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The Faith of a Child


Took my almost-five-year-old to his first Advent service last night. Actually, it was Simon's first church service, period. I wanted him to understand at least a little of what he heard, so on the way, I told him the basics of the Christmas story. I started with the parts I thought would be most interesting to a child: How Jesus was born in a stable to parents Mary and Joseph, and how shepherds got a message from an angel that something special had happened, followed a bright star, and found the baby Jesus.My husband and I are not religious, at least not as the term is usually used, but I've given a little thought to how and when to explain mainstream religious beliefs and stories to our two young sons. A child who isn't familiar with, say, the Christmas story or the notion of heaven will be at a loss at times, to say the least. (Last night, it struck me how big this cultural disadvantage might be when Simon asked "Is Jesus a boy or a girl?")After the service, we talked more about the Christmas story--including the belief that Jesus is the son of God--and I found myself fielding questions like "How can Jesus be the son of God if his parents are Mary and Joseph?" and "How can God still be alive if Jesus was born such a long time ago?" and "Is God a man or a woman?" Now I was the one at a loss! More than once I answered, "That's a great question" and "Well, the story goes like this:" and "Many people believe that:." I've talked to Simon about God before, usually referring to the "Animal Maker" or the "Great Spirit." I want him to have some notion of a powerful, good, divine spirit who takes an interest in our universe. I also want him to understand that there are different and beautiful faith traditions around the world. I'm not comfortable presenting typical Sunday School stories as if they're facts. And I sensed last night that Simon would take what I said as fact. That means I have a lot of power, at this point in Simon's life, to shape his beliefs about religion and the divine. I want to use this power wisely, so I've got a lot more thinking to do.I'd like to hear from others who've struggled with this. If your family doesn't have obvious faith traditions and beliefs to pass down, what role do religion and spirituality play in your family life? How and when have you presented religion and spirituality to your children? Are there any faith groups in town you recommend?


Linda Hanney 10 years, 4 months ago

While we have been slackers of late, when our children were home, we attended church regularly--United Methodist to be specific. They were involved in Sunday School and Youth group as teens. The outcome is one continues to attend church and is a committed Christian. The other has pretty much rejected mainline religion.. They are both great kids and have wonderful families.

Because we live rural, they did not have neighborhood friends. So, when they did choose a group outside our home, I wanted the kids in that group to have similar values. Church and 4-H provided that until they were older and out of our influence. I think it did carry over though.

guesswho 10 years, 4 months ago

If you are interested in finding out more about what your religious beliefs really are, take a quiz at: www.beliefnet.com. Under 'Faiths & Practices" click on 'belief-o-matic' Pretty cool.

The Unitarians offer a religious education program that respects all religions without making anyone commit to any particular dogma. There are many agnostics who attend who want to give their children a spiritual upbringing.

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