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Letters to the Editor

Letter: Anger management

February 22, 2014

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To the editor:

How very sad that the place we send our children to learn, where they can learn not only facts but also how people deal with problems, is now elaborating on how to hit children!

Up to the age of 18, leaving bruises, open hand. How decisive and precise. What we need is not to get more precise about hitting children, but rather three very succinct bills:

  1. Never hit a child.

  2. Anger management for anyone to whom we entrust the care of our children.

  3. How to deal with problems which do arise.

When I was teaching, some children came over to me and asked what I would do if a child did something awful. Before I could answer, another child jumped in, “She’d talk and she’d talk and she’d talk!”

For starters, ask the child why they did whatever it was. Ask them how they think they can fix, or maybe prevent, whatever it was that happened. Ask them perhaps to think of another way they could have handled the situation.

This responds to the problem situation in an educational way, not only for the particular child, but for the other children as well.

Or, we can just slug the kid and teach the class that that is how mature people deal with problems.

Comments

Abdu Omar 9 months, 4 weeks ago

Spanking by a parent is not done in anger and if it is, it is not spanking it is abuse. I would never give the right to spank my child to anyone else. As a parent, the discipline of my child is my problem so i don't agree to allow teachers to spank. I taught high school for 14 years and I never touched a student in anger. When one is angry that is not the time to discipline. I always asked the student to come after school. then I tried to determine why and what punishment fit the infraction, but never spanking. Most of the time, I involved the parents if the infraction was serious enough. And sometimes the parent spanked the student. That is their problem and how dare anyone tell a parent how to discipline their children, unless they are not.

John Graham 9 months, 4 weeks ago

So you taught high school and "most of the time you involved the parents if the infraction was serious enough." If the infraction was serious, the parents always (not most of the time) should have been notified.

"Sometimes the parent spanked the student". A spank is when a toddler is tapped once on the bottom to get their attention at the immediate moment when they do something seriously wrong (like run into the street despite the parent telling them to stop). When a parent is disciplining a high school student for a "serious infraction" that occurred hours earlier, they are giving that student a whipping. There is a huge difference between a single spank to a toddler's bottom to get their immediate attention to prevent a potentially life threatening action and a whipping to a high schooler as a means of discipline for an infraction that happened hours or days earlier. You yourself said that spanking in anger is abuse. If you knew of a parent whipping their high school student as a means of discipline and failed to report it to the authorities you abdicated your responsibility to that student. You failed your duty to that student.

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