Think before you invite. “Make sure you fall in with the right crowd,” says Justine Cassell, director of The Center for Technology and Social Behavior at Northwestern University – meaning parents who are more collaborative than competitive. You don’t want to feel bad if your child says his first word later than everyone else’s.

Don’t be offended if people don’t drop everything to look. While TotSpot gives you the ability to alert friends and family by e-mail every time you post something, don’t be hurt if people don’t immediately check the site.

Help others and let them help you. “Parenting is one of those places where we’re all scared we’re going to do a bad job,” Cassell says. Sometimes people share mundane details of their day – “I still can’t get Mary to sleep through the night,” for instance – as a thinly veiled hope for reassurance..