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Have you ever been bullied or been a bully?
Asked at Massachusetts Street on February 15, 2007
“Probably both back in grade school and junior high. I think it’s just a part of growing up. At some point you realize it’s wrong - the earlier the better.”
“Yes to both. I get bullied at work because I’m afraid to stand up to people, and I bully my siblings just because I can.”
“I think everybody’s been bullied at one point or another in their life, but personally I’ve never been one.”
“I was bullied a little bit when I was a child around the fourth or fifth grade. I just talked to my principal and superintendent about it, so it stopped there.”
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inmate (anonymous) says…
I try to remain invisible.
jonas (anonymous) says…
Me and my football player sized friend got bullied by the popular gang in elementary school, until we both realized they were about half our size (after my 9" growth spurt in 5th, at least) and royally beat the crap out of them in 6th. That stopped it pretty effectively.
It's hard to remain the cool one when your mom picks you up weeping in her minivan. hahaha
sgtwolverine (anonymous) says…
Not much, no. There was one time an older neighbor kid briefly gave me some trouble, but my older brother didn't much care for that -- he knocked the kid over, and that was that.
(My brother is now in law school.)
Leandra (anonymous) says…
Bully, not really....more of a tribal contest of rank....once that was established all was well.
blue73harley (anonymous) says…
Yes, I was bullied a few times in Jr. High and HS. I always stood up to them. Got my butt kicked a couple times. One regret - I always stood up for myself but seldom the other guy. I don't think I have ever bullied anybody but my younger brother might disagree.
Hey inmate, good to hear from you!
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
Not that I was aware off.
You're either with me or against me.
compmd (anonymous) says…
Nah, never really was bullied. Of course, there were always those arrogant, insecure kids that liked to pretend they were better than me and would be verbally demeaning back in elementary/junior high so they could feel better about themselves. In my friendly, non-threatening manner, I smiled and helped teach them about electricity and magnetism. Specifically, I gave them a "hands on" demonstration of capacitance by having them pick up a fully charged photoflash capacitor. Did that a couple times, never had any problems after that.
paladin (anonymous) says…
I was bullied quite a bit, especially when I got my glasses before anybody else got glasses. When I'd had enough and learned to fight back, They pretty much left me alone. No weapons involved, since they were not in vogue back then. Well, maybe just the one brick. Just a note to those who are bullied. Go for the groin.
tyger_lily (anonymous) says…
While I was in school, I was on the heavy side, had red frizzy hair, and wore glasses so of course I have been bullied. I missed over 9 weeks of school when I was in 6th grade because I became anorexic because the teasing was so bad. Did school officials ever do anything about it, of course not. I still to this day do not have friends because I am so self conscious and always think people are talking about me and making fun of me.
beatrice (anonymous) says…
"Go for the groin." Paladin, isn't that also the response you gave for yesterday's proposal question?
Yes on both accounts. Nothing too extreme, closer to just picking on someone or being picked on than all out bullying. It's just that I've never been the type to shy away from a confrontation, which I am sure people might consider bullying -- or being bullied. I lived through it.
staff04 (anonymous) says…
A little of both.
trinity (anonymous) says…
that which didn't kill me has only made me stronger. i s'pose i've fallen on both sides of that bully equation. i'm fine. really. honestly. love me!?!? lmao.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Inmate is out of solitary! Yeah! Did you see I_P while you were away?
Yes and yes. By time I was in high school I quit the bullying nonsense. I was still bullied by the older kids. And it is true that if you stand up to them you do get their respect. Unfortunately, if it gets to fight mode, that is not an acceptable excuse the principal or my folks agreed with.
ohjayhawk (anonymous) says…
I was the victim of some bullying in junior high and my freshman year of high school. Luckily, like trinity, it made me a stronger person and didn't really demoralize me to the point of no return.
George_Braziller (anonymous) says…
We had a school bully in the class ahead of me who tormented everyone. I was one of his prime targets. It continued for ten years until he graduated from high school. But Karma catches up with bullies -- he was killed in a farming accident two years ago.
consumer1 (anonymous) says…
Many people on this board call me a "knee Jerk conservative"! That doesn't bother me, because they don't know me, they just don't agree with my comments. That is okay, life without differences would suck. Here is what I want to say. I may react in a way that is different than the "popular" or easy way, that is, I say what I think. It is important to me to stand up for what I feel is right. Even though, many people will call me names and try to intimidate me from having an opinion. When I was a child this same belief system that I get berated for now, may have been the same belief system that saved you or one of your friends from getting bullied. I was that guy, who when I saw someone getting picked on by a bully went up to the bully and gave him the chance to fight someone who wasn't "affraid". Many times I had to fight for what I believed was an injustice. Many times I found that bullies didn't really want to fight someone, they just wanted to control a weaker person. I don't know if there are any kids like me in school anymore, from the amount of bullying I read about in the papers I would say not. My sense of right and wrong helped out quite a few smaller, weaker kids I went to school with. Doesn't anyone stand up for injustice anymore? or are we so systmatically socialized towards apathy, that no one cares, because they don't want to get involved? (It's not their problem). Folks, I don't think I was wrong when I helped some smaller kid keep from being terrorized by a bully. Unfortunately, I see many of this same kind of bullying going on in these blogs. Spewing hate, threatening attitudes, etc. I know I have been guilty of some of this myself. To which. I must say, any mean or hateful words I may have used were vented from frustration of the apathy I see around us. And, I appoligize to everyone whom I have offended. Maybe it is time for all of us to consider and reflect on "whether we have been a bully to others".
Thanks for reading this long winded blog.
By the way, I still step in if I see someone trying to hurt someone else. Regardelss of who they may be.
Con 1
Gootsie (anonymous) says…
Absolutely was bullied. And jr high/high school girls are subtle bullies - nothing you could ever prove, but enough to make this little girl cry several times. I agree with tyger - it does stay with you. I find myself working so hard to have people like me because I don't want to be talked about behind my back ever again. I bet it still happens though - the voices, the voices.
Whoever got IP kicked off again is a bully and should be eradicate.
Sen_Fudgepack (anonymous) says…
I was bullied until I decided to fight the biggest of the pack... I got my butt kicked after a 15 minute fist fight but the bullying stopped after that... Bullies like victims... When you stop being a victim, they'll move on to easier pickings...
RonBurgandy (anonymous) says…
"I think everybody's been bullied at one point or another in their life, but personally I've never been one."
- Andrew Holliman, art framer, Lawrence
Does anyone else see a problem with this statement? Somewhat contradictory?
I never had much of a problem with a specific counterpart, a couple of random incidences, but nothing that I would consider a bulliee/bullier problem.
RonBurgandy (anonymous) says…
Well, I reread the statement that I made fun of and it seems he is saying that he was the bulliee, but has never been the bullier. I retract my criticism of Mr. Holliman's quote.
Sorry for the inconvience.
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
I too felt the need to stand up WITH the bullied. Notice the WITH, If someone was not willing to try to help themselves, I did not feel the need to help.
In my gradeschool, the worst bully learned to eat blended food with a straw with some help from me. "Gertie" (one of the sixth grade teachers) saw me helping a bullied student. She commended me, but I did have to mow her large and steep yard for about 2 years. One day after I had finished, she said :"Someone else needs mow my lawn for me"
.
From the article related to this OTS question:
"SuEllen Fried, of Prairie Village, a longtime mental health advocate who has written several books on bullying, said youngsters today are confronted with much worse bullying practices than in the past, including cyberbullying, where people write demeaning comments to children over the Internet."
Is it really worse than in the past?
Have we spawned children with thinner skins, brought on by all this P.C. bull?
The "protect me", "take care of me", "I am not able to help myself" "make me a protected class" legislation mentality drives this.
This forementioned "mindset" will continue to foster lack of character unless checked.
"I lived through it." - bea
"that which didn't kill me has only made me stronger." - trinity
"And it is true that if you stand up to them you do get their respect." - T_O_B
"it made me a stronger person" - ohjayhawk
"There was one time an older neighbor kid briefly gave me some trouble, but my older brother didn't much care for that -- he knocked the kid over, and that was that." - sgt
"Doesn't anyone stand up for injustice anymore?"- consumer1
"I got my butt kicked after a 15 minute fist fight but the bullying stopped after that." - Sen_Fudgepack
This is what I fear: the more "protect me" type legislation is enacted, the worse things will become.
This type of mentality needs to stop.
Stand up for yourself. rely on yourself.
If someone needs help and will stand up beside you, help them out.
If they are not willing (I did not say "not able")...
No self respect is gained from a handout.
Bone777 (anonymous) says…
I once made some ill advised comments on this post and Bea bullied me, relentlessly. Damn, Bea.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
"In my gradeschool, the worst bully learned to eat blended food with a straw with some help from me"
R_I
Did Marion figure out your log-in? If not, quality parody.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Bea is a bully. Someone should stand up to her. Or we can get the pathetic louse that cried to the ljworld.com about whatever I_P posted. I guess that is what it has come down to. Go crying and make the Bosses ban what you don't like.
trinity (anonymous) says…
what the deuce, i_p banned again??? gawd!
i'm feelin' some bullyin' behavior coming on...
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
T_O_B,
It was my post...
Sorry about the quality, not the content.
My multi-tasking capabilties are being tested.
2 cell phones, deskphone, a cranky AS400.
Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…
Teddy Roosevelt (former US Pres.) always said: "Bully For You"....so where's da Beef?
The Pres. made it a rule...for Bullies...
Is "DICK" Cheney considered a Bully..since he shot that old man in the face?
Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…
the best way to deal with a bully..is to find another bully who is bigger and meaner....then u pay him to bully on the bully..and your problem is solved....unless a bigger bully than your bully blows into the scene..then u need start over and contact Bullies "R" Us..and get the deluxe edition of the Bully.
thanksforcoming (anonymous) says…
I got bullied, but who wouldn't have bullied me. I had wrap around glasses that tinted to shades when I went outside. I got made fun of when we got back inside from lunch or recess when 45 minutes afterward my glasses were still shades. Also I had crooked teeth and was about 30 pounds lighter than the lightest girl in class. I think I learned my great sense of humor because of all that. By the time High school rolled around and I found a weightroom and sports, it all stopped. As an educator myself, kids are going to have to take a little ribbing but there needs to be a line drawn. The trick is deciding what that fine line is. Today's kids snap at the smallest most meaningless things, therefore, I don't think there is ever going to be a line drawn. There aren't enough teachers in a school to stop everything and be able to teach effectively.
sunflower_sue (anonymous) says…
Welcome back inmate!
Bullying: Never was a bully so much as that I stood up for the underdog. I hated bullies and, therefore, sometimes, I may have started to pick on them to "show 'em how it feels." They understood why I was picking on them and what it took to get me to back off. (I'm talking grade school here.) I never had to actually physically fight anyone because I was a pretty fit little girl and I don't think the bullies wanted to fight me. *hear me roar*
My youngest was at a gym meet a couple of weeks ago and one of her team-mates had a "mental block" on the floor. Another girl (from the host team) laughed at her. My daughter gave that girl a stern talking to. She told her that she wasn't being a nice person, it wasn't funny, and how would she feel if it were her out there and people were laughing at her. The girl quit laughing and walked away. I don't know that laughing at someone is the same as bullying, but it's the tolerance of our society to put up with bad behavior that is a problem. I don't think that girl will be as quick to laugh at someone else's misfortune the next time...at least I hope not.
consumer1 (anonymous) says…
Thanks Sue, Tolerance is the word I have been looking for. We as a culture seem to tolerate, bad behavior, even when it is hurting someone. I am concerned that through political correctness we become more Tolerant and affraid to stand up for our beliefs.
BrianR (anonymous) says…
"Is it really worse than in the past?"
Absolutely. The schoolyard bully used to be just that, in the schoolyard. Now they're in your email, text messages, on "special" hate sites.
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
"Is it really worse than in the past?"
Absolutely. The schoolyard bully used to be just that, in the schoolyard. Now they're in your email, text messages, on "special" hate sites.
consumer1,
I would like to use your 10:25 post, but change a few words in your post...
"We as a culture, have drifted to tolerating unjustified dragoonish behavior, even when it is hurting someone.
We as a culture have gravitated to watching, not doing.
I am concerned that through political correctness we become TOO tolerant and afraid to stand up for our beliefs."
mom_of_three (anonymous) says…
Bullying doesn't necessarily happen in childhood. I was picked on at work and made miserable for months before I left for greener pastures. They were loud, obnoxious, partiers with an inappropriate sense of humor for the work place. I was quiet and did my job.
My bosses did nothing, only berated me for going to HR.
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
consumer1,
I hope that you will not just acquiesce to these changes, but concur and approve.
Thank you,
Ronaldo
(T_O_B, the thank you and the name are a tribute to you :))
Topside (anonymous) says…
lol, tob i got busy yesterday (1st time ever) and just now checked your response to my WHite Castle post yesterday.....and Yes, yes I did.
mom_of_three (anonymous) says…
There are some good kids out there, such as Sue's. My youngest one has a learning disability, and would get picked on by other kids in school. But she had some great friends, boys and girls, who would stand up to the teaser and put them in their place. In return, she is very helpful with problems more severe than hers.
My middle kid stands up for others, and it doesn't always make her popular. Teasing, taunting, picked on in class - she stands up for those who need up. She would jump in a fight to defend someone who needed it, but it hasn't come to that.
She was picked on for a time in grade school and it made her miserable. But the other kid was jealous and picked on any fault they could find to make her feel bad. She talked to my husband and I, teacher, principal and counselor. It was eventually worked out, but I found the teacher was less than sympathetic.
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
http://www.apahelpcenter.org/articles...
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
I do know that many times we (The OTS community, myself included) "bully" each other on the OTS.
I believe that most of time this is tounge-in cheek (TIC),accept and treat it as such.
Teaching our children to gravitate and reach for self reliance and self-respect through appropriate behavior falls on our shoulders.
Involvement.
We need to be involved in our childrens lives.
We need to be involved in our own self respect.
We need to be involved in the respect of others.
We need to be involved in helping those need help helping themselves.
We need to be involved in not coddling those who need help but do nothing to help themselves.
Crispian (Crispian Paul) says…
Lots of funny and progressivly scarier bullying stories I have (Yoda-speak?)
In kindergarten, a boy in my class was calling me names, including the "B" word. I punched him in the stomach and it never happened again.
In second grade, this one boy used to hit me and chase me and call me names (including the "B" word as well as the "C" word). I slapped him in his face really hard one day and that stopped it. I didn't even get in trouble because my teacher knew he was a bully.
In the fifth grade, I was groped and sexually harrassed along with three other girls by a boy in our class. We went to the school administration and he was expelled.
In middle school, I was the victim of lots of emotional and social bullying. I was 5'7" at 12 years old, was quite voluptuous and was modelling locally at the time. Because of that (I think) I was treated terribly, constantly told I was ugly and fat, excluded purposely, set up with a boy a la "Carrie" and then dumped publicly, etc.
In high school, I had someone slip a note into my locker with a drawing depicting me being gang raped at gunpoint and it said "This is what will happen to you". Unfortunately, even though I reported it, the school did nothing about it because it was a huge school and they did not know who did it.
I don't think I ever bullied, as far as I know. I was raised by parents who were sort of "underdogs" and I gained an appreciation for the under dog.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Topside - I guess no one got it or just thought it was too dirty. I remember back in the infancy of BIG! OTS, those types of posts were commonplace. Now we have R_I on a caffiene binge.
avoice (anonymous) says…
I wonder: Why everyone has stories about the "popular" kids or the "mean girls" but no one wants to step up and admit they were (or still are) among that group? The popular kids grow up to be the parents of the new generation of popular kids. And they continue their practices within their adult communities as well.
The best way to deal with a cyber bully: Don't read his/her messages. What you don't know can't hurt you. Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. But most of all: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
Crispian (Crispian Paul) says…
Posted by George_Braziller (anonymous) on February 15, 2007 at 8:27 a.m. (Suggest removal)
We had a school bully in the class ahead of me who tormented everyone. I was one of his prime targets. It continued for ten years until he graduated from high school. But Karma catches up with bullies -- he was killed in a farming accident two years ago.
I agree that sometimes Karma has a way of coming back. When I was 16, I was sexually assaulted and nearly killed by a "friend" and he ended up being deported to the last country he lived in (he was French and had last lived in Morroco). When he arrived, he tried the same thing with another girl and she slit his throat. No joke.
I had a "guardian" in high school because my mom died and my dad was in jail and she was very verbally and financially abusive to me. She kicked me out of her house and put me out on the streets basically when I was barely 16. Shortly after this happened, her business burnt to the ground on her birthday....
Lesson here: don't mess with me, apparently Karma may have my back :)
beatrice (anonymous) says…
Bone, you know you deserve every cyber-wedgie I've dished out. I'm not a bully, and it isn't my fault if you are a woosie! ; )
dajudge (anonymous) says…
Nobody messed with me, I was teacher's pet!
Besides, who would they copy off if they bullied me?
Ya just gotta play your cards right and all that stuff goes away. And, keep Karma on your side. ;)
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
Involvement.
About 5 years ago, "I kissed an old guy" (as my devil spawn put it).
I was driving home with them, and we came across an unconscious man in a pickup in the middle of the highway. A couple had stopped after observing the man slump over and stop his pickup in the middle of the well traveled two lane highway. The couple did not know what to do, but eventially got someone to stop long enough to call for EMS. "We could not get anyone else to stop"
I swept for injuries, checked pulse and breathing. Finding none, I gave the couple flares, and dragged the man from his vehicle to the road side. The couple to lit the flares and directed traffic. They were eager to help. I preformed solo cpr until joined by a sheriff's deputy. A first responder and EMS arrived at the same time a bit later and took over.
The couple told me 20 or 30 cars passed before I arrived, but only one stopped and offered to call EMS.
My devil spawn who were leaning over the back seat watching the whole event said "Daddy, why were you kissing that old man?"
I explained that he had become unconscious and his heart was not beating nor was he breathing. He needed help.
My devil spawns next question:
.
.
"How come nobody else stopped?"
sunflower_sue (anonymous) says…
"I wonder: Why everyone has stories about the "popular" kids or the "mean girls" but no one wants to step up and admit they were (or still are) among that group? The popular kids grow up to be the parents of the new generation of popular kids. And they continue their practices within their adult communities as well."
-avoice
avoice, that is a near-sighted opinion. I will gladly admit: "I was a popular kid." It did not make me a bully, nor mean (not that you said it did, but it seemed to be implied) and it did not make me spawn the next generation of "popular kids." I have one child who is, indeed, very popular. I have another child who was born with a large target on her forehead. I think maybe what you should have said is that we need to be conscientious of how we raise our children. Also, I'm willing to give the benefit of a doubt that people change. A bully in grade school may just turn out to be a really kind person someday. Your last line sums it up best; "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." That's what I try to teach my kids.
Bone777 (anonymous) says…
Bea - "cyber-wedgie" funny
You are the reason that I go, twice a week, to cyber self-defense classes. Armed with a dictionary and thesaurus, we do finger-tip push-ups and hurl insults in each other.
Woosie no more!!!
Bone777 (anonymous) says…
at each other, on each other, around each other.....
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
T_O_B,
That would be a "passionate caffene binge"
Does the font look jittery?
swamp_rat (anonymous) says…
Yes, I was bullied by a couple of people when I was young, do I think they are still bullies today?... Probably not. Have I ever bullied anyone.... outside of a sibling, (It's a right of passage.) no.
CeeCee (anonymous) says…
I went to school in a small town where everyone knew everyone. There was not excessive bullying that I noticed. I was not bullied that I recall. Nor do I recall ever bullying someone else. Some light hearted teasing maybe, but not bullying.
Off Topic: Just a friendly FYI... Dillon's on Mass and 23rd have the recalled Peter Pan peanut butter on their shelves. I'm not trying to stir up trouble, just trying to be neighborly and let you all know. :)
George_Braziller (anonymous) says…
I forgot to mention the ironic part of the story earlier. The school bully eventually ended up being a school principal and then a superintendent. He was 43 when he died. I always wondered how or if he was ever very responsive to complaints about school bullies.
"We had a school bully in the class ahead of me who tormented everyone. I was one of his prime targets. It continued for ten years until he graduated from high school. But Karma catches up with bullies -- he was killed in a farming accident two years ago."
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
CeeCee~ Neighborly? Wouldn't it have been more neighborly to point it out to the management of the store--then follow up by emailing the corporate office in case the storm manager was clueless--than to "report" them here? I'm sure the company would pull the stuff immediately if someone knew. They don't want to hurt anyone (other than by price gouging) and I'm sure they don't want to get sued.
Now... where were we?
LJW--you cast any more aspersions about my personal qualities and I'm coming down there to beat up all you bespectacled 98-lb weakling newsies. I know where you live. Call me a bully, willya? You'll be crying when I dip your pigtail in that inkwell.
Topside (anonymous) says…
TOB that's too bad. Got a trip to St. Louis in Late March and I can feel the crave starting to build already.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
I would assume if the management of Dillon's was pulling Peter Pan Peanut Butter then they would not need to be further notified or reported.
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
Um... she didn't say they were pulling them. She said they have the recalled jars. (As in--they are sitting on the shelves.) I assume she told us this for that reason--that she's afraid they are STILL sitting on the shelves and she's afraid we'll buy them and get ourselves a case of salmonella. Pay attention, TOB.
(hahaha--you've just been bullied.)
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
Py,
I don't think correcting T_O_B in a strong manner would be considered bullying.
Now if you had said "T_O_B, I'm coming over there you bespectacled 98-lb weakling. I know where you live. You'll be crying when I dip your pigtail in that inkwell."
Then he would have been bullied.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Dip - So, Dillon's recalled the peanut butter yet allowed it to sit on their shelves? That's absolutely brilliant. Puhlease. She obviously intended it to mean in case someone had already purchased PB from the Dillon's. Pay attention, Py.
(Slap a bully down. ha ha)
dajudge (anonymous) says…
You gonna let a little salmonella bully you?
My Karma won't allow it, and I have the power of a Guardian Angel protecting me as a member of the one true church. Bullying doesn't work on me, remember?
Du-uh!
dajudge (anonymous) says…
I keep my Peter Pan under the bed.
dajudge (anonymous) says…
Sam and Hilla will never think to look there!
Azure_Attitude (anonymous) says…
From my post on the actual article:
When I lived in Illinois it was a bleek existence. When we lived in the suburbs, I was from the "poor" family. When we moved to the inner city, I was the "white" kid. And in both places the children were very mean and down right cruel at times. When I moved here I made friends easily and didn't have the stigma of being the "poor kid," or the "white kid" and was no longer an outsider. I didn't expereince any bullying here, but when I saw it happening to others I was going to be damned if I allowed anyone to be bullied in my presence. Several times I told the oppressor that they would have to go through me first. Yeah, I had gotten tall and I think being from Chicago gave me defacto toughness, but it made the jack-offs back off so it was all good.
southerngirl (anonymous) says…
Aw, mom of three, I have a son with learning disabilities too. Man it is so hard to have them come home so upset about being called "stupid" and "retard". He had a teacher tell him that if you don't go very far in school, you wont get a good job and you wont have a house to live in. My son, who struggles everyday to learn, was terrified and upset. I reminded him that athletes and movie stars often don't have advanced degrees and hard work and being smart with your money goes a long way.
I was bullied a few times in school. I never stood up to them, just waited for them to get tired of me and move on.
I middle school I was sexually harassed. I developed earlier than the other girls in my class (now days it would be considered late, girls are developing in 4th and 5th grade) and so I had boys grabbing my chest and bottom, undoing my bra, calling me jugs etc...it was horrifying at the time and teachers did nothing when they SAW it happening and I was too embarassed to tell anyone. It wore off in 8th grade, but 7th grade was a rough year.
Thanks to all of you who stand up for we weak ones, the psychological damage is rough.
d
dajudge (anonymous) says…
Yeah, I know what you mean, they wouldn't let me jump double-dutch either.
CeeCee (anonymous) says…
Pywacket said:
"CeeCee~ Neighborly? Wouldn't it have been more neighborly to point it out to the management of the store--then follow up by emailing the corporate office in case the storm manager was clueless--than to "report" them here? I'm sure the company would pull the stuff immediately if someone knew. They don't want to hurt anyone (other than by price gouging) and I'm sure they don't want to get sued."
How do you know I didn't point it out to the management?? In fact, I did. But I didn't have time to hang around and make sure they followed up and pulled the stock off the shelves. And I wasn't 'reporting' them here. Like I said, I was just trying to be nice and inform you all in case you hadn't heard about the recall and purchased some there recently. Is this how all people are treated here for trying to do a good deed??
dajudge (anonymous) says…
Yep!
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
"That's the Chicago way" - A_A (In a South Side Irish-American brogue)
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Damn, CeeCee!!!
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
CeeCee: I love that old trick.. Tell half the story, leaving out vital info (as in: "I told the mgt, so I sure they will pull the stuff immediately, but just in case:....") Then act all flouncy when someone questions your apparent lack of appropriate action. That's one of the oldest passive-aggressive moves in the books--intentional or not.
Assuming you really told mgt and aren't just saving face now, you are to be commended for your public safety efforts. Thank you for the alert.
But please don't get angry with people when you tell them half a story, they react to it at its face value, then you pull an "aha!" by telling them the vital info you left out the first time, and which led them to think you had not, in fact, done the right thing. How was I to know?!
...and...
Wully Bully!
TOB~
(banging head on wall) You are just getting more and more cornfused.
From the top: The recall was done by the FDA. Why would you think Dillons would authorize recalls of national brands? And, yes--if they WERE, why indeed would that brand be there on their shelves?
I think you are still reading CeeCee's initial post incorrectly (and also have not had the news on all day).
Here's her post--see anything to indicate that she thought Dillon's was pulling the stuff? (Or that she had alerted them?)
"Just a friendly FYI... Dillon's on Mass and 23rd have the recalled Peter Pan peanut butter on their shelves. I'm not trying to stir up trouble, just trying to be neighborly and let you all know. :)"
Now (are you paying attention?): here's CNN's take on the recall:
http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/02/14/...
This has been in the news all day.
Once you get the factoid of who's doing the recalling in place, CeeCee's initial post--and my reply--etc., etc., will all make perfect sense. The sun will come out, the clouds will roll away...and it will still be 11 degrees, but...can't have everything.
I may be a mean ol' bully, but I'm not totally crazy--yet! You're driving me there, though. ;-)
R_I~ It's too late. Somebody already done dipped Bob's pigtail in the ink, which contained a high concentration of lead, which wicked up the pigtail to the scalp and seeped into the brain. You wouldn't be the bully responsible for that dipping, would you?
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
PS~ Bob--you're not dyslexic, are you? Maybe you took that to read, "Dillon's on Mass & 23rd have recalled the ...peanut butter, etc." instead of how it actually reads, which is, "....the recalled....."
That'll be 5 cents, please.
Now come and kick this football.
RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…
Py,
Not I.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Py - You have some anger issues, eh? Can give but not take. Pity. I thought I found someone new to play with.
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
?? Bob, you get mysteriouser and mysteriouser. No anger here--just fun. Do you feel threatened when women speak decisively?
But I am disappointed--you didn't actually address my comments. Did you feel cornered by a bully? ;-)
Seriously--I did wonder if your misreading of that post was a simple case of transposing those two words. That would explain why you thought Dillons was heading up the recall.
PS~ Before lecturing militant on the seriousness of guns in school, you might consider the possibility that he/she is just kidding!
Pink Sock~ That's pretty wild. What did that kid grow up to be, or do you know? It's good that you can laugh at it now, but at the time, it must've been traumatic to have a creep like that go right into your home & drag you out.
dajudge (anonymous) says…
Was that the "dirty Dillons" on Mass.? or the little tiny Dillon's on 6th? Oh, the Kroger Dillon's on 23rd. Ok. I found Wheat Nuts on the bottom shelf there. And anyway, a re-call is out of our jurisdiction. We are only approved for sarcastic dissemination of the News.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Py - Darling. We are arguing over Peanut Butter. I don't even like Peanut Butter which makes me somewhat non-American. Let us let it go. I'd hate for you too poo yourself and I don't need anymore anger pointed my direction.
bevy (anonymous) says…
I was bullied in elementary school. Because I was the "new kid" because I was a "teacher's kid" and because I was chubby. When I ran or jumped rope, the boys in my class would make noises (think those that Godzilla makes when walking). I used to laugh with them but it hurt inside.
What saved me? Two loving, committed parents who let me know how special I was, and who taught me self-reliance and self-respect. Also the knowledge that I was smarter than most of those snot-nosed mouth breathers. (By the way, who did they come to when they needed help with their math? And I was too nice to tell them to stuff it). Wish I could see how they turned out.
Pywacket (anonymous) says…
Dear Bob~ Is that what you do at a debate? Poo? No wonder they kicked you off the team at the end of your junior year. Don't worry--I have much more control than that.
No anger.. just good fun. Not totally clean fun, mind you. Kinda raggedy, drug-through-the-mud fun. But it's all fun. Even if you can't bring yourself to acknowledge your original error that generated all this useless yammering.
Is it time for tomorrow's question yet?
dajudge (anonymous) says…
bevy--I already trumped you on that story, so there.
Well, bullies are Bad! so let's let it stop there, huh?
And don't be a bully or you will be evil and there will be no spanking on this site.
The_Original_Bob (anonymous) says…
Py -
Hugs and kisses.
Bob
ps - The poo reference was from Pink Sock
pss - I am never wrong.
crazyks (anonymous) says…
Bullies made my life hell all through school. It's the main reason I quit school as soon as I was old enough. (16 back then.) I didn't mind the schoolwork at all. But I hated being around the people there.
In grade school, my older brother was picked on because he was smaller than some of the other boys. The same boys who picked on him also picked on me. They cornered me outside the grade school one day (by then they were in junior high), and were harassing me. I told them to leave me alone. I stood up for myself, though I usually didn't. I just happened to have a big, thick, heavy library book with me, and hit one of them in the face as hard as I could with it.
Did that stop it? No. Next year, when I got to junior high, they broke into my locker and threw all my books and things into the trash cans.
I was small and painfully shy and poor as dirt, and didn't have the same things that all the "cool" kids did. That was pretty much enough to guarantee I'd be picked on.
Now that I'm an adult, some of the same people who bullied me still live here in the same town. Now, some of them will actually talk to me like a human being. And it's awfully hard to get rid of that grudge, even after all these years. I ask them why they would possibly want anything to do with me now, when they did nothing but make my life miserable in school?
I certainly don't want anything to do with them.
All I could ever think about while I was at school was getting done for the day and being able to go home.