New York Never mind a text that meekly asks “will u go 2 prom w/me?”
Today’s teenagers are taking a cue from elaborately staged wedding proposals, inviting each other to prom with flash mobs, scavenger hunts, homemade music videos and even airplane banners flying over the beach.
And while coming up with clever or romantic ways to ask someone to prom isn’t an entirely new concept, the effort and expense going into the big ask these days has given rise to a new term: Prom-posal.
“This year is the first time we’ve done prom invitations,” said Remy Colin, owner of Aerial Messages, a company that charges $600 for a plane to fly a banner with a message on it. “It’s expensive as hell for a high schooler who doesn’t have any money, but we’ve done two in the past three months,” one in Myrtle Beach, S.C., and one in Tampa, Fla.
Alex Chichkov, 17, arranged for a plane trailing “Come to prom with me, Kayla?” to fly over a student fundraiser his girlfriend Kayla Bennett was attending at King High School in Tampa in March.
“I’ve seen it for weddings and I wanted to do something huge or unique,” said Alex, a senior who paid for the flyover with money he earned working at a family business. “I didn’t want to do anything generic. In the history of the school, no one has done anything that big. It’s going to be my only prom, first time ever, last time ever, with someone who’s been my girlfriend for two and a half years, so it deserves to be that big.”
The plane flew over a student Relay for Life event, which raises money for the American Cancer Society, right before the talent show, while a sound system played a Michael Buble cover of the Frank Sinatra song, “Come Fly With Me.”
“Everyone was cheering and she had the biggest smile on her face,” Alex said. Naturally, Kayla said yes.
Rebecca Leet, 17, had an audience of over 250 people for a prom-posal from her boyfriend, Joe Nelson, 18. Rebecca and Joe both worked on a school performance of “Thoroughly Modern Millie” at Collierville High School in Collierville, Tenn. At the end of the show, their teacher, Keith Salter, told the audience to stay put for one more thing.
Joe came out on stage, got down on one knee and pulled out a box with a ring in it. “It’s not what you think!” Salter quickly assured the audience, as some gasped, thinking it was a teenage marriage proposal.
Then Joe popped the question — the prom question.
“She got all teary and said yes,” Joe said. “It made my day just knowing I did something memorable and she really enjoyed it.”
Nancy Darling, an Oberlin College professor of psychology who studies adolescent development, said teenage relationships go through stages, one of which is taking the romance public.
“It’s a public declaration of ‘I really want to go to the prom, and I like you!’” she said.
She added that despite stereotypes of teens “as sex-driven and aggressive,” data shows kids are now becoming “more conservative” socially, with less sexual intercourse than previous generations. “We’re back to being romantic,” she said.
And while some prom-posals come from girls, most are planned by boys, letting them show off “this whole sweet side that doesn’t get a lot of chance to come up,” said Darling. “We’ve really underestimated the romance of guys.”
The Heart Bandits, a “romance event coordinating company” that usually arranges marriage proposals, has, for the first time this year, gotten requests for help with prom-posals, said Michele Velazquez, co-owner of the company.