Question honestly in order to learn
The Rev. Gary Teske, pastor, Trinity Lutheran Church, 1245 N.H.:
I don't see that it is any more impolite to ask a new acquaintance about his or her faith than it is to ask someone about his or her family, job, hobbies or other aspects of that person's life, as long as you are honestly asking for the sake of listening to and learning about the faith of the new acquaintance and not just setting the person up to hear about your faith.
My experience is that when a new acquaintance asks me about my faith, quite often the real agenda is to raise the subject so they can tell me all about their faith, and on occasion, point out what is wrong with my faith. I think it is rude to ask a question that is not sincerely seeking information from a new acquaintance, but is rather a ploy to allow for you to give uninvited information to the person, or, in other words, to proselytize.
If you are genuinely interested in the faith of a new acquaintance, go ahead and ask, but then also be prepared to listen. If you really just want to tell the person about your own faith, just be honest and take the risk of being offensive and tell them what you believe.
Otherwise, wait for the new acquaintance to ask about your faith, or hobbies, or politics and hope that it is an honest question and he or she is going to listen to you.
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Sharing beliefs is part of Jesus' teaching
The Rev. Tom Brady, senior pastor, First United Methodist Church, 946 Vt. and 867 Highway 40:
Faith is a very personal subject for many people. Some people keep their beliefs to themselves as a private matter. These persons might be offended if a new acquaintance probed too deep early on in the relationship.
However, Jesus taught his disciples to go out into the world to share their beliefs and to talk to others about what they believe. In the church, we call this discipleship and evangelism. The "early church" began as a movement in which people would share their experiences in faith, make new acquaintances and encourage other people to become believers.
There is a great story in Chapter 8 of the Book of Acts about how Philip meets a complete stranger, helps him to understand the Scriptures, proclaims the good news of Jesus and leads this stranger to baptism. The stranger that Philip met "went on his way rejoicing." Great things happen when we are willing to talk to other people about our faith and their faith.
Personally, I find it interesting to talk to people of faith from other denominations and other beliefs outside Christianity. There is so much that we can learn from those who have a faith different than our own. If we approach these conversations with courtesy, respect of differences and the willingness to listen, there will be a great opportunity for personal growth from both sides.
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