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Letters to the Editor

Mother’s choice

March 6, 2008

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To the editor:

In response to David Reynolds' Feb. 28 letter, I personally feel that it's almost sinful to bring a child into this world. Who could possibly wish the sin and destruction of this world upon the little innocents. For this reason alone I feel strongly for Roe v. Wade. Think about it; if given a choice, would you really want to be born?

Linda Hemphill,
Tonganoxie

Comments

stuckinthemiddle 6 years, 9 months ago

that's right, 75x55... give them all their daily doses of soma and they'll be happy to be alive...

craigers 6 years, 9 months ago

Why is this letter entitled Mother's choice? There would only be one choice that would lead to a woman being a mother and that would be life. Linda is advocating not bringing children into this world which would mean the ladies making that decision wouldn't be mothers. I know it's a technicality, but I believe the term mother is reserved for those that bring their child into this world and take care of them. A more appropriate title would be woman's choice.

Maybe I'm just in an argumentative mood today. I hope not cause that could make for a long workday!!!

thanksforcoming 6 years, 9 months ago

I am glad I was brought into this world, even when I think about it. It is the parents job to prepare their children for the shortcomings the world has to offer. If a woman decides she and her husband are not prepared to do that, then the choice is theirs. But the choice should come before the wife is pregnant. I don't think enough couples think about what they are doing before they are pregnant.

kansas778 6 years, 9 months ago

Linda wishes to spare innocents the sin and destruction of the world by destroying them...you liberals crack me up.

Jason Bowers-Chaika 6 years, 9 months ago

"Life, sigh, don't talk to me about life" --The depressed robot from Dr. Who.

What if God had the same mindset as the Op-ed writer? Would Jesus have been born? My point being that the world can be a sucky place but children can be the saving hope for a better world.

That said it is still the woman's choice and should be.

jafs 6 years, 9 months ago

A little bit of a diversion, but human beings and our actions are what are responsible for much of the state of "the world".

If we don't like it, we should change our actions, both individually and collectively. We have the cleverness and the power to create a different, better world if we so choose.

ksdivakat 6 years, 9 months ago

What a crock!! Is the LJW so desperate they have to print the insane ramblings of someone who is obviously so medicated that she doesnt make sense????!!!!!! Who in their right mind, would tell their children that they wish they would never have been born??? That they should have been aborted???? I will pray for your children Multidisciplinary, and hope they never find out you didnt want them.....that is a terrible thing for a child to live with....I know!!

saraheckman 6 years, 9 months ago

Why would I want to be born? To experience life and all of the suffering that goes along with it. For suffering produces character, and character produces endurance, and endurance produces hope. That alone might give us a reason to want to be alive.

OfficeGirl 6 years, 9 months ago

Linda, you need psychiatric intervention before you harm yourself. You truly sound suicidal to me.

gogoplata 6 years, 9 months ago

What is sinful is to kill a life created by God.

sourpuss 6 years, 9 months ago

"Life, sigh, don't talk to me about life" -The depressed robot from Dr. Who.

I'm pretty sure this is Marvin the Paranoid Android from the late, great Douglas Adams' Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy.

But, I never did watch Dr. Who.

Speakout 6 years, 9 months ago

In order for children to be good citizens and a good effect on society, you must raise them right. That is the problem, not the unborn child. Parents abdicate their responsibilities so they can go out, drink, do drugs or what ever while the child stays at home, sometimes alone, and plays violent video games.

trinity 6 years, 9 months ago

my mama had tubes tied&thought she was in the clear, 7 years before i came along! i'm really glad to be here.

i thought i had a bad cold or the flu, just before learning that my being sick was because i was carrying my precious youngest child! for a couple days her dad&i struggled if that was what we wanted/needed right at that particular time in our lives. and am i ever so glad now, that we decided what the heck let's have this kid! :) there aren't words to describe that wonderful blessing of a kid-well not a kid really, any more.

GSWtotheheart 6 years, 9 months ago

I'm glad I was born. Life has been hard with many ups and downs, but I'm glad to be here. Maybe Linda's mom should have aborted her since she doesn't seem to like this planet very much.

GSWtotheheart 6 years, 9 months ago

And...I think her letter was asinine. IMHO.

coolmarv 6 years, 9 months ago

Yeah, I got a 'letter for the editor'. It is "L" . I can't beleive they put that to print. Not because of it's content but because of how sad and pathetic this woman must be. I hope she does not have any children. If so, I would worry about their safety.

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

Yes, Linda, I would. While it may be "almost sinful to bring a child into this world" it is sinful to snuff out the life of that "innocent" while it is still in the assumed safety of it's mother's womb.

Sorry, craigers, I have to disagree with you. From the time a woman finds out she is "going to have a baby," she is a mother. She can be a mother that delivers and raises her child to the best of her ability, she can deliver her child and be too self-centered to put it's needs above her own, or she can display the ultimate self-centeredness and kill the child before it is born. The end of Linda's letter speaks volumes about her "what about me?" attitude.

Before determining that death would be better than "the sin and destruction of this world" women might consider that the life they so "lovingly" snuffed out might well have been someone who would make a big difference in this old fallen world.

One of my three children is disabled, and I also have a disabled grandchild. These are children that would be considered disposable by those who demand perfection of a child before giving birth to it. They are both wonderful human beings. They brighten whatever part of the world they are in (even when they are hospitalized). They have helped other and myself learn to be better people. Only God is capable of determining which lives should and should not be subjected to this world.

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

The cruel remarks aimed at MD are totally out of line. If you knew more about her you would know that she was not saying she should have aborted that child!! Unless you have sat with and lost your suffering child you should keep quiet.

Choosing not to have children is entirely different from choosing not to have an already conceived child that is growing within you.

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

blue, but I think I'm the lucky one. They take on the world every day and quite often kick it's butt :) Makes me ashamed of my "Pity Party" days.

dog_owner 6 years, 9 months ago

I am not sure what this woman's problem is but I think this letter should never have been published. Was there nothing else better to post?

Also, giving birth is not the only thing that makes you a mother. What about all of the step-moms and adoptive parents out there.

LJW....find something better to print next time.

Frederic Gutknecht IV 6 years, 9 months ago

May he who is without sin remove his stones first.

craigers 6 years, 9 months ago

Ceal and dog_owner, I should have elaborated a little more. A mother in my opinion is one that looks out for the child's best interests and cares for them all they can. Pregnancy and giving birth are big parts, but it is just like the fact that I don't think every guy that got somebody pregnant really qualifies as a father since they leave or don't care for the mother or child at all. All in all, I think mother and father are titles to be given to parents that give all they can to their children, instead of pushing them aside so they can do what makes them happy.

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

craigers, I see your point. There is more than one way of looking at it.

GSWtotheheart 6 years, 9 months ago

my reply was for the letter writer Linda, not md so stick that in your pipe and smoke it

blessed3x 6 years, 9 months ago

I agree with most of the people that have commented above. If I had it to do over, I certainly would not have brought any of my children into the world. The daily bombings, famines, bread lines, disease and pestilence that we all have to endure on a daily basis is too much for an innocent child.

Get a freakin' grip people!!!! You live in the safest, richest nation in the entire freakin' world. Your sorry a$$ can park it on you Lazy Boy couch with a bowl of Cap'n Crunch watching Judge Judy on your 42" plasma TV every day and get paid for it!!! Jobs are there for the taking and you can eat 24 hours a day if you want. Water supplies are safe and we live in a country and a world where beauty is everywhere. Live is a joy and treasure to share. I know it's difficult to understand from the desolate, destruction ridden vantage point of Lawrence, KS, but it is.

You people are buying into the doom and gloom victimization routine the media and our sorry a$$ politicians want you to believe. OH POOR PITIFUL ME!! MY LIFE IS BAD!! PLEASE MR. GOVERNMENT MAN, COME SAVE ME!!

You people are sorry!

ECM 6 years, 9 months ago

Hmmm I am guessing that Linda is a glass is completely empty kind of gal.

Hopefully she hasn't had children to pass along this mindset.

spammer89 6 years, 9 months ago

They way the world is today, my wife and I have made the choice not to have children. If we feel we need to fill a void in our life we will adopt a child that needs a helping hand and that child will be an a American adotion. Not an overseas adoption.

coolmarv 6 years, 9 months ago

You know, Marion? Just when I thought all the negative attention you get from others was maybe a little over the top you go and post something totally ignorant and distastefull. I would hope you would not really want her to use the link you provided. Find something useful to do with your spare time.

kansas778 6 years, 9 months ago

scenebooster--no, all liberals don't believe exactly like linda, but the methods of reasoning are always amusing.

adriennerm 6 years, 9 months ago

Your sorry a$$ can park it on you Lazy Boy couch with a bowl of Cap'n Crunch watching Judge Judy on your 42" plasma TV every day and get paid for it!!!

Now that's a great Thursday afternoon.

trinity 6 years, 9 months ago

lol adrienne-was just going to say sounds heavenly to me! ;) (only i'd require the cap'n to have crunchberries)

blessed3x 6 years, 9 months ago

anxious,

I hereby formally apologize to any poverty stricken, 3rd world country citizens that may have posted above and been insulted by my painting a rosy picture of life in America.

HELLO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Nothing has been said up until this point about life in the absolute darkest corners of the world. The letter was written by an American and the respondents are American (I assume) . But, by all means, if you feel that because someone in the world is suffering, that you have no right to be happy or share any of that happiness and beauty with children, please have yourself sterilized so your crappy attitude won't be passed on to your unsuspecting offspring.

Have a nice day, my Cap'n Crunch is getting soggy.

Speakout 6 years, 9 months ago

I had a friend who is a very religious man and when his wife became pregnant with their 7th child, the doctors told them that the child would be terribly deformed and very retarded. They said, "OK, we will take special care of it", and she had the baby. The baby was born perfectly normal and is in law school right now at Univ of Michigan. She was the most delightful child I have ever known. So you who would kill the child because the doctor "thinks" it will be abnormal have no faith and if it is abnormal she/he can still be loved.

lunacydetector 6 years, 9 months ago

the letter writer writes: "I personally feel that it's almost sinful to bring a child into this world. Who could possibly wish the sin and destruction of this world upon the little innocents."

so killing an innocent child within the womb is better?

what a lame argument in support of roe v. wade. didn't hitler use a similar argument to justify the mass slaughter of the jews?

naturalist 6 years, 9 months ago

Craigers: Good point! If not a mother then not a mother's choice.

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

"life" is an option forced upon us, wow atheist, no wonder you are so anxious

indeed, life puts the fun in fundy. You really should try it sometime, . . . fun that is. I would never wish being a fundy upon anyone who has such a low opinion of it. Life is what you make it or what you let it make you.

Staci Dark Simpson 6 years, 9 months ago

Wow. Can you say cuckoo? Life is what you make it. I have known very sick, poor people who are just as content as rich healthy people. Your outlook controls your day. you can choose to pick yourself up by the bootstraps and get over it or wallow in your pity party. Yes some things about this world are questionable at best, but who gave us the guarantee that every day would be peachy? And to answer your question I have had some things happen in my life that caused immense suffering and have managed to maintain a healthy attitude most of the time. Get meds Linda!!

Ceallach 6 years, 9 months ago

md, if what you suspect is true, I'm glad it didn't work. What is that great phrase from Jurassic Park? Life will find a way!!

cat_soup 6 years, 9 months ago

Of course I'd choose to be born. The world is screwed up, and that's awful... but to really wish to not be born? That's a bit melodramatic... don't you think?

Charles L Bloss Jr 6 years, 9 months ago

There aren't enough disabled parking spaces, anywhere. I am disabled, have a manufactured hip, and some medical problems. Hell yes I am glad I was born. I had a career I loved working for county government. I was able to help a lot of people. I have two younger brothers that have really excelled. One is a PhD and teaches at a prestigious university. The other is a surgeon, one of the best in the Southwest. Our parents died young and never got to see what their children accomplished. That is sad. I know they were very glad we were born. We are as well. Thank you, Lynn

jonas 6 years, 9 months ago

"right_thinker (Anonymous) says:

This is one of those LTE's you just simply exit out from and are sort of left staring at the wall for a minute or so."

Not really. I just went "Huh, what a sad idiot," and then jumped down to the commentary.

alicenevada 6 years, 9 months ago

This comment reminds me of a line from a song by Casting Crowns...they sing about living in a world that says "save the trees, but kill the children". Sheesh. What is wrong with people? I absolutely do not condone the murdering of innocent children so that someone else can live as they choose. I do condone terminating a pregnancy if a mothers life or the life of the child is in danger, in cases of incest or rape. There is a difference.

blessed3x 6 years, 9 months ago

MD,

While I am very sorry for your situation, the point of my posts were to get through to people that it's not that bad. A select few incidents and situations are not reasons to condemn an entire generation to the scrap bucket. The world is full of beauty and fun, and we, as a whole nation, have it pretty damn good. Living in poverty here, is a world of luxuries compared to most of the world. The politicians, of course, want us to think that we all end up in the bread line if we don't vote for them. I don't buy it and I hope other people wise up, too.

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