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Financial fears aren't displayed only by folks deeply in debt. Some money worriers are people who are doing everything right - saving, living within their means, investing - and yet they still fret about their finances.

Here's an example from an anxious reader, who writes: "My husband and I are federal employees who make a decent salary, about $140,000 combined per year. I save 15 percent of my salary in the Thrift Savings Plan (a government retirement plan), hubby saves 10 percent. We have about $15,000 set aside for our toddler son's education and contribute another $150 a month to a 529 plan for him."

This reader went on to say that she and her husband invest another $150 per month in a mutual fund they've designated for retirement. They have a townhouse with a small mortgage that they've been renting out while living overseas.

"We have no debts other than the mortgage and, while we've been overseas, we've been able to save an additional $30,000 a year," she said.

I can just imagine what some of you are thinking. What in the world does this woman have to be worry about?

Here's what.

"Even though I know that we are financially stable, I worry all the time about money because my parents poorly managed their money and I worry that I'll end up like them," she wrote. "They have minimal savings, health problems, and are likely to run out of money in their retirement. Hubby's family was also bad with money. Every purchase - even a routine one - makes me worry if I shouldn't save more. How do I stop viewing money as a ticking time bomb about to blow up in my face?"

First off, remember that many people follow money attitudes implanted during childhood.

Look at this woman's money script: "My parents were poor money managers and I may be just like them," and "You can't ever save enough to feel secure."

She rehearses these lines so often it has become her reality, despite the obvious contradiction with her current situation.

If you have a lifelong fear that you will never be financially secure enough even though you're saving and investing well, you've got to flip the script. You can change your lines. As an adult, it's time to let go of that fear and replace it with new information.

And here's one way. If you haven't done this already, use the end of the year to update your net worth statement (or do one for the first time). You calculate your net worth by adding up your assets and subtracting your liabilities.

On the asset side you list, among other things, any cash, the value of investments, and most important, your home. For your home, put down the approximate fair market value of the property. On the liabilities, include such things as your mortgage, any home equity loan, car note, student loans and outstanding credit card balances.

The goal is to own substantially more than you owe.

You don't want to have a negative net worth, meaning you have more liabilities than assets. For a template of a net worth statement go to www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/ business/pdf/networth.pdf (PDF).

You should update your net worth statement at least annually because it's a snapshot of the current value of your financial holdings.

If it helps to compare your progress with others, the average net worth of U.S. families increased 12 percent between 2003 and 2005, according to a University of Michigan study. In constant 2005 dollars, overall average net worth rose from $275,600 to $309,600 - including home equity.

The poorest 5 percent of U.S. households had a negative net worth in 1984 - a little more than $1,000. By 2005 that figure had climbed to nearly $9,000.