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Woman still in hospital after spending 2 years living in bathroom

March 27, 2008


— A woman who spent nearly two years in a bathroom, sitting on the toilet so long that the seat adhered to sores on her body, remains hospitalized and in pain from medical procedures, family members said Wednesday.

Kory McFarren, 37, called the Ness County Sheriff's Office in late February to say something was wrong with his girlfriend. When authorities arrived at the home, they found Pam Babcock, 35, stuck to the toilet, which they think she had sat on for about a month.

Pat Bollinger, the woman's aunt, said she has been designated the family spokeswoman and is the only family member allowed to call Babcock at the hospital. She calls daily to ask how Babcock is doing and is told only now that she is the same. She asks every day to talk to her, but Babcock has only agreed to talk to her one time for about 10 minutes.

During that one call, Babcock spoke little and mostly listened as Bollinger recounted happy family memories - time spent swimming, camping and boating - from the year Babcock lived with them in Arizona when she was in fifth grade.

Babcock has not spoken about her bathroom ordeal, she said.

"I didn't bring up anything," Bollinger said. "I just let her know how much I loved her and cared for her."

Bollinger sent her niece flowers and a willow tree angel to watch over her at the hospital. She is also now making a scrapbook for Babcock with pictures of her as a child.

"She is in a lot of pain and she is going to have to go through a lot to even try to have a normal life again," said Carmen McNamara, Babcock's cousin. "She is having all kinds of procedures. Right now, she is in the safest place she has been in 15 years."

No family members have been allowed to see her at the hospital, she said. Bollinger must use a password just to talk to her by phone at the hospital, McNamara said, adding family members know few details about her medical condition. Babcock spends much of her time sleeping at the hospital's intensive care unit.

McFarren has said doctors told him Babcock suffered nerve damage and is unable to walk, a description of her condition that McNamara said appeared accurate given the little medical information the family has gotten.

"Her wounds are still serious. ... She is not out of the woods by any means. She is a very sick girl," Bollinger said

Via Christi hospital officials refused Wednesday to give an update on the woman's condition.

McFarren told authorities that Babcock feared leaving the bathroom and may not have left it in two years, although he said he was unsure how long she was in there.

He said that he took her food and water daily, and that he repeatedly asked her to come out but that she usually replied "maybe tomorrow."

"The only thing I am guilty of is I didn't get her help sooner," McFarren told The Associated Press earlier this month. He could not be reached Wednesday for comment.

"We tried many times to contact her - to let her know we loved her, to send her clothes, to send her presents - but we didn't hound her," McNamara said. "She is an adult and she isn't mentally retarded or slow."

McFarren was charged last week with a misdemeanor count of mistreatment of a dependent adult. His first court appearance is April 7 in Ness City.


fairylight 10 years, 1 month ago

Good post consumer1. The article raises, or should, many questions. At the very least perhaps bringing this to light will cause family members to 'intrude' and become proactive in helping a loved one get the help they need.

Yesterday I read where an elderly woman in the Kc area ( I beleive) was found lying in her own dried feces. How can that happen? I think people excuse themselves by saying they can't force an issue, or she's an adult..things like that. It's horrd.

Jayhawk_N_Denver 10 years, 1 month ago

I'm with you consumer. I don't think her boyfriend was holding her hostage or was abusive. It sounds like she was suffering from some type of depression/anxiety that kept her from wanting to leave the bathroom. Her boyfriend probably just didn't know what to do to help her. Like he said, the only thing he's guilty of is not getting her help sooner. The sad thing is, had it been anyone else, they probably wouldn't know what to do to help. All kinds of mental health issues seems to be ignored until something sensational happens like a church shooting or a woman who spent 2 years in a bathroom. I applaud those who do work in the mental health have difficult jobs and are very rarely recognized.

Lilfish338 10 years, 1 month ago

I'm with everyone else. I would like to know if she has talked with a therapist, because this sounds like a situation in which one should be contacted. I've only been studying psychology for about a year and half now, and something is not quite right here. I'm not judging the boyfriend whatsoever, but wouldn't he stop and think, maybe this isn't very good that shes in the bathroom for so long, and that he should consult someone about this. I agree with him that he is only guilty of not getting her help sooner. Its good to hear that she is in the hospital and getting help.

aginglady 10 years, 1 month ago

Hey, look what I just saw. He was arrested for lewd, etc. Supposedly showed himself to a neighbor's daughter. Suppose this is a vigilante scam, to try to get him locked up?;_ylt=Am3QP3lE5_keWov3sG4jRblH2ocA

misseve 10 years, 1 month ago

aginglady that is very plausible. They are going to try this guy for not taking care of her. BUT what person in a "normal" state of mind would allow that to go on. It would be one thing if he had not fed her or brought her water. He did. I lived with someone who was bipolar for a while and when they were in a bad state there was nothing i could do to make things better. This is truly a sad story and to punish him for not calling sooner is an injustice.

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