Archive for Tuesday, June 27, 2006

Ex-husband faces assault charges

June 27, 2006


A 44-year-old Lawrence man was arrested Sunday for allegedly assaulting his former wife.

The two had attended a wedding Saturday. The woman, 45, drove the man to his apartment and then went inside to use the bathroom.

She told police the man wouldn't allow her to leave the apartment, assaulted her and struck her with his fist.

The woman said she convinced the man to take her to Lawrence Memorial Hospital. Early Sunday, police were called to the hospital to investigate.

Officers went to the man's apartment, but he would not allow them to enter. They then obtained a search warrant.

Police had to force their way into the apartment where they arrested the man, a police spokeswoman said.

The man was booked into Douglas County Jail on suspicion of kidnapping, aggravated sexual battery and aggravated battery.

He also allegedly violated a restraining order against him. Formal charges are pending.


Nikki May 11 years, 12 months ago

this isn't a violation of a restraining order if she is the one who broke it. She let him in her car. She went into his apartment. She shouldn't have gotten hurt, I'm not saying that at all, but the restraining order is voided if the person that has it willingly is near the person it's against.

dthroat 11 years, 12 months ago

Knowing the guy involved all I can say is he can be a very violent, "crazy", and dangerous person. And that side doesn't need alcohol to show up.

quietgirl 11 years, 12 months ago

Marion, she does not deserve to be hit no matter how much alcohol was involved!!!! How dare you insinuate it was okay.

Christine Pennewell Davis 11 years, 12 months ago

violatons on both parts, ad no she did not deserve to get hit but it was not the smartest thing to do giving him a ride and then going inside. I will assume she knew what kinda person he was and should have used that common sense that was telling her nooooooo. I have a feeling that because she drove him home and went inside that this guy will not get all the punishment he deserves and that is a crime in it's self. I hope all turns out ok for the poor women because no matter what she did not deserve to be beat and alegedly raped.

temperance 11 years, 12 months ago

"Two to tango" -- so, what's the move that says to your partner "please hit me & don't let me leave." I never learned that particular tango step.

What joy do men get from beating on people who are weaker than them? That guy gives all men a bad name.

Christine Pennewell Davis 11 years, 12 months ago

and he will get less time because she did go with him. Break the cycle means just that break the cycle Battered womens syndrome is valid but not always a good enough reason for breaking your resraining order. In the end she ended up in the hosp. He will get less time because of the willingness of her going with him and the cycle still goes on. I hope this time she does break the cycle and stays away a good long distance away. and she will at least get a little break while he is locked up.

hockmano 11 years, 12 months ago

If the other party willfully associated with the man, then the restraining order is null and void! If she had a restraining order why the hell would you let him in your car? Was she at the end of the line when they were handing out common sense?

Linda Endicott 11 years, 12 months ago

There isn't enough information given here. How long had it been since they broke up? How violent had he been in the past? Had he hit her before? The article doesn't say. Physical violence doesn't always have to be involved for a judge to issue a restraining order.

I might point out that, according to most restraining orders, the person is not allowed to be within 500 feet of the person they have threatened. By both of them going to the same wedding they had already both violated the restraining order, even if nothing else had happened after that.

He might get away with violating the restraining order, because she did, too, but I hope he gets the harshest penalties for hitting her and raping her. Nut jobs like this get away with their crimes far too often, with simply a slap on the wrist. Even though she violated the restraining order, she didn't deserve what happened to her. It didn't give him any right to do what he did.

It's also possible that she didn't know that she had violated the restraining order. I had one against my ex bf, and wasn't told about that part of it until a year had passed and I was asked if I wanted to extend it.

Having him in her car and going into his apartment wasn't smart, though, that's for sure.

Linda Aikins 11 years, 12 months ago

She used very poor judgment, but SHE didn't charge him with the restraining order violation - I'm assuming the police did.

fairylight 11 years, 12 months ago

"times in the past and still fell in the same hole. No she did not derserve to be hit but she went in knowing he would hit her, she can say she wanted to believe him, but she knew. that is her step in the tango."

So Enforcer, you feel it's her fault? That she should have known better? If you use that thought should never have had an animal ( pitbull) that was able to get out of it's should have known better..right?

hottruckinmama 11 years, 12 months ago

Posted by conservativeman (anonymous) on June 27, 2006 at 3:46 p.m. (Suggest removal)

No excuse for hitting a woman. Unless.................?

unless thats the only way to keep the little woman in line huh conservativeman? somehow from reading your posts i don't doubt that you would do something like that.

hottruckinmama 11 years, 12 months ago

shame on you conservativeman. what would your fine feathered church friends think if they knew you thought about such things? sounds like a your having those warped fantasies again. you better go to confession or what ever it is your people do. come to think of it i doubt its confession because the catholics probably wouldn't have you. frankly i doubt you have the equipment, brains or otherwise,to do much of anything with anybody.

Christine Pennewell Davis 11 years, 12 months ago

pull in the claws people its early in the week something really good my come across the headlines. :)

tell_it_like_it_is 11 years, 12 months ago

Are those 2 at again? Good Lord their worse then watching the Sat. night fights.

Christine Pennewell Davis 11 years, 12 months ago

I do hope that there is some follow up on this story. I would like to hear what this guy gets and how much her input has to do with it.

tell_it_like_it_is 11 years, 12 months ago

Posted by conservativeman (anonymous) on June 27, 2006 at 9:11 p.m. (Suggest removal)

Does the jockey hitting you count as a beating? well i don't know. why don't you tell us conservativeman? did you enjoy it?

hottruckinmama 11 years, 12 months ago

you really should do something about those delusions of yours conservative. i hear they have medication for that now.

hottruckinmama 11 years, 12 months ago

i think they have medication for that too conservative.

Terry Jacobsen 11 years, 12 months ago

I've never understood why women stay with men who abuse them or mistreat them physically. But men who hit women belong in jail.

Linda Endicott 11 years, 12 months ago

Women stay with men who abuse them because they've been brainwashed, that's why. In the beginning he's all sweetness and light, and everything seems so perfect. It's all an act, but by the time she discovers it, she's in a lot deeper than she may have ever intended to be.

And by then he's constantly attacking her self-esteem, day after day, sometimes minute by minute, until she's not sure anymore which end is up, and his perverted sense of reality starts to make sense, because he's usually the one person she has constant contact with. An abuser will try, and usually succeed, in isolating his target from friends, family, sometimes even work.

Sometimes there's financial abuse as well. She may have no job, be dependent on him for food and housing. She has no confidence left to look for a job, and besides, he threatens that if she gets a job and disobeys him, he will hurt her pets. Or her family. Or her children. By this time he's probably already hit her, and so she has no reason not to believe that he will carry out what he threatens if she crosses him.

And not to scare anyone out there, but women who have been in physically abusive relationships are far more likely to be murdered after they leave than they were while they were with him. There was a woman on Oprah recently who was set on fire by her ex-husband. She lived through it. They had been divorced for quite some time, and she hadn't had any contact with him, but she still wasn't safe. Unfortunately, women know all about those stats, and some decide that the risk isn't worth it.

You can read about it all you want, but unless you have lived through the hell, the constant walking on eggshells feeling, the crazymaking, you have no idea what it's like, and what fears, logical or not, will make you stay. Even if you don't stay forever, most women will leave an average of 7 times before they manage to leave for good.

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