Being asked to stand up for a friend or relative is an enormous honor and one that most people are thrilled to receive. However, agreeing to be an honor attendant is also a financial commitment that potential bridesmaids should consider before accepting the role.

While the total amount varies, the following are the traditional expenses an honor attendant should be prepared to cover.

¢ The dress. The cost of the gown definitely depends on several factors, including the style, if it’s going to be hand-sewn or purchased off the rack and the type of fabric. Be upfront with the bride before you accept the role of a bridesmaid if you have serious budget concerns, so she knows what your price range is. A dress from a top designer can cost hundreds of dollars, and the bride may have no idea that you have a spending limit unless you tell her.

¢ The dress alterations. Unless your gown is made for you, you will most likely need to have it altered. Many sample sizes run long in length in order to accommodate as many heights as possible, so even if you order your normal size, be aware that alterations are still likely. If the bridal salon’s prices seem steep for your budget, price the cost of the alterations with some independent seamstresses.

¢ The shoes. Shoes can also be an area that comes with an unexpected price tag. Many brides will simply tell you to find what you like in the appropriate color; however, be aware that others want everyone to wear the exact same style, and a designer shoe can be pricey.

¢ The bridal shower and gift. Every situation is different, but in some cases, the entire bridal party will divide the costs of the shower rather than the maid of honor absorbing the expense on her own. You are also required to give a gift. If you are invited to attend more than one shower, you’re not required to bring a gift to each event.

¢ The wedding gift. Each bridesmaid may choose to buy an individual gift, or a single gift may be purchased by the group.

¢ The travel/accommodations. If the wedding location requires travel – and destination weddings are becoming increasingly popular – the expenses are the attendant’s responsibility.

Some additional expenses may include:

¢ Engagement gift. Although this is by no means required (even if you’re invited to an engagement party), many close friends and family members opt to buy a gift.

¢ Hair/makeup. Although this is largely optional (and, in fact, proper etiquette dictates that the bride offer to pay if she requires her maids to have their hair and makeup professionally done), many bridesmaids indulge in professional services for the day.

¢ Bachelorette party. The bachelorette party is an increasingly popular event, and depending on what is planned, the party may entail an entire weekend away. You are not, however, obligated to attend.