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Have you ever felt like a restaurant staff tried to rush you?

Asked at Community Mercantile, 901 Iowa on November 30, 2009

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Photo of Esther Kottwitz

“Yes, there is a restaurant downtown that I felt rushed out of because they needed the seats.”

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“I have at times. They stand around tapping their fingers … or looking at their watch.”

Photo of Linzy Kirkpatrick

“Definitely, especially on Friday and Saturday nights when they’re busy … they ignore you a lot, and they seem hurried when they ask you if you need anything else.”

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“Not in Lawrence. In New York City, plenty of times.”

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budwhysir 5 years, 10 months ago

While I have never FELT rushed, I have had alot of waiters and other wait staff that stood around acting like "hey, I need this seat more than I need a tip". My solution for this is usually to take my time eating and then leave no tip or a tip much smaller than the original amount I thought to leave. Just my way of saying, thanks for the dinner I paid an arm and a leg for and by the way, I dont eat fast so I can pay more

yankeevet 5 years, 10 months ago

I like the Longhorn; Mad Greeks; and a few more; but that place called Perkins i will never go back; i saw a roach crawl across my cold scramble eggs; as i drank my cold coffee i was just served...........the place reeks with filfth; and the overweight slow and rude waitresses are not much better.........

I was told that the cockroaches commit suicide in the kitchen because the food is so bad.......they hang strings around their necks and jump off the thats bad....

grammaddy 5 years, 10 months ago

Used to happen every St, Pat's day at Mass. Street Deli. We always reserved the big table in front of the windows in case it was too cold for the wee ones. Some of the waitresses acted like we were a major imposition for them to have to carry food for 12 or 13 up there even though they usually got a $30 tip on a $100 meal ticket.I'm kind of glad they're closed now.

nbnozzy 5 years, 10 months ago

yankeevet, you still mad because you didn't get the job of dishwasher at Perkins? No reason to be bitter over it.

In other news.... I don't think I've ever had the problem of being "bum rushed" in a restaurant in Lawrence. In fact, I get the opposite. Sometimes the wait staff is slow in presenting the bill to my table. Have had to ask servers for the ticket so I can pay and leave.

schula 5 years, 10 months ago

Yes, every time I eat at La Familia I feel that the wait staff hurries us out. Thankfully, I only eat there once a year when friends visit.

Flap Doodle 5 years, 10 months ago

Happens to me whenever I'm celebrating no-pants Friday.

50YearResident 5 years, 10 months ago

A better question would have been: Have you ever occupied a resturant table too long after finishing your meal by reading a paper or other time wasting deeds while other customers were waiting to be served?

Jay_lo 5 years, 10 months ago

I know I'll be in the minority on this one, but honestly people, if the atmosphere of the place is relaxed and unrushed with several empty tables then yes you can probably be allowed to linger after your lunch for some pleasant conversation.

If it's hectic as all get out with a long line containing families with children and elderly patrons then please have the decency to respect the situation.

A restaurant is in business to serve meals first and foremost. Other paying customers will leave if forced to wait too long as any behavior specialist should be able to tell you.

Stiffing on the tip because you feel rushed is just an excuse to be cheap. You probably find some reason most every time you dine out.

If the place is busy and you've had your food, then you've gotten what you paid for. I'm sure any restaurant will allow your group the time it takes to make arrangements to meet elsewhere for conversation.

I mean how easy is it to try to carry on any kind of meaningful conversation, or for that matter, relax in an overcrowded establishment.

You want the restaurant and servers to respect you, then please do the same and respect their situation.

I've been on both sides, as probably most everyone has. Now be honest, when you're waiting in that line are you really thinking, "Oh how nice that none of those people who are finished eating feel the need to shorten their conversation time so that I can get a table."?

beawolf 5 years, 10 months ago

If it's that busy, I don't go in. There are too many good places to eat, and when I dine out I like to enjoy the experience. It's not always about the food.

But no, I never felt rushed to leave, then again, I don't put myself in that situation.

labmonkey 5 years, 10 months ago

No restraunt has forced me to listen to Rush Limbaugh.

pace 5 years, 10 months ago

Vista use to play Rush Limbaugh. I miss them anyway. Like their hamburgers and their cherry limeades. I haven't felt rushed but I only linger if there isn't a line and if I linger I tip a little extra. I like my service professional and the order as ordered. Mirth has good food but a little too much charm.

labmonkey 5 years, 10 months ago

Something tells me that Grammaddy is one of those overly demanding patrons that yells at the waitress or drive-thru attendant at the drop of a hat.

alm77 5 years, 10 months ago

Jay_lo, agreed. I waited tables through college. To this day, I am very aware of "not camping out" not only when the restaurant is busy, but also when my waiter's shift might be over and he's just waiting on us to leave so he can clean his last table and go home. Been there. It's much nicer to visit with friends and family by going for a walk after our meal, or relaxing at home rather than to try to reconnect in a restaurant anyway.

I've never been rushed, never had to be.

kappyblu 5 years, 10 months ago

Yes. At Milton's. The food is fantastic there, but everytime we go, the waiters and waitresses always try to rush us out. I don't know about anybody else, but it seems throughout the meal, they are hovering and taking away every little dish as soon as they see it empty. This is what happens: we finish the meal, then want to drink our coffee in peace for a bit and the wait staff keeps coming and picking up every little sugar packet or napkin I lay down. It's quite annoying. I am all for a waiter taking away dishes you don't need, but only once or twice. They are at our table every few minutes. I only go back because the eggs benedict is so awesome. :-)

I have only experienced this type of treatment in downtown Lawrence. The big chain restaurants never do this to us.

mom_of_three 5 years, 10 months ago

I think basing your tip on when the waitress drops the check is incredibly cheap. Are they supposed to be mind readers, so they know your mood?

Never felt rushed at La Familia. Like to know my check is there when I am ready. Once, when we were there, there was a table of 3 adults who were there when we arrived, and were there when we were finished, just chatting, not ordering, and occupying a table in a small restaurant. The waitress was so friendly and polite to them, but it was obvious those folks were not going to move, and there were folks waiting for the table. When we left, my husband told those lollygaggers that he hoped their tip was enough to make up for the lost income of the waitress.
If my family and I are going to sit and talk after our meal, then we will order desert or something.

kmat 5 years, 10 months ago

mom_of_three (Anonymous) says…

I think basing your tip on when the waitress drops the check is incredibly cheap. Are they supposed to be mind readers, so they know your mood?

It's not unfamiliar for them to drop the check while you're still eating your meal. Give the patron time to eat and decide if they need anything else before dropping the check. If they've eaten and are just gabbing, that's another story.

grammaddy 5 years, 10 months ago

LarryNative and labmonkey- you're both wrong. We were never there two hours(Have you ever stayed in a restaurant for 2 hours with a couple of toddlers?) and no I'm not an overdemanding patron. I waited tables to support my kids years ago and know what a hard job waitressing is.I would never be rude or demanding with my server because I have walked in those shoes. However, waiting 30 minutes for a high chair and having 3 different servers "forget" kind of chaps me.Trying to eat and feed that toddler on your lap is rough. But I still tried to leave her a decent tip having been there myself.

mom_of_three 5 years, 10 months ago

We are talking about local restaurants in town, not 5 star gourmet somewhere else. When the check is "dropped" is only a big deal if you use it as an excuse. I don't care if they leave it while we are eating. Doesn't prevent me from finishing my meal or getting refills. And my tip is based on the service of the entire night, so if you leave the check and forget to check my drink, then I would be unhappy. But not because they didn't leave the check at the precise moment you think they should have.

MeAndFannieLou 5 years, 10 months ago

I don't care how much a party tips (which is usually not as much as they think it is), treating a public space like your own private dining room is r-u-d-e.

Deja Coffin 5 years, 10 months ago

I have two little kids that rush me out of the restaurant well before the wait staff could....... maybe I need more mommy and daddy date nights to give a better answer!

acg 5 years, 10 months ago

I've never felt rushed in the restaurants in the Lawrence area. I've had nothing but positive dining experiences in Lawrence, except for Johnny's. Went there one night with friends, the waitress walked by our table and basically threw our menus at us without a word. She came back 20 minutes later with a "what do you want?" She never came back again after dropping off the food. I didn't tip her. Being a former waitress of 10 years, her behavior was deplorable. Can you believe she actually chased us out to the parking lot to demand to know why she wasn't tipped? I was shocked, to say the least. I told her she wasn't tipped because she was the crappiest server I've ever had to deal with. I haven't been back to Johnny's since then.

gphawk89 5 years, 10 months ago

"Only at Gates BBQ" Yeah, that one drives me crazy. I love their food but almost dread walking in the door to order. I know it's just their signature greeting but still feel very pressured by it for some reason.

Otherwise, no, not really. I'm not one to sit around and BS after I'm done eating, so the staff never has a chance to get impatient. And like several of the above posters, I now have a toddler who often rushes us out of the restaurant before we're really done eating.

bevy 5 years, 10 months ago

We avoid this mostly by not going anyplace that's crowded, or where there is a wait to get in. I haven't felt rushed so much in Lawrence, but I have had some pretty lousy service from time to time! I've had worse service at some of the little downtown places than I have at IHOP!

OldEnuf2BYurDad 5 years, 10 months ago

Tin Pan Alley had a sign up: "Eat and get out."

gsxr600 5 years, 10 months ago

While serving food to hungry people is the goal of a restaurant, a restaurant is in business to make money. If there are waiting customers in line and I'm still eating, of course the business and the waiters want to hurry me through. It makes them more money.

But you have to realize, by pushing me out the door, yes, you may retain the customer waiting (because they don't get tired of waiting and leave) but at the same time lose me forever. It's a careful balance.

I agree some people loiter about, clearly finished eating and purely there to socialize. They are inconsiderate. But if I just took my first bite and the waiter's already tapping his or her feet, impatiently staring at me to leave, that restaurant can shove it. I recently had this experience after a basketball game. I won't mention the restaurant but they can be sure they lost a customer for life. How many hundreds if not thousands of dollars is that now?

geekin_topekan 5 years, 10 months ago

BeauJeau's, Given two minutes to order, when the pizza came, was allowed 5 minutes to eat before the waitress came and asked of we wanted anything else. We answered no and she brought us a box and a check and waited table side for cash/credit.

sustainabilitysister 5 years, 10 months ago

Jay_Lo was right on. I don't work in the service industry but used to over 10 years ago.

JKBagby 5 years, 10 months ago

Yes, at Milton's! Last time I will ever go! The Manager guy, you know him, stared at the Booth I shared with a friend as we finished up our sub-standard eggs, forgot the potatoes, no hot sauce...and we did not even complain. Twenty-Five minutes we were there and getting the please hurry-look from that Guy. I may appear white-trash and not fitting to the "Milton's" crowd, but I tip well and enjoy supporting local restaurants and wait staff. But never again at Milton's.

deskboy04 5 years, 10 months ago

There's never a problem at the Peking Taste!

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