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Would you ever homeschool your children?

Asked at Massachusetts Street on August 22, 2011

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“I’d probably say no. They need the experience of being out and dealing with people in another environment.”

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“I wouldn’t. There are things they’ve got to learn they can’t get at home.”

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“I don’t know. When that time comes I guess then I’ll know. Depends where other kids are at that point.”


LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

Same here, guess which of the kids went on to college and graduate school?

notanota 6 years, 9 months ago

I swear to blog that the homeschooled kids I know have more social interaction than the public schooled kids. They tend to enroll them in cooperatives and field trips and various dance/theater/music whatever lessons with other groups of kids.

I suppose a lot of that depends on whether you homeschool them to teach them more or you do it to teach them less, if you know what I mean.

LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

It is an urban myth that they are not socialized and a cop out.

RoeDapple 6 years, 9 months ago

mrs roe gots that masterss degreee in edjucatin an shes a fine baby momma but yuo dont know nuthin bout her an she maed our yungins reel smart we dam proud of 'em an thay gots a publik edjucatin cept for all that tiem at ku i aint gots no problum with hoemskoolin for uther folks but uor kids dun good wiht publik skool thats al im gonna say boutit

Richard Heckler 6 years, 9 months ago

Why not if the time is available? If socialization is the issue how is it that homeschooled children do not become socialized?

Does public school peer group socialization create more problems for parents? Sex,drinking,brain concussions and broken bones from sports,choice of clothing,choice of attitudes etc etc etc.

In general public school academics is a best bang for the tax buck no question about it.

Meanwhile: 1. Oak Meadow -

  1. Calvert - ( Leavenworth Virtual School) open to all)

  2. Waldorf - (some public high schools have adopted this approach)

Think Vacations anytime of year which could take families to: 1. Cincinnati Zoo 2. Mt Snow Vermont World Cup Bicycling Event 3. Gila Cliff Dwellings - 4. A Crayola Factory 5. Ben Franklin Insitute 6. KCMO Toy Museumj 7. Louisville Slugger Factory 8. City Museum of St Louis - the ultimate in recycling 9. Cincinnati Train Station
10. Florissant Fossil Beds National Monument 11. Cincinnati Morning Glory Ride - a family oriented bike event sponsored by the Sierra Club.

Some years ago a homeschool group had an excellent partnership with the KU Natural History staff which provided "classes" to a group that included many ages. Children got into it. Thank You KU.

gl0ck0wn3r 6 years, 9 months ago

"Does public school peer group socialization create more problems for parents? Sex,drinking,brain concussions and broken bones from sports,choice of clothing,choice of attitudes etc etc etc."

I can't wait to see how your home schooled child chooses to punctuate.

RoeDapple 6 years, 9 months ago

Which reminds me, I finally got around to mowing my lawn after letting it go for four weeks . . .

Cait McKnelly 6 years, 9 months ago

When my children were younger I would have happily home schooled them up to high school. When they hit high school, they really do need the social interaction and the expertise of teachers that are a lot more proficient in certain things than I am. My son is a film student and he wouldn't have ever had the direction in media studies that he received at the high school level had he been home schooled at that point. I also think that high school does a much better job at sorting things out for semi-adult children trying to find a direction in life, even if it's the realization that their best bet is a trade school.

shadowbox66044 6 years, 9 months ago

13th No. However, I am the 13th comment, but I am the 8th person to comment. So, would I be 13th or 8th?

shadowbox66044 6 years, 9 months ago

Ok, as I was writing my comment, someone posted their comment before I posted mine. So now am I the 14th or 9th?

Flap Doodle 6 years, 9 months ago

I got the lemurs a set of McGruffy Readers. They made it half-way through the first volume and then they started eating the pages....

shadowbox66044 6 years, 9 months ago

Uhg! I should never drink and post! Now I'm 15th!

H_Lecter 6 years, 9 months ago

Are you implying that's a bad thing? Perhaps we need a new term that is a bit more PC and less subjective, herd-thinners.

And Catholic schools produce them too.

LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

So all of the KU kids with over inflated egos were homeschooled?

rumor_man 6 years, 9 months ago

When they're old enough they'll be home schooling me.

gphawk89 6 years, 9 months ago

Yes, starting next year. Already starting unofficially - he's taken a great interest in writing the alphabet in the last couple of weeks.

In a rural setting, I might still consider public schooling. I had no problem with mine, and my classmates have been satisfied with their kid's education so far so it doesn't sound like anything has changed too radically. In "the city", no way.

LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

Those who can teach, do. Those that can't send their kids to public school.

Deja Coffin 6 years, 9 months ago

Absolutely I would to home school my kids but not so much so that they can get a better education. (I would make a horrible teacher) It would be so I could see them all the time and be able to protect them from all the bad in the world. I would also like to buy a private island and live there with just all my family and friends but I know that would never happen. And since that would never happen I know that there are character building skills my kids will learn in public schools that they wouldn't be able to learn at home. While I would love for it to never happen I know that it's possible my kids will learn what it is like to be embarrassed, left out, bullied, etc. in school and I hope that they will be able to build from those experiences and become well rounded adults. Adults who happen to have a mother that won't be able to fully let go of her babies and will still dream of having that island just so she can see her kids everyday.

Michael Throop 6 years, 9 months ago

and what proof do you have that all homeschooling is strictly religion-oriented?

grannygirl365 6 years, 9 months ago

The most mature and responsible adults I have met have been homeschooled. They did not get that "great socialization" everyone worries about. They said it was exactly that reason they were homeschooled. Their role models were adults that were responsible and hard working people. ( "not the kids on drugs, not the kids that thought drinking and smoking was what they were suppose to do to fit in, and the kids that couldn't say a whole sentence without swear words, because they did not know any words longer than 4 letter words") these adults and yound people are the ones the top colleges are now seeking out. This is a fact not just an opinion. And yes I would homeschool my children and anyone elses. Just to keep them out of the public schools.

frittata65 6 years, 9 months ago

I'm looking for data from adults who WERE homeschooled and if they would/do homeschool their own kids.

Phone_Man 6 years, 9 months ago

No. I have met and known several folks who have home schooled and they themselves barely made it out of high school. I guess I wouldn't have a problem with it as long as those doing the teaching had some type of certification process to complete yearly.

jedifunk 6 years, 9 months ago

I love my parents more than anything, but I'll never get over their decision to homeschool me. It's very hard to deal with feeling robbed of one's adolescence. I was always very social and extroverted, and I never had a problem making friends even when I was stuck at home, but homeschooling has caused unbelievable friction within my family and is the root cause of almost all fights that I had - and still have - with my parents. Every time I drive past one of those beautiful new football stadiums at the high schools, or read about the academic and athletic exploits of all the gifted kids in Lawrence, I feel a little ache. It could've been me, but I was never given the chance.

I could seriously write a book on the subject. Who knows, maybe I will someday., I would never, ever, ever homeschool my children.

LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

I do believe homeschooled kids in Lawrence are still allowed to participate in sports and arts programs unless it has changed in the last few years. You can also take one or two classes at school if you want to and homeschool the rest.

jedifunk 6 years, 9 months ago

Yeah, I took advantage of those rules as best as I could. The school systems were actually very flexible for me, for which I'm grateful. It's more my parents who wouldn't let me do certain things, for fear that I'd embarrass myself or get hurt or discouraged. Even though I knew I wasn't one, I still felt like an outsider. I was too precocious and had patterned my social behaviors after my mother, so I had to re-train myself in order to be accepted by my own peers. It was a really tough time for me. I'm a college graduate now - it's not like I didn't turn out alright - but the bitterness isn't going away. I really wish it would.

I'm still very close friends with a lot of the "homeschool kids" I knew growing up. I'd say about 90% of them wish they'd gone to a "normal" school as well. We've all gone out to lunch and had little therapy sessions together :)

MMorris87 6 years, 9 months ago

There are many ways public school can go wrong, too. It went very wrong for me. That being said, I will probably send my kids to public school because it is easiest financially. But, I would not hesitate to pull them out if there was ever an issue.

rumor_man 6 years, 9 months ago

I had a great time at my "home school" prom. It was just me and five of my closest friends.

verity 6 years, 9 months ago

One size never fits all and there are arguments for both sides.

However a lot of people are decidedly unfit to homeschool their children either educationally or personality wise, or both.

Also, the point of at least some home schooling seems to be to keep the children narrow-minded just like their parents. When children are exposed to other points of view, they tend to become more open-minded and that is exactly what some parents don't want. They just want clones of themselves. That may work or the child may completely rebel.

boxers_or_briefs 6 years, 9 months ago

No. It would interfere too much with my life.

LadyJ 6 years, 9 months ago

Finally, an honest statement, even if it was made in jest.

RoeDapple 6 years, 9 months ago

She has been after me to get the power washer out and freshen up the deck. I kinda like the green fungi look on the north side . . .

bolshavik_vw 6 years, 9 months ago

If I had children, yes I would. This decision has nothing to do with religion. It is due to my horrbile experiences in the public school. I would teach them all of academics, and then of course go above and beyond this. They would get weekly trips to the Musuems,Libraries, and once a month we would go somewhere where they would learn about life. I would want my kids to be kids, well rounded, down to earth, at the same time, not be afraid to ask about anything they are unsure of. I would encourage my kids to take Martial Arts, (Especially the girls.). Because if my kids ever went through a fraction of what I did, I would never let them spend a day in the public school system, especially when it is going down the tubes, faster than the speed of light. Thanks to our Governor.

riverdrifter 6 years, 9 months ago

No, but I homeschool labrador retrievers. I've got one now and she's a lock-down Rhodes Scholar. And, without guns, alcohol and immoral influences life would suck. Say no prayers for me, Lucifer has done led my soul away. -10 days to dove season.

riverdrifter 6 years, 9 months ago

I done seed Spacehog standin there in his KC Chiefs jacket. Least you didn't have to go far, just a jaunt to the east over in Quantrillville. See.

LoveThsLife 6 years, 9 months ago

Homeschooling does have it's benefits, when done right kids get through subjects at a greater speed with a deeper understanding. However, I've seen some home-schooled kids wind up being no-school kids.

I think I'll end up sending my kids to public school. Mainly because I think that there are benefits to doing so. I want my kids to be exposed to other's ideas and views and not just my own. As parents we tend to teach our children from the lens of our own life experience, I want my kids to be confronted with other's life experiences as well.
I've seen a lot of very conservative Christian home schoolers, and while I respect their beliefs, I do wonder how their kids are going to handle being exposed to opposing view points as some point. I mean regardless of someone's view point on evolution, it's an important concept to study and understand because it has really changed the way science views life. Even if someone is a creationist, in my opinion, they should still understand the opposing view. I don't think a home school education could really satisfactorily dig into those kind of opposing views if a parent was set on one viewpoint. I hope that makes sense. In addition, I want my kids to learn how to negotiate conflict and deal with the real world issues they will have to face at some point.

Paul R Getto 6 years, 9 months ago

Home schoolers can do a fine job, and many do. We should not denigrate their efforts. Those who choose home schooling are still paying to support public education; they just don't use the service, at least for a few years. Most kids return to public school sometime. The best and worse schools in Kansas are home schools. Because there is no regulation (and I don't believe there ever will be) there is no way to tell which is which. This is why home schooled children are technically 'truant' and school officials should report them annually. Nothing happens in nearly all of these cases, but in the rare instances where the child is being used for child care, labor around the plantation or some other suspect activity, the schools are protected if/when the truth about a particular home 'school' comes out. Leave the home schoolers alone and support their efforts to do what they think is best.

KS 6 years, 9 months ago

I wouldn't send my kids to public school for all the tea in China. One can readily tell from most of the comments above as to why! They don't need that type of socialization.

Prairielander 6 years, 9 months ago

I believe in the value of public education, but it's not for everyone. Home school would not be my first option, unless I lived in a remote area. I like the idea of my kids getting exposed to everything (good and bad) that comes with the schools. For the most part, it's a pretty controlled exposure. I do still worry about some nut with a gun pulling a Columbine or VaTech, but that could happen anywhere, not just at school. Plus, I think the extracurriculars that come with the schools (sports, music, dances, etc.) are experiences that can't be duplicated.

ThePilgrim 6 years, 9 months ago

We home schooled our daughters for two years because one of them finished first grade and could not read. The teacher was trying a new curriculum where she let the child learn the words that they wanted to (not kidding). Kids in the class could read, write, and spell "Tyrannosaurus Rex" but not "what", "the", etc. I mentioned at a conference that my daughter did not know the word "and". The teacher said,"'and' is such an abstract word...".

Homeschooling now is a non-issue with the K-12 program. Kids study the curriculum at home, it is paid for by the school system, it is legit with certified teachers. And, from experience with several people I know who have their kids in it, students are much better perpared for college.

David Roberts 6 years, 8 months ago

We've had our kids in public school, homeschool, and private school. We always tried to evaluate what our kids needed and what we thought we could handle and used whatever resources were available.

Of course, my background was in education, so I recognize that not all parents can do that. But there are educational co-ops that help too.

On the subject of socialization, it really depends on the situation. I believe homeschool students have more flexibility and options to develop socially, but only if they take advantage of those opportunities.

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