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Of pigs, jokes, and marriage.
Yes, after the “lawyer walks into a bar” blog, I have learned that apparently I am a pig. And probably you are too, if you’re a man. Read on, and then you can comment on this yourself:
are you also a pig?
Am I a pig?
Are the men who joked on the Thursday story about in-laws becoming outlaws with a knife also pigs then?
That lawyer blog (see link below) was written to celebrate that one of our fellows in this online community is marrying, and marrying a lawyer. Well, according to one posteress who sent me a rather nasty e-mail, I am a pig and don’t have a decent respect for other people, because I posted that! Now, the guy in our community enjoyed the humor on the blog, and said it was fine. But this posteress also made some negative insinuation about him regarding that too.
This posteress was expressing concern for the feelings of the bride-to-be. Honestly, if this posteress had been around when I got married, I think her ears would have painfully turned inside out, and not from the “piggish” men, but from jokes made by my wife’s –female- relatives. Those jokes were very sexual and were about a couple of my personal characteristics.
Where I come from and what I’m used to, there’s always a lot of humor when somebody gets married. When my father got married (yes that was the 50’s) his male relatives pulled a “shivaree,” where they set up all kinds of surprises for the newly married couple to find on their wedding night. This included the typical short sheeting of the wedding bed, changing the content of the groom’s shaving cream can, and other gags. So, when I got married, those jokes sure didn’t bother me, and I told my wife to just laugh with her female relatives.
Several weeks ago, this posteress wasn’t so concerned about the feelings of another when she organized a campaign to ostracize one poster who disagreed with what many of us were doing on a Marion-related blog that got semi-disappeareddeded (semi-deleted). After her nastygram to me, she’s probably already queenbeeing such a campaign against me, or will after the posting of this blog.
I posted the lawyer blog last week, and got her e-mail last week. I’ve waited one week for an apology or something, but nothing has come from her. That member of our online posting community isn't so thin-skinned, and his wife-to-be wouldn't be a successful lawyer if she were thin skinned.
Tim Allen, in his scholarly work “home improvement,” thoroughly demonstrated that all of us men do have an inner pig. But I certainly do not think I am a pig for putting up the “a lawyer walks into a bar” blog. It was simply meant in fun.
Here is an unedited excerpt from that posteress’ e-mail: “ … as I realize that you seem to hold a low level of decent respect for others in the same way my ex did. As my friend put it: Men really are pigs, they choose to ignore social decencies because it suits them, then band together to try to justify their disgraces to others, and thus ignore their consciences. He said it took him until he was in his mid 50's to become far less of a pig himself, … “
---So, are you a pig, sir? Am I? What about the humor that happened when you got married?