Archive for Wednesday, August 2, 2006

Battered woman dies from injuries

DA calls 2 p.m. press conference

August 2, 2006


Dist. Atty. Charles Branson has called a 2 p.m. press conference.

Reliable courthouse sources said he will announce the death of a woman who was beaten over the weekend at Gaslight Village mobile home park.

The woman's boyfriend, Christopher Belone, 35, has already been arrested and charged with aggravated battery.

It is likely that Branson will announce the filing of additional or amended charges against Belone.


justsomewench 11 years, 9 months ago

i actually agree with both of you.

while it's not always an easy exit, it's plainly necessary. there is no denying: if you stay in an abusive relationship, you are silently advocating it to the children. the longer you stay, the more of a family tradition you run the risk of it becoming.

bottom line, it's about the children. if the children are safer in foster care, the children are safer in foster care.

as i said, simple =/= easy.

bizarre 11 years, 9 months ago


First you must recognize the problem, then you must be brave enough to accept the ramifications that will follow the choice that you make. If you choose to leave this situation, you must also be ready to have the courage to face your own addictions, or recognize the penetrating truth that eventually the violence AND addictions will end it for you.


Our lives are songs, God writes the words, And we set them to music at pleasure And the song grows glad, sweet or sad, As we choose to fashion the measure.

by Ella Wheeler Wilcox.

betti81 11 years, 9 months ago

I feel for the victim's family. I hope there aren't any children involved. Tragic.

Just a few facts on domestic violence.

YourItalianPrincess 11 years, 9 months ago

She put up with this crap for that long........ Geez

Seems like this type of abuse had been going on for years and did she not think it would get worse.

May God rest her soul and I pray for her child. Hope he or she is okay and in good hands with a family member.

What a shame.......

yourworstnightmare 11 years, 9 months ago

Put the Mo Fo to death. Stoning, if allowed.

Confrontation 11 years, 9 months ago

I agree with enforcer. These women also stay due to the fear. These men threaten the women, their children, and their families, and the women know to take them seriously.

1lawrencemom 11 years, 9 months ago

Thank you, betti81 and enforcer, for the information. Many of us are well informed on this topic through education and/or experience. This kind of violent relationship exists in all socioeconomic groups but is too often hidden or not discussed because there is still so much stigma around the problem. This is a community problem and the community needs to be talking about it and working towards dismissing the idea that women are simply "stupid" for staying in these situations and offer some kind of REAL help for both the victims and the aggressors.

1lawrencemom 11 years, 9 months ago

fyi, "real job" includes educating the public on domestic violence and encouraging conversation and cooperation to offer solutions to this problem. But, I AM glad that my opinion is defined as "valued" by you, thank you for that. You ARE correct in that there are too many small men....

prioress 11 years, 9 months ago

"Love" hurts. Why are we such violent apes? Our brothers and sisters are (with the exception of some chimpanzees) much mellower. Peace to the victim and a live skinning on Mass. street for the perp.

Linda Endicott 11 years, 9 months ago

"Love" isn't supposed to hurt. If it does, it isn't "love".

We need to inform more and more people (not just women, as men can be physically abused, too) not to put up with this kind of treatment, and how to get out at the first signs of abuse.

1lawrencemom 11 years, 9 months ago

This particular incident may have happened in a trailer park, but don't kid yourself, it happens every day all over town!

justsomewench 11 years, 9 months ago

i think that's a bit unfair, ottr. there is a helplessness (you may call it a weakness if you wish) to abusive relationships that is both imposed and self-imposed. depending on the exposure to abuse (for example, if someone grows up in a household where it is quite a normal state of being) it can be very difficult to sort out what they do and don't have control over. i will say, though, where children are involved, the responsibility of showing them what a healthy relationship is should clear up any confusion rather quickly.

simple =/= easy.

Linda Endicott 11 years, 9 months ago

But an abusive relationship also includes brainwashing, pure and simple. After awhile, the only reality that the woman knows is HIS reality, which doesn't make sense to the rest of the world, but she hears it every day, ad nauseum, until she's not sure which way is up.

He constanly belittles her, robbing her sense of self. He makes her think she's crazy, that he is wonderful and she never had it so good, and she's just too stupid to realize it. He threatens her, he threatens her children, he threatens her pets, her family, maybe even her boss and co-workers. By his constant checking up on her at work, or stalking her everywhere she goes, he may even manage to get her fired, so she is financially dependent on him.

He tells her if she ever leaves he will kill her, or kill the children, or her family. He says if she leaves he will kill himself. He says if she leaves he will take her to court and take the children away from her, and far too often this horrible tragedy happens in courts all across the country. Even if he doesn't get custody he may very well get visitation, which she will be forced by the court to adhere to, even though she thinks he's a danger to the children.

He tells her that she can't make it without him, she's too stupid, too pathetic, too fat, too ugly. If she does manage to leave him, he stalks her. He follows her everywhere she goes, and sometimes has members of his family do the same. He calls dozens of times a day, at both home and work. He may vandalize her car. He will show up at her door, demanding to be let in. If she refuses, he may break windows, threaten her again, and she calls the police. The police get there, he sweet talks them, and the officer may say to her, "oh, I think he really loves you. Why don't you just talk to him?"

And even if she leaves him for good, she will never feel totally safe again until he is dead.

Why do you think there have been so many cases of murder involving battered women's syndrome? The movie "The Burning Bed" was no anomaly. So many, many women feel that this is the only way they can escape.

Yes, I've been through it. So have many women that I know. And one of the reasons you stay longer than you should is because you are ashamed. Ashamed that you were conned by such a person, ashamed that you picked him, and afraid that someone, somewhere, will call you "pathetic" and "stupid" for staying as long as you did.

You, OTTR, are the one who appears to be pathetic and stupid. You obviously don't know what you're talking about. If you have never experienced abuse yourself, you have no idea what it's like.

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