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Do you keep in touch with your friends from high school?

Asked at Massachusetts Street on April 2, 2007

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Photo of April Tebbe

“I actually just got in touch with my best friend from high school that I hadn’t heard from in about four years. There’s probably only about four people total that I still see.”

Photo of Jeff Jackson

“For the most part, yes. Mainly I keep in touch through e-mail and maybe a phone conversation here and there.”

Photo of Barrett C. Spurgeon

“No, not really. Not on a regular basis anyway; maybe only every 10 or 15 years.”

Photo of Dana Milby

“Some of them. We have lunches, send Christmas cards and get together for birthdays.”

Comments

Linda Aikins 7 years, 8 months ago

35-year class reunion this May. Yep, I do. But there are three that I regularly keep up with. Still my best buds.

trinity 7 years, 8 months ago

my 30th should be this summer-if we're gonna have one SOMEBODY needs to get cookin' on the plans!!!! but i digress...in a community such as the one i live in you can't help but see people from school fairly often, at least those of us that have stayed. but nah, don't really intentionally keep in touch-which is sad, some of 'em i really miss!

my my somebody is verbose today, lol-my posts are generally very short! work avoidance. ;)

Termcd4 7 years, 8 months ago

I still keep in touch with old classmates...and run into many of them around town as well. Wal mart is a big social reunion when ever we go!

schula 7 years, 8 months ago

I still keep in touch with a few of my high school friends, mostly via email. We have one person in our class that keeps track of everyone. Just had my 25-year reunion last summer.

Topside 7 years, 8 months ago

Until a couple of weeks ago I would have said no, but I ran into a former classmate of mine (FYI- female classmate) and we really hit it off...COMPLETELY out of the blue. So its going pretty good in Topsideville!

btw- cheerleader captain. :)

TheNorthlander 7 years, 8 months ago

If it weren't for popular interactive 2.0 websites like MySpace, Facebook and Yahoo 360...probably not.

This year will be my 10-year reunion too.

Do people go to their 10-year reunions????

OldEnuf2BYurDad 7 years, 8 months ago

I really lost touch with all of them. Two of them went to KSU (nearly ended the relationships), the other moved to NY to become a photographer.

When my 10 year reunion letter showed up, they were planning a Saturday night "barn party". My attitude was that I left barn parties behind a long time ago, so I have never attended a reunion. Besides, there were 400 in my graduating class. It's not the same as my wife and her Baldwin High reunions with 20 people.

More importantly, I think I've lived a lot since high school. For some, high school is the high point. I'm realizing now that if you are living your life the way it should be lived, then you never have "the" high point (as in, "it's all downhill from here"). Life should be a constant journey of growth and new experiences.

sgtwolverine 7 years, 8 months ago

A couple. Coincidentally, that's roughly how many friends I had in high school.

Okay, I had a few more than that, but only a couple good ones. Those are the ones I still see.

H_L could have an interesting answer for this question, too. And check it out -- this time I actually looked to see if he answered before I said that!

sgtwolverine 7 years, 8 months ago

Oh, I should probably note that I was homeschooled, so I didn't actually hve any classmates. So I have a high school reunion every day.

Motivation 7 years, 8 months ago

Sad to say, No. I attended three different high schools. The high school that I graduated from was in Washington DC. I have no idea what happened to any of my friends from there. I can only hope they all found the motivation that I did to make something of their lives. I have kept in touch with some childhood friends though. We will never part.

canyon_wren 7 years, 8 months ago

I just went to my 50th Reunion last fall in CA. It was a great one--the best yet. There were almost 200 there, counting spouses--many came who had not been to a single other reunion. I had only attended the 20th, 25th, 40th and 45th before this one. Since I had attended three high schools (this one the last two years), I wasn't among those who had been together "since kindergarten," etc. But I still have a strong affection for many of those attending.

It seems like the reunions get better as you get older--fewer people are really trying to impress anymore.

As far as the OTS question is concerned, I only keep regularly in touch with one good friend, mainly because my two sisters were also my best friends in high school and still are.

Even if you didn't have close friends, I strongly recommend attending a class reunion--it's a great "sociological study," if nothing else. Those who were the "movers and shakers" during high school years often turn out to be pretty uninteresting and you discover that some you never noticed before have become very remarkable persons. Don't miss this chance to see what happens to everyone!

thanksforcoming 7 years, 8 months ago

My best high school friends all moved to Lawrence, so we spend some time together. Other than that, I don't. I see them from time to time when I go home but usually find out that I don't ahve much to talk abnout with them, so a "hi" in passing is about it.

jonas 7 years, 8 months ago

Got a ten year coming up this year, I think. I haven't heard anything to date but if there is one, and I'm in the country, then I'll go to it. It would be a good excuse for me to wear my white suit and hat.

Stylin'!

rhd99 7 years, 8 months ago

I caught up with my friends from high school 2 years ago at our 10th, & it was fun. I wish I could stay in touch with them more often.

Topside 7 years, 8 months ago

Yes everyday is a class reunion for Sgt because he still lives with his mom. ZING!

dajudge 7 years, 8 months ago

Yep, I don't keep in touch. Went to my 35th this year and saw about 15 of the 39 of us. Surprised there were'nt more old, bald, fat guys. I sure enjoyed hugging all the girls though. Hadn't been to one since our 5th. No one in particular I wanted to see, but it was a good time.

sunflower_sue 7 years, 8 months ago

I keep in touch with 4 of my girlfriends. Missed my 20th reunion last year because my niece got married on the same night. (I need to remember to thank her for that.) I kind of cringe because I'm one of those people who tend to forget or not recognize people that I once knew. It's not shallowness, it's a severe brain malfunction on my part. I ran into a girl a month ago that I was very fond of in HS (we were on the pom squad together...OK...no jokes). I could not remember her name or where I even knew her from. She remembered me well. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die! It all came rushing back to me, of course. How do you explain that? She was always the sweetest person. I am a total idiot!

KSChick1 7 years, 8 months ago

My old high school was shut down and the land sold last year, after over 40 plus years in operation. (this was a boarding school my dad sent me to in Oklahoma) We are going to have an all-school reunion this summer. So far, I'm going with another alumni, and we are trying to get one more of our "clique" to go. However, since this school had mostly either missionary's kids or juvenile delinquents, I'm guessing the total turnout will be low. Myself, I am going to party like it's 1989. Well, better than that actually. I did not know CRAP in 1989 but I am better informed now! (through "research") I hope this does not make someone ask for my post to be deleted, but does anyone else remember sneaking around to "mess around" when they were in high school? I remember when I thought foreplay was, "come on, we have time before detention!" or "there's nobody under the bleachers!" Geesh. How little we knew back then!

Flap Doodle 7 years, 8 months ago

I figure most of the people I went to high school with are living in wattle and daub huts. Of course, they probably think I am at some funny farm.

mom_of_three 7 years, 8 months ago

I went to two different high schools in South Central Kansas, and I run into high school friends in Lawrence and Kansas City from time to time. I don't keep in touch with too many others, although I did attend my 20th.
My husband refused to attend his 20th.
It's nice to hear how people's lives turned out.

Linda Endicott 7 years, 8 months ago

My 30th reunion would have been two years ago, if anybody bothered to organize one. I don't think they did. Never read about it, anyway, and I'm still in the same place.

Wouldn't matter if they did. I work weekends, and they always have reunions on Fri. or Sat. nights. I wouldn't be able to go anyway.

There's only two people from school that I've kept in touch with at all, and then very sporadically. For the most part, the kids I went to high school with didn't like me, and the feeling was mutual.

sunflower_sue 7 years, 8 months ago

"Of course, they probably think I am at some funny farm."

snap, you saved me a seat at the lunch table, didn't you?

H_Lecter 7 years, 8 months ago

Every once in a while I go into the meat locker in the basement and hold a mini reunion.

Linda Aikins 7 years, 8 months ago

We had 44 in our class and people are right - the wallflowers turned into college cheerleaders and successful businesswomen. The popular girls are way overweight and not well kept. I'm somewhere in between!

TOB - off to Mullinville and back tomorrow for my last aunt's funeral. I called Fleeners yesterday morning to find out what time the services were. The little gal that answered was a hoot. I told her my name and said I had a couple of questions about Esther Lowe. She said, Esther Rowe? I said no, Esther Lowe. She said, do you want to speak to her? I said, no honey, she's dead. She's one of your clients. She did the ohhhhhhh answer.

Gotta love the small towns.

oldfashiongirl 7 years, 8 months ago

Hi,

I guess this question was meant for Lawrencians, but I want to put in my 2 cents worth, for I guess I'm the oldest poster here-will be 81 in August, but feel like 20.

We had our last reunion in 2005--our 60th-- and all are looking forward to 2010, though we have lunches and in September we have BBQ ON THE RIVER here in Western Ky, where we set up a tent and brng photos and obits!! I have never missed a one since 1965, when we had our 20th and since I never went to school a day in my life on Monday, washday, and Tuesday, ironing day, I'm not sure I should have graduated. Thank goodness for name tags, at these events, for many I do not recognize . We can claim we know Ann Coulter, as her mother graduated in my class of '45, but I certainly do not agree with her way of thinking.

Also, as Carolina Wren mentioned, many of the "movers and shakers" of the day are not around anymore. Out of a class of 162, there had been 57 deaths among us, most of them lawyers, doctors, and a vice president of Philip Morris Tobacco. None of the people in their little cliques of many years ago are here anymore, just us regular average citizens. You really should go to the reunions as it good to keep in touch. My alltime best friend, whom I "stood up" for at her wedding, has come down with Alzheimer's and cannot carry on a conversation at all.

In reviewing some earlier posts, I think you meanmouth coact Self too much. He seems to have an excellent personality and seems to have the respect of the KU players. I watched every playoff game and rooted for the whole team. (You sure beat our UK's socks off.) I think Self would be an excellent choice for UK and they have really deep pockets, so I will put his name in the pot for our next coach, but be warned, if they lose 2 games in a row, he'll be out of there.

Linda Aikins 7 years, 8 months ago

Gal, love your post! You are 81 and quite computer literate - very nice!

Now, you can't have Coach Self. Sorry. You have to play nice! ;)

tyger_lily 7 years, 8 months ago

I went to a small school in rural Kansas. When my 10th reunion came around a couple years ago, I had no interest at all in going. Everybody loved to pick on the overweight redhead with glasses so why would I want to go through that again. And no, I don't have any contact at all with the few friends I had back then.

canyon_wren 7 years, 8 months ago

Don't know if I should be making the following comment, but here goes:

I connected with classmates.com for a while, and I am pretty sure they MAKE UP names of people who were SUPPOSED to be in your class--just to "pad" the list. I have a pretty darn good memory for names (had to have, after all the moves in my life) and, coupled with references to yearbooks, I am positive that a lot of the people they list for all three of the high schools (one of which was fairly small) I went to, never attended, and probably don't even exist. That is so disgusting! Has anyone else come to that conclusion?

Calliope877 7 years, 8 months ago

My 10 year came and went a couple of years ago, and I don't think I missed out on anything. I didn't have any really close friends in highschool because most of the people I went to school with were two-faced snobs, so I have no desire to ever see them again.

I'm from Oskaloosa...enough said.:P

Linda Aikins 7 years, 8 months ago

I'm sure we'll see his signs. Is there one of you there? hahaha! He is a idjit!

Most likely it was. She coudn't get my phone number right either. They did finally call me back - at 10:30 last night.

Linda Aikins 7 years, 8 months ago

Are we going to have to do those common tater jokes all over again, R_I?

acg 7 years, 8 months ago

calliope, you're from oskie? Having had your ten year a few years ago, you probably went to school with my nephews. They, thankfully, graduated and ran like mad and never looked back, as I always told them they should. And when you were there the school was filled with two faced snobs? Wow, it changed a lot from when I was there. I graduated Oskie in 91 and the two years that I was sentenced to that horrid little sh*tsplat it was filled with hicks and idiots. You know the type: close minded, rebel flag flying morons that have their wallet strapped to a chain and think anyone of any differing type should be run out of town on a rail, if not lynched immediately. I went to my 10 year reunion, if only to laugh inwardly at all of those that were now doomed to the trailer park. It was actually cathartic to see the prom queen fat and the prom king balding. I am only friends with one person from my graduating class and we talk daily so there's no reason for my to keep up with any of the rest of them. I do, however, hear a tidbit now and then. This one's in jail, that one's in rehab this other one has had her 4th illegitimate baby. Most of Oskaloosa, KS could be obliterated from the face of the planet and the gene pool would only grow richer.

betti81 7 years, 8 months ago

I keep in touch with quite of few of my high school friends/buddies. Myspace helps with that alot. My ten year will be in a few years but first I have to attend my boyfriend's 10 year next year. He went to a huge school and I can't imagine not knowing everyone who walks through the door. (I went to a small school...mentioned above by one of the posters. I had a much better time there apparently than she did. Although I can understand how brutal it can be going to such a small school.)

I_Bejewel 7 years, 8 months ago

canyon_wren, I don't trust classmates.com either. Not that I feel my class has false entries, but that I get emails on a regular basis saying some odd number of people are looking for me, and if I pay for the access, I can find out who. Yeah right!

Regarding the question, sadly, I don't really keep in touch with many of my high school friends. I'd sure like to see some of them again though (missed my 10 yr, and don't think there was a 15 yr, so maybe in 2011).

acg 7 years, 8 months ago

Yeah, betti, I'm still bitter about it. LOL. My parents, god love them, took me out of LHS, where I was getting an actual top quality education and made me go to that hick school. I got to Oskie on my first day and enrolled and the guidance counselor (who was wearing black socks pulled up to her knees and shorts--I'll never forget that and I don't know why) told me my elective choices were: typing, 10-key, computer and spanish. That was it, all, finito, nothing else but that. I was a gifted student so that place bored me to tears and so like all kids that are bored I created a bit of my own excitement there. I'm sure some of the teachers could tell some stories. I do miss Mr. Snyder though (art teacher). That guy cracked me up.

KSChick1 7 years, 8 months ago

I belong to and use classmates.com quite frequently. I don't think they pad their lists. What would be the motivation to do that? I have used the generic feature where you can see your profile and other's to a certain extent, I also pay the $15 every 3-4 months or so for full access. I think it's a great tool if you have no other way to find your classmates. Having gone to a private school in OK, classmates.com is one of the only ways we have to keep in touch with each other. Especially since almost all of us came from other states or other countries and almost none of us stayed in the town where the school was located.

oldfashiongirl 7 years, 8 months ago

Canyon_wren,

Aren't you living in Utah? I had a supreme "senior moment" when I referred to your 9:53 AM post as being "Carolina wren." It was a good post and I had just seen my 2 carolina wrens in my back yard and I just got mixed up. Sorry.

Gootsie, I'm trying to play nice, but all is fair in "love, war and basketball coaches." I am only putting his name out there and I'm sure they have already thought about him as a replacement for Tubby. You and I both know that the bottom line will be how much money is involved, and if Coach Donovan's Gators win tonight, I'm fairly certain they will pay just about any amount to keep him.

betti81 7 years, 8 months ago

LOL acg. I too was bored there. Actually tried to get the rules changed so I could only go half days my senior year. I couldn't if I wanted to play sports...so I filled my afternoons with woodshop and TWO of Mr. Snyder's classes. He was awesome about letting me do whatever I felt like doing (so long as I 'looked' busy and wasn't 'picking' on the freshmen boys in my class--which they liked by the way because I was senior at the time ;). Nothing formal about his class! And I am betting you had the same counselor as I did because I sure she has been there for years. I did like that I was able to take college courses during the school day.

I guess I knew more of what I was getting into with the hicks and stuff and just dealt with them (I moved to Oskie from a small town in CO). I just took from there what I could and moved on. I don't visit except to see my grandma and grandpa who still live there. My parents have since moved on.

Oh...and I was not the prom queen but I was queen of courts and am not fat and don't have any illigitimate children...that I know of anyway. LOL

sunflower_sue 7 years, 8 months ago

betti81, glad you didn't let yourself go! lol! My mom once had a conversation with a nice woman (just a bit younger than myself) and the girl was talking about her HS reunion. She said she thought it was so funny that all the cheerleaders and pom girls were now fat ogres. (I cheered for 2 yrs, poms for 2 yrs.) My mom just pleasantly told her that her daughter was a member of those groups. I asked my mom if she told her that I weighed 300 pounds and had just a few teeth left by the time I got out of rehab. She said no, the poor lady was sufficiently embarrassed enough. :D

bevy 7 years, 8 months ago

Just went to my 20 year reunion last May, for the high school I spent 3 of 4 years in. (moved my senior year) It was amazing (and hilarious) to see that the dumb sleazy girls were still dumb and sleazy. I spent an appalling 10 minutes listening to one of them brag about the first time her son came home drunk. She thought it was awesome!

I am still in very close (almost daily) touch with my two best girlfriends, one of whom has moved back to her hometown after a few years away. She's raising her kids there and likes it. I wasn't a "native" there, my dad was a teacher and I attended 4 elementary schools. But I did Jr. High and Fresh-Jun years at that school.

As to the one I graduated from, haven't been back. It's a tiny town on the OK border. Still in touch with a couple friends, but they have the reunion on thanksgiving weekend and I'm always busy then.

Gootsie - I knew a gal from Mullinville once. She was a camp counselor at the Church Camp I attended. Her first name was Marcie, I think. It was EONS ago.

canyon_wren 7 years, 8 months ago

oldfashioned_girl--Yes, I'm in Utah where there are more canyon wrens than carolina wrens! Didn't go to high school in this state, though--in Texas (the small school) and 2 different h.s.'s in Calif.

kansasnative 7 years, 8 months ago

My 20 year is this September and I am really looking forward to it. I am still in touch with many of my classmates. I am on our reunion committee so it is always fun when a reunion rolls around to get back in touch with the ones that moved away. It's nice to live in the past for a weekend but it is always nice to get back to the present afterwards. There were over 600 in our class (LHS '87) so it is a total EVENT when even 1/2 the class gets back together! We were a really close class and I am excited to see everyone again this year!

Calliope877 7 years, 8 months ago

acg,

Hi.:) We had a few of the types you described, if we had more, I didn't pay any attention to them. I grew up there, so I was doomed to 12 years in that horrid school...maybe that made me blissfully blind to the hickishnish or something, but I still hated it. From what I remember, a lot of the "popular" kids wore preppy clothes from the Gap, Old Navy, and places like that. Our prom queen was one of the ugliest girls in the class, and I can't remember who our King was...thank god. I wasn't close to anyone in my class, despite the fact I was their classmate since Kindergarten, but as I said before, most if not all of them were stuck up snobs for reasons known only to them.

My sister graduated in 1989, so you may or may not have been in highschool with her around the same time. I graduated in 1995.

Linda Endicott 7 years, 8 months ago

I joined classmates a long time ago, back when it was a free service, and claimed it always would be...kind of like NetZero...go figure.

I have never been contacted by anyone from my class, and have never contacted anyone else through them. The one person I've talked to from my class I found through Yahoo Messenger, of all things. He remembered me, but I had absolutely no recollection of him at all. Of course, he was one of the football players back then, so we weren't in the same social set at all. But we've talked a lot since then.

The other one I talk to occasionally I found through a web search. She works at a university, and I found her work e-mail that way.

As for the classmates thing...over and over, in the last few months, they've been sending me e-mails saying "someone posted on your profile" and said that for such and such dollars, I could "find out who"...

Well, recently they had a free access period, so I looked at my profile. And the only post there was from the classmates.com staff.

I also think they tout it as being much more popular than it is. Yeah, it seems like a lot of people register there, but also during that free period I found out that practically no one in my class has a profile, or an e-mail addy listed, or anything.

Looks like the majority of people listed on classmates don't pay for the service, either.

auturgy 7 years, 8 months ago

p>classmates.com is a waste.

I guess I'm the youngest here...? I graduated in 2004...keep in touch with nearly all of my best friends from high school, and hope to keep it that way. In the world of Facebook and MySpace, I have a feeling that it will be easier.

Jace 7 years, 8 months ago

Tyger, I bet you're a hottie now, huh?

:)

And a red-headed hottie at that! :O

budwhysir 7 years, 8 months ago

UM how long ago was that?? I cant remember,

sgtwolverine 7 years, 8 months ago

Auturgy, good call on the facebook thing. It does make things a lot easier. It's not much for in-depth communication, but for just keeping in touch, it's great.

Calliope877 7 years, 8 months ago

betti81 and acg,

Mr. Snyder was cool.:) I think he drank while he was teaching...but, if I was teaching in that school, I'd drink too.L

lynnd 7 years, 8 months ago

my class had a 5 year reunion, and oddly it was way more fun than the 10 year reunion we had a few years ago. at the 10 year one people seemed to revert back to their high school cliques a lot more than they did before. at the 5 year reunion people seemed much more genuinely interested in everyone else, even those who weren't in the same social circles. it was strange because i always hear that the reunions get better as you get older. i'm hoping that's true.

i do enjoy going and seeing what people are up to these days and i must admit i secretly laugh at the girls who were "all that" in high school and really never went anywhere in their lives.

i only keep up with a couple of my best friends...though through myspace i have reconnected with a lot of other classmates.

debbiejurkovac 6 years, 8 months ago

My closest friend has passed away and a few other friends have disappeared. I triedsearching for them with no luck. I can only keep in touch with two friends from schoolthese days. Looking back, I liked high school for two reasons, my friends and most ofthe people I cared about were still around.

iplaysupernintendo 6 years, 8 months ago

I've only been out of H.S. since 2003, but I've already weeded out the "temporary" friends. I talk to the ones that matter via email/phone regularly still.

notajayhawk 6 years, 8 months ago

Hard to keep in touch - so many of them won't have e-mail access until after parole...*****KSChick1 (Anonymous) says: "I belong to and use classmates.com quite frequently. ... I think it's a great tool if you have no other way to find your classmates."Personally I feel that if I have to work that hard to track them down - why would I?******lynnd (Anonymous) says: "my class had a 5 year reunion, and oddly it was way more fun than the 10 year reunion we had a few years ago."Ditto. Our five year was pretty informal, just a bunch of us getting together at the lake for a picnic. I skipped the 10 year but heard it was pretty bad. My 20 year was kind of fun - I really didn't want to go, but it turned out I was one of the last handful having breakfast at the diner at 7:00 the next morning. People were still in their cliques, but for the opposite reasons; the former outcasts all seemed to be enjoying their lives and were a pretty happy group, the former "in" crowd were all over the hill, bitter, wondering why the world hadn't been handed to them the way they expected, and so miserable that the only reason they stuck together was because nobody else would have them.

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