Letters to the Editor

Focus on child

December 16, 2007

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To the editor:

I've realized those opposing gay adoption have little evidence concerning the negative effects it may have on a child, and I believe that much of the debate is political rather than focusing on what it should. Research caused me to look further into my own beliefs and make room for new ideas for the sake of morality, while surfacing the need I saw to refocus the attention on the children.

Adoption is about improving the lives of children by providing safe living environments for those left parentless. The number of abandoned kids in the world far outnumbers the amount of homes open to them. Kristen Kreisher of the Child Welfare League of America says that in 1999 it was estimated that 127,000 children were without a family. She found "children of homosexual parents show no difference in levels of self-esteem, anxiety, depression, behavior problems, or social performance." These children need safe homes, and it is apparent that the sex of the parent is irrelevant.

Much of the opposition to gay adoption stems from the church. A practicing Christian, I realize that two ideas can coexist and still provide for an overall good. Despite the morality of homosexuality, it is fact that there are children in need of homes. Given little rights, homosexuals won't be as picky in the decision of the child they adopt. The legalization of gay adoption in all states would supply more open homes to help decrease the number of children in orphanages, and other non-ideal situations.

Meghan Crylen,

Lawrence

Comments

kansas778 7 years, 7 months ago

A kid is better off with two gay parents than no parents at all, let gay people adopt.

Ragingbear 7 years, 7 months ago

I think it is an abomination when children are raised by hetero couples. The trauma is so extreme that they grow up to be killers and pedophiles. I can prove it too. Every killer and pedophile out there had a mother and a father. So it must be bad. So is the letter P. And purple things. But that is another story to save until after New Year's.

Kathy Getto 7 years, 7 months ago

"She found "children of homosexual parents show no difference in levels of self-esteem, anxiety, depression, behavior problems, or social performance." These children need safe homes, and it is apparent that the sex of the parent is irrelevant. "


This says it all. Thanks, Meghan.

Now, let the ignorance of the right wing Christian moralists begin!!!!!!

Dorothy Hoyt-Reed 7 years, 7 months ago

What is sad about the right wing Christian moralists is that they spend all their time trying to legislate against and protest abortion, but don't have the guts to go out and take care of the many unwanted children who didn't get aborted, but are stuck in a foster care system. Back in the 80's I had an acquaintance who was a secretary to Planned Parenthood in Overland Park. She said a woman in full length fur coat, driving a BMW came to protest several days a week. If many of the women who were pregnant had the money that women spent on her fancy stuff, they wouldn't have to get an abortion. But that isn't her concern is it? That would be welfare. So these women are scum if they abort and scum if they have their children.

Kookamooka 7 years, 7 months ago

I agree completely with this letter. The religious right wing want to abolish abortion but what are they doing to find good homes for the children that are left behind?

If every unwanted pregnancy results in an unwanted child, the consequences are much worse for society as a whole.

If the churches would put their money where their mouths are, they would accept homosexual adoptions. Then the unwanted children become treasures in the eyes of the lucky couples, both homosexual as well as heterosexual, that have the monetary means and the love to raise them well.

denak 7 years, 7 months ago

I am just absolutely dumbfounded by this letter. Sooooooooo, it is Mrs. Cylen, enlightened belief that homosexual men and women should be allowed to adopt children in foster care because they "won't be so picky." Picky over what... a "tainted" child, a "damaged" child. They, meaning homosexuals, should get the right to adopt (which they have in the state of Kansas) because then, they won't be so picky and adopt all the damaged foster chldren and children "not in ideal situations" (would they be up for adoption if they were in an ideal situation???) The underlying message in this is not Christian charity or even the right to adopt, but that homosexuals, being by defintion, immoral, should only be allowed to adopt children, who are by her implied definition, not ideal -- foster children. In her mind, beggers shouldn't be choosy. Presumbably, the ones who should be choosy and who should get the "good" kids, are those that are moral ie heterosexual, two parent (one of each gender) married couples.

Maybe as a foster parent and one who has been trying to adopt one of these "damaged" children, I am a little touchy about this subject. Whether Mrs. Crylen is aware of it or not, the condescension in this letter is just absolutely sickening.

Dena

P.S. For all of you both homosexual and heterosexual,married or not, who might like to adopt through the foster care system, please contact KVC at www.kvc.org or Kansas Chlidren's Service League at www.cominghomekansas.org. Thanks!

Dorothy Hoyt-Reed 7 years, 7 months ago

We raised a foster child who was abused by his birth mother. It was challenging, but with the help of adoption aid from the State of Washington (where my husband adopted him), we were able to get him the help he needed. Thanks to Bert Nash, WRAP program, and all his wonderful teachers, he is working hard, and has his own place. He doesn't drink, drug, well I don't know about the sex part. He doesn't talk to his mother about that. He is a productive member of society, something he might not have been had he been kept in foster care, and not at all if he had remained with his birth mother. In fact, he probably would be dead. These anti-abortion people need to put up or shut up as far as I'm concerned. They need to work with at risk youth, instead of always condemning them, and trying to blame someone. Maybe they could prevent unwanted pregnancies and abortions that way, instead of making a law forcing them to have unwanted children. It's called preventive measures.

SettingTheRecordStraight 7 years, 7 months ago

"Despite the morality of homosexuality..."

I think she means immorality or homosexuality.

Also, the use of the word "homosexual" is so not politically correct, Ms. Crylen! Although it may be the scientifically accurate term, it is never used today by the socially conscious, progressive, uber-far-left.

Dorothy Hoyt-Reed 7 years, 7 months ago

How many children have you adopted Marion? Actions speak louder than words. What do you do to help our youth? Are you a Big Brother volunteer? Do you work with Boys and Girls club? Do you go to your children's schools and volunteer help there?

Ragingbear 7 years, 7 months ago

I think they prefer the term "Heterosexually Alternative Lifestyle Americans".

funkdog1 7 years, 7 months ago

Gee, Marion. You're always bragging about what a ladies' man you are. How many abortions do you think you've been the cause of?

grimpeur 7 years, 7 months ago

"Yeah, Dorothyr; you don't want a child but become pregnant so just kill it. After all, it's only a fetus and not realy alive anyway."

Ah, yes. The idea that a human being should exist as punishment for a mother's bad choices. Beautiful.

Maybe you're right--maybe your own humanity is the same as that in a ball of cells. You make a strong case here.

jonas 7 years, 7 months ago

"Also, the use of the word "homosexual" is so not politically correct, Ms. Crylen! Although it may be the scientifically accurate term, it is never used today by the socially conscious, progressive, uber-far-left."

Do you EVER talk about things that are actually real, STRS?

I wonder how you got so close to the minds of the uber-far left, as I'm sure they don't particularly want you near them, and it's clear that you think you'd get a severe case of either cooties or teh gay with close proximity.

oldvet 7 years, 7 months ago

"Ah, yes. The idea that a human being should exist as punishment for a mother's bad choices. Beautiful."

Ah, yes. The idea that a human being should DIE as punishment for a mother's bad choices. Really Beautiful.

beatrice 7 years, 7 months ago

Ah, yes. The idea that any discussion about adoption should automatically bring about the abortion issue. Truly Beautiful.

Actually, I would think the anti-abortion bunch would be in favor of gays adopting, seeing as how as a group they likely have or are responsible for fewer abortions on the average than their straight counterparts. Just an observation.

Say yes to allowing capable adults to adopt and provide a loving home for those in need.

oldvet 7 years, 7 months ago

"A philosophical question: Can something die before it has been born?"

Apparently the State of California thinks so... Scott Peterson is currently on death row for 2 counts of murder in the deaths of his wife and UNBORN son...

And the Federal government thinks so, when it passed the Unborn Victims of Violence Act of 2004 (Public Law 108-212) which recognizes a "child in utero" as a legal victim, if he or she is injured or killed during the commission of any of over 60 listed federal crimes of violence. The law defines "child in utero" as "a member of the species homo sapiens, at any stage of development, who is carried in the womb."

And those are secular laws, without consideration of my moral view of the world...

oldvet 7 years, 7 months ago

Boy, now you are really ignoring facts and grasping straws... I don't think California would consider their murder statutes as "isolated laws", since they were broken almost 2500 times in 2006 and they currently have over 600 people sitting on death row (2005 count)...

They convicted Scott Peterson for the murder of his unborn child...

Webster says unborn means 1 : not born : not brought into life 2 : still to appear : future 3 : existing without birth

Webster also says that murder means 1: the crime of unlawfully killing a person especially with malice aforethought

Thus it would appear that the State of California convicted Scott Peterson of "the crime of unlawfully killing a person especially with malice aforethought" of his son who was "not born : not brought into life"

So, at least in the State of California, the answer to your question is yes... if you don't believe that this is possible, you might want to be a test case in California, although you might find your next residence to be very close to Scott Peterson... at least for a while...

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