Wichita ? Bob Handshy talks with his wife, Rebekah, every day about the weather, the kids’ school projects, the new bathroom floor.

He chats with the kids.

He plays Hangman with his son, Jace. He tells the children “Be good” and “I love you” and “Good night.”

He just does it from 1,900 miles away.

Bob Handshy, who was laid off from Cessna in June, is doing contract work for an aircraft manufacturing plant in Seattle. Rebekah, a stay-at-home mom, lives in Wichita with the couple’s three kids.

They are among millions of American couples living apart — sometimes time zones or hemispheres apart — because of work. So-called commuter marriages may be increasing in Wichita as layoffs force more workers to look elsewhere for jobs, a local expert says.

“This isn’t something we’d choose,” says Rebekah Handshy, 26. “But right now it’s the best option, so we deal with it and make it work.”

In 2006, the U.S. Census Bureau reported that 3.6 million married Americans not including separated couples were living apart from their spouses. In March, Worldwide ERC, the association for work force mobility, released a report showing that three-fourths of relocation agents surveyed had dealt with at least one commuter marriage, a 53 percent increase since 2003.

“Families are continually changing,” said Mike Duxler, a professor of social work at Newman University and manager of the Marriage For Keeps research project.

Today’s families migrate more, Duxler said. “Technology and ease of travel means people have the ability to meet and date and even marry and live at a distance, if necessary, so that is happening more and more.”

The recession and ever-tightening job market have people looking greater distances for work and may prompt more couples to opt for commuter marriages, Duxler said.

“Some families will do better than others,” he said. “But at the very least it is a strain on all families.”

Rebekah Handshy said she and her husband considered several options in the weeks leading up to his layoff. Finding another job in Wichita looked bleak for Bob. And they didn’t want to put their youngest child, Jersey, in day care so Rebekah could work full time as a hairstylist.

When Bob landed contract work in Seattle, they briefly considered moving the family. But the couple’s house, extended families “and my entire support network” are in Wichita, Rebekah said.

So he moved. And she stayed.

“We didn’t know if this would be two months or six months or a year,” she said. “We hope it’s short-term. He really wants to be here. He wants to be home.”

In the meantime, Rebekah tends the house, pays the bills and cares for the children. She and Bob talk on their cell phones a few times a day. Every night at bedtime, she passes the phone around so Bob can wish the kids good night. Once a week, she gathers the children ages 8, 7 and 19 months around the laptop for a video chat with Dad.

Rebekah said it helps to know other couples dealing with long-distance marriages.

Bob shares his Seattle apartment with two men whose wives or girlfriends live in Wichita.

“Our relationship is strong. We’re truly partners,” she said. “This is economics. It’s something Bob needed to do for our family … and I’m glad he’s that kind of husband and father.”