymous) says…

bassetlover - stop being so self righteous. Our eldest attended our wedding over 18 years ago. She knows it wasn't in the order we necessarily wanted, but before we rushed into the 2nd biggest decision of our life, we wanted to make sure it was the right one, or she would be the one who would suffer. My hubby and I are high school sweethearts, but wasn't going to rush into marriage. We lived together during the pregnancy, shared everything, and got married when she was 8 months old.
2 January 2009
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Bassetlover (Anonymous) says…

Mom_of_three –-You just validated my point on the passing judgment issue so thank you for that. Your situation is the exception, not the rule,
2 January 2009
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mwwag (Anonymous) says…

Are people not being taught in life that if you can not say something nice then don't say a word? The marital status of the parents doesn't matter. Would it have changed peoples opinions if this couple had decided to get married as soon as they found out they were pregnant? There are many couples who do that and a lot of the times they end up divorced later on in life. I say congrats to the new parents and may God bless them.
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cheeseburger (Anonymous) says…

mwwag says “Would it have changed peoples opinions if this couple had decided to get married as soon as they found out they were pregnant?”No, but it would have changed my mind if the couple had decided to get married before they jumped in the sack!

2 January 2009
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jehovah_bob (Anonymous) says…

Congratulations Stacy, you are now a MILF.
2 January 2009
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mwwag (Anonymous) says…

cheeseburgerDo you realize the percent of people who choose to wait to have sex until after marriage is very low now days. My husband and I lived together for months before we got married and knew that we wanted to have kids early in our marriage so we decided to come off birth control after we got engaged and we got pregnant before the wedding. People have the choice to choose for themselves what the right way is for them. Each and every situation is different.
2 January 2009
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womanwarrior (Anonymous) says…

So, cheeseburger and bassetlover, do you only associate with virgins and married people? You could move to a backward country where they stone women who get pregnant without marrying.
2 January 2009
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mbtbet (Anonymous) says…

I want to thank those who have written positive and supportive comments. As someone very close to this child I will say I have never seen a baby surrounded by so many people who love her and am even happier to see strangers that are on her side now too.
2 January 2009
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Yabut (Anonymous) says…

While it's true that the divorce rate is currently something around 60%, I bet the rate for couples who have kids unmarried and break up is even higher. Mom of 3: Glad you didn't want to “rush into marriage”. Too bad you “rushed into” sex you weren't sure you wanted to spend the rest of your life with.
2 January 2009
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imnotyoo (Molly Lang) says…

How does Lawrence know that this was the first Lawrencian born this year? There could have been a homebirth baby born before this one. Just sayin'…
2 January 2009
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womanwarrior (Anonymous) says…

Yabut, were you a virgin when you married? Was your husband/wife? Are you sure? Not all of us are so pure and holy as you.
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mom_of_three (Anonymous) says…

Yabut, you are a jerk, making assumptions.We dated for several years, and didn't rush into anything. We, too, were in college. Ever heard of a happy accident? An unplanned pregnancy is stressful enough, and didn't feel that a marriage would be helpful at that moment. It didn't lessen the committment we had to each other, and which we still have, eighteen years later.

2 January 2009
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mom_of_three (Anonymous) says…

Alexa is a beautiful baby, and both her parents look very proud and happy. No doubt she will have loads of love.
2 January 2009
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misplacedcheesehead (Anonymous) says…

Beautiful baby! I wish baby, Mom, and Dad the best. I do hope, though, that mom will eventually get to finish her education.And hey, this young man is there, instead of running away, or denying the mother and the baby. This surely does speak positively for his character. Yes, I know it's better if parents are married, BUT- the overall most important thing is that the baby be loved and well cared for, and it looks like these two parents are prepared to do that.Having sex when you don't happen to be married does not make a person bad or evil. It does make them human.
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glcookie06 (Anonymous) says…

Come on people..don't you have anything better to do than dog the family and the sweet little baby? Let's see what people would be saying if you were in their shoes. I say if it ain't broke why fix it? Let the couple enjoy there baby..they aren't the first one in their situation and they sure won't be the last.
3 January 2009
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Yabut (Anonymous) says…

I apologize if my comments seemed out of line. People I have known in similar circumstances have made me have a negative perception. In my experience, those who have kids and don't marry their baby daddy/mama have done so for 1 of 3 reasons:1. They can take advantage of welfare.2. They are waiting until they lose the baby weight so they can wear a pretty dress and have a big party.3. They aren't sure they want to marry this person and be with this person for the rest of their life. Unfortunately, they see nothing wrong with saddling a kid with that person for the rest of his or her life.NOTE: I am not implying that these reasons apply to this couple or MO3. I'm only saying that these have been the reasons people I have known personally have for not marrying their kids dad/mom. And I have a problem with that, because in each of these reasons it's all about “me” and not what's in the best interest of the kid.
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Yabut (Anonymous) says…

And MO3, I'm very glad that things worked out so well for your family. Sadly, you are the exception, not the rule.
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sbain21 (Anonymous) says…

Hello everyone-I am Stacy, the mother of Alexa and I would like to thank everyone for the well wishes and nice comments. But, as we all can see, there are some who are choosing to knock down the birth of my daughter. No, Alexa was not planned, but she has been the greatest gift and blessing in my life and I thank God everyday that I was lucky enough to be her mother. Yes, Dustin and I are not married and she is out of wedlock, but, I am NOT the first person in the world to have a baby out of wedlock, nor will I be the last. I am enjoying every second of being a mother, and reading those nasty comments about her being a “mistake” or whatever hurtful things you come up with make my experience worse. Don't judge a newborn baby, don't judge her father and I. We are taking responsibility for her life, and are doing the best we can. Until you are in the same shoes we are in, keep the rude comments to yourself, you maybe just don't blog them. As as for Ottmike: My parents were VERY thrilled that I was having a baby, so are Dustin's. No one has ever thought this was a bad thing, and I think you should start judging yourself instead of me and my newborn baby girl.