Archive for Thursday, August 26, 2010

Woods’ ex-wife went ‘through hell’

August 26, 2010


Elin Nordegren said she never had an inkling.

She said she never hit her famous husband with a golf club.

She said she’s never felt so sad and devastated, and hopes she never will again.

All this and more from the woman the world has waited to hear from since that Thanksgiving night in November that shattered her marriage and the carefully crafted image of Tiger Woods.

“I’ve been through hell,” Nordegren said in an interview with People magazine released Wednesday, two days after she and Woods were officially divorced. “It’s hard to think you have this life, and then all of a sudden — was it a lie? You’re struggling because it wasn’t real. But I survived. It was hard, but it didn’t kill me.”

She and the couple’s children, 3-year-old daughter Sam and 18-month-old son Charlie, have settled a mile from her ex-husband in a rented, five-bedroom house in a gated community in Windermere, Fla. — where Woods needs her permission to get past the guard. The two are sharing custody of their children.

She credits therapy and long runs with helping her deal with the last nine months, and she also kept a journal of her thoughts and emotions. “I haven’t gone back to read what I wrote in December and January; I’m afraid to,” she said.

She has not watched “one minute of golf.” But she can laugh at things now, calling those “Saturday Night Live” and “South Park” parodies of her “pretty hysterical” (though totally untrue).

“She’s been amazing,” said Mia Parnevik, for whom Nordegren was working as a nanny when she met Woods more than a decade ago. “She has held her head high. To go through a divorce is not easy for anybody. To go through what she’s gone through is not humane.”

She is not, however, without scars. In the days before the divorce was finalized, Nordegren’s long, blonde hair began falling out.

“She’s held her head high. She has not caved in,” said Parnevik, wife of pro golfer Jesper Parnevik. “She’s not said bad things about him, and that’s kind of an easy game to get into.”


Ron Holzwarth 7 years, 5 months ago

I am sorry that Elin Nordegren went through hell!

But I think that life is much worse for many thousands of other women that are in the same situation, but without hundreds of millions of dollars to get them through the tough times.

But their plight is not newsworthy, because their ex-husbands are not famous.

Amy Heeter 7 years, 5 months ago

For sure she is not the most devestated woman ever. He cheated;big deal. There are other women who are beaten within an inch of thier lives every day. Get over it and give yourself a scalp treatment.

BorderRuffian 7 years, 5 months ago

What Tiger did was wrong. And it hurt good people along the way. But WHY is Elin's plight portrayed as so much more devastating than what happens in thousands of other marriages? Broken relationships hurt. They hurt the poor, average, middle-class, upper class, etc., just the same. The only difference is that Elin got hepta-bajillions to help her get over it, while the average person must pickup the scraps left over from the broken marriage and try to begin a new life. Worse when kids are involved.

Elin's and Tiger's broken marriage is no worse or no better than anyone elses. The only difference is that even apart, they have greater assetts and advantages, not greater distress.

jlzack 7 years, 5 months ago

well said all of you, I've been divorced twice & had little or no money to get me through it... I survived..... she needs to suck it up & get on with life.... yes, he's a LOSER!!!

Thinking_Out_Loud 7 years, 5 months ago

I pity you, wilbur. I don't believe I've ever seen you show an ounce of empathy for another person, nor do I believe I've ever seen you indicate that you value any relationship you have or have had.

Flap Doodle 7 years, 5 months ago

Tiger (got) Woods' just another innocent saintly person of color being lynched in the press by the white devils!

pumpkinpatch 7 years, 5 months ago

Divorce happens. Happens to a lot of people. Cheating happens in way too many marriages. But it happens. Time for that Babe to turn the page and get on with her life in a new chapter.

ThatGirl2 7 years, 5 months ago

Apparently, I'm in the minority in sympathizing with Elin. Perhaps it is because my divorce was also the result of mulitple affairs. Obviously, if you haven't been through it, you simply can't wrap your mind around the complete devastation that it brings. You do question whether your whole life (and marriage) has been a lie. You wonder what you could have done. You wonder how someone could do this to you. You ask yourself how you will ever put together a life that is as happy and fullfilling as the one you had. Artichokeheart: It doesn't take being "beaten" to achieve real sadness and heartbreak. Abuse is abuse, and it shouldn't be measured in terms of "my pain is worse than yours."

All that being said....what Elin will learn is that there IS life after this, and in many cases, it is bigger, brighter, and far more empowering and wonderful than you could have ever imagined.

Amy Heeter 7 years, 5 months ago

Let me weight that. Wounded ego vs scarred for gor life? No, I still say suck it up.

ThatGirl2 7 years, 5 months ago

Well, for your sake then, I certainly hope that when life hands you any trials or tribulations, you don't look to anyone for sympathy. Myself, I chose to be an empathetic member of society.

Amy Heeter 7 years, 5 months ago

You have no idea what life has or has not handed me. What I do know is the difference between success and failure is getiing up and moving on. Crying over spilled milk just leave a sour odor that lingers for a long time.

RoeDapple 7 years, 5 months ago

Turns out he's more of a "Cheetah" than a "Tiger" . . .

salad 7 years, 5 months ago

The guys who won WWII with their bare hands went through hell. The kid from DeSoto who was locked in the attic and nearly starved to death by his own mother went through hell. Elin Nordgren lived in the lap of luxury few of us can even imagine, and though divorced, gets to land on a $100 million pillow. Not hell.

Thinking_Out_Loud 7 years, 5 months ago

Her life-partner and companion and, one hopes, best friend betrayed her trust and faith in the most intimate way possible. That seems pretty hellish to me, there, salad. Dollars don't reduce emotional trauma. I can't imagine that you'd say if the WWII vets or the young man in DeSoto ended up with $100M that they had "landed on a pillow" and that somehow reduced the hellishness of their experiences.

Then again, I've misjudged people before.

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