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Posted by Anna Undercover February 8, 2010 at 9:16 a.m.

Anna Undercover Mini-Blog: More Drugs

Update: It turns out that the subject of this piece was likely only over-prescribed legal antidepressants, and not abusing drugs, as I incorrectly thought at first.

In this last post on my encounters with drugs in Lawrence strip clubs, the last and most recent anecdote I shared was about a girl I thought was fired for behavior indicating drug abuse.

But 'getting fired' in this world frequently means that you're on a temporary (and forced) 'vacation.' To come back, you must usually pay a fine to rectify the situation you caused. If this was the case with the girl, things were cleared up by Friday.

I was surprised to see her at work again, but she seemed sober at the beginning of the night. I didn't want to single her out as a problem or make her feel bad, so I didn't say anything but hello when I walked in.

We all got ready together as usual. I had left my hair elastics at home by accident.

"Does anyone have a couple elastics? I'm doing my hair differently tonight and I only have one."

"Here you go," the very girl I wrote about volunteered. I suddenly felt so bad for writing about her the other day.

I usually ask permission to do it, but with her, I hadn't.

"Thanks," I said. I felt worse taking them out of her hand. Ugh.

I felt like a bad person.

The night got off to a quick start, with diehard Outhouse fans crowding the stage, drinking, and shouting and carrying on in typical fashion. They were keeping us busy. And happy. :)

Gotta love regulars.

I got a lot of dances pretty quickly, and ran to the back to freshen up at about 8:30 p.m.

Holding pins in my mouth, I sat down to fix my hair. I noticed the girl getting dressed in her street clothes.

"You're leaving?" I asked, surprised. It was going to be a good night. It's crazy to leave early on a Friday, especially since you have to pay a fee to do so.

"Yeah, I don't feel good," she said. She didn't look sick to me, but she was having a hard time getting her clothes on. She was dressing herself abnormally slowly.

"Are you OK?" I asked.

"Yeah, I'm fine," she said, very slowly. Oh god.

We were alone, so I asked:

"Honey, are you on drugs? You seem like you are, and I want to make sure you're OK," I said in a concerned tone. I was genuinely concerned, but I have to say I was also mad that there was someone at the Outhouse working hard to confirm armchair critics' accusations that strippers are all drug addicts.

"No, no," she shook her head slowly. She paused. "Well, I'm on antidepressants."

"Which one?" I asked.

"Abilify and [I forget, but I think it starts with a P]," she said.

"OK," I said, not knowing what else to do or say.

She paid the $30 fee to leave early. I didn't think she'd be back, but she was there on Saturday night, too.

Halfway through the night, it seemed clear to me that she was on something again. Her delayed movements and slow speech were causing customers to run her off left and right.

I marveled that she had kicked all our asses up and down the block that first night I met her. Where was that side of her hiding?

Her drug use was obviously costing her money. I found part of her costume on the floor when we got busy. I gave it back to her.

"Thanks!" she said. "Hang on to that," I parented her. Stripper-style costumes are expensive. You don't want to lose your stuff.

The drugs she was on put her in a lot of danger, too. Sacrifices at the Outhouse require the dancers to be quick, alert, entertaining, and responsive. Customers pay $50 to have four girls of their choice beat up a 'lucky' guy. :)

A sacrifice involves, at different points, ripping off the guy's underwear while he's still wearing all his clothes, climbing up the pole and falling down onto him in spectacular fashion, whipping him with belts as he does a bunch of push-ups, all four girls piling on top of each other onto his lap, the worst purple-nurple of his life, and more.

With as many as three belts flying around at any given point, girls taking shots at the 'poor' guy at every opportunity, you really can't afford to be drunk, or otherwise intoxicated. When this happens, girls get hurt, and the subject of this entry was no exception.

When she was picked to do one, it was clear she had no idea what she was doing. She wasn't even faking it well. And her reactions were so delayed that she took a stiletto right in the face in the middle of the act.

Oh god. I ran over to her. She said she was OK.

I saw her in the back right after. There was no bruising, just a cut from the heel that hit her next to her nose.

She was about to go back out on the floor with blood on her face.

"Um, honey, please don't go out there like that," I said. "You will make us all look bad." I didn't say the last part.

"Should I put make-up over it?" she asked.

"Yes," I said, struggling to be nice. "Cover it up well," I advised.

She did.

I have mixed feelings overall, but in that instant, it was hard to feel bad for her.

I wonder if losing money over fees to leave early and penalties for (drug-induced) bad behavior will weed her out of our midst?

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  1. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    **Attention!!** A fabulous reader who came in this weekend should definitely message me so we can continue the conversation we started re: the definition of prostitution. I promised not to write about you, so I can't give any details to help you figure out if it's you I'm talking about, but I want to hear more about yours and your 'friend's' perspective. :) That should help you figure it out.

    In related news, you were so good to me, and you have no idea how much I appreciated it. No idea! :) It's all going toward my little "Kaplan LSAT Prep Course" fund, minus a teeny bit, which will go to American Express (groan) and groceries (yay for food).

  2. honeychild (Mel Briscoe) says…

    no disrespect, anna, and this is not meant as a swipe at you personally, but there are quite a few strippers who are on drugs and many times they are high/stoned/drunk while they are working. i hope that this girl finds help and cleans up but that profession probably isn't going to aid in her sobriety.

  3. RoeDapple (anonymous) says…

    Anna, as you know I don't have the best attitude toward your chosen profession. Here at least is part of the reason why. As a career truck driver I knew of and had witnessed the drug use so commonly associated with my profession. As a result of being associated with the minority of drivers who used and abused drugs in order to 'get the job done', I became intolerant of them. If you don't help weed (pun unintended) them out, you enable them. Whatever profession we choose, tolerance of drug use or abuse on the job not only reflects on us, it also endangers the user and ultimately anyone or everyone they work with. Trying to help is good of you, but not in the work place.

  4. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @RoeDapple
    I definitely feel that, and don't want to enable anyone who could possibly cost me my job when/if her alleged drug use causes bigger problems.

    Thanks for your comment. I think I might take some action on this matter.

    I feel bad about it, but I just can't lose my job.

  5. kiklu (anonymous) says…

    I'm glad you're worried about this person who keeps reappearing at your workplace. It sounds like she needs some serious help, but it seems like it would be difficult, indeed, to get any in her situation.

    Antidepressants don't, generally, cause the kinds of side effects you're describing. Antidepressants with booze, on the other hand, might. It's far too easy to get prescription drugs without a prescribing physician... I hope she's seeing a medical professional, and following all of his or her advice.

  6. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @honeychild
    I think the ease in getting a job at a strip club accommodates people with big problems, absolutely. My question is can they survive in this environment?

    I went home with $785 on Friday. She probably went home with nothing, because she paid the $100 stage rent (or 'tipout') just to work there for that night, and then $30 to leave early.

    Then she came back on Saturday (another $100) and was shooed away by many groups of customers, and then the shoe incident happened. I recall her saying to me at one point, out on the floor, that she wasn't getting any dances. :P

    At a certain point, it costs too much for someone with her problems to be in this line of work. I wonder when she'll find another way to make a living.

  7. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @kiklu
    I didn't see her drinking anything. If/when I see her again, I'll find out if she's seeing a doctor and getting any other kind of help.

    Nice to see you on here. :)

  8. honeychild (Mel Briscoe) says…

    i had a friend who was a cocktail waitress for almost a year here at the strip joint in salina (the wild west). this chick is no saint in her own right and she would be the first to admit that... coming from vegas to a small town in kansas and working a strip club, you would think she'd do well. she did for a while. she was making big time tips but after a while, the atmosphere and environment was too much for even her to take. she said she got tired of seeing what went on w/ the dancers, for one, and the dynamic between the management and the dancers was at times sickening. the management would actually supply some of the girls who were substance users.

    she said that, as a waitress, she would drink and smoke weed herself while working (i doubt the smoking weed part was right out in the open because i am sure that cops do come in there from time to time).

    another thing that she couldn't take re: the strippers was the fact that there was atleast one underaged girl in the place (she was 17). now, keeping it real, anna, that is not entirely uncommon in that profession either. it is risky on the owners/managements part but it does happen.

  9. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    AU ...your cool ledy..just be careful..sometimes being the considerate person blows up in ones face.

    Sky

  10. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @honeychild
    If I found out someone was underage I would toss them physically out of the club myself and throw her stuff out after her. Consequences be damned.

    I will not lose my job because some idiot decides to take her rebellion act on the road.

    I'll welcome anyone *over* 18 with open arms. And chocolate chip muffins. :) I make them for everyone most Saturday nights.

    @Kontum1972
    Thanks. :)

    You're right about the blowing up part. I will be careful with this one. I would die if I lost this job. I adore it.

  11. RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…

    Anna,
    I one tried playing racquetball with someone that was prescribed Abilify, the ball would come past them, then they would swing about a second later, kind of robotic movements. Needs a different protocol.

  12. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @reticent_irreverent
    That sucks. If that's how it affects people, this girl needs to be *off* that stuff when she comes to work on weekend nights, when the most sacrifices happen.

    I was totally sober when I took a belt buckle to the hand. Maybe that's OK, though, lol, because it would have hit our customer in the chest. Heh. :)

    No rest for the wicked, but even our abuse should have some limits.

    I had a huge bone bruise on my metacarpals that didn't go away for weeks. I swear it turned every color in the rainbow.

  13. amesn (anonymous) says…

    Ok so let get this straight as I read this blog quickly cuz i'm on my break at work :) She is also taking other drugs legal or street in addition to the Abilify or just the Abilify? Abilify could cause someone to be completely retarded in their movements making them appear as if 'they are on something' but lets say she is mixing the Abilify with an opioid.this would definitely affect her ability to just act normally! I repsect your compassion you showed to this young woman...I hope she continues to show up at work because the one time she doesn't could indicate something very tragic!

  14. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    it takes a clear mind to make it...

    long time ago a good buddy of mine told me i was too nice a guy...and i have been told that by alot of women.

    well...thats something i cant change, i treat people like i want to be treated, I cant change that and it would hack my mom off if i did....so i remain the nice guy...at least i am consistent in performance..thx Mom!

  15. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @amesn
    She said she was only on the two antidepressants. Based on the extreme nature of her 'symptoms' (I guess we could use that word), though, I don't know if that was the case.

    It could be, but it might not be. I have no way of knowing for sure. Have a good break. :)

    If someone has her number, we can keep track of her. I don't know that anyone has it.

    @Kontum1972
    I vote yes on moms doing a good job with their sons. :) Thanks for being a nice guy.

  16. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    I'm going to take a nap now. I'll be back on later to respond to any more comments.

    Prostitution post will come tomorrow, and we will have commenting awards as promised. :D

  17. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    Prostitution Post..is that a newspaper or Bi-weekly mag?

  18. RETICENT_IRREVERENT (Ronaldo Ignacio) says…

    Anna,
    I hope someone called a taxi for her...
    Pristiq and Abilify have interactions between them.
    The half-life of Abilify is approximately 75 hours, so it takes awhile to get it out of one's system.

  19. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    Pristiq and Abilify...sounds like a heavy-metal bandobtw i have never been to the outpost..drove by it a couple of times on my way out to Pendletons..and that was in the daylight.

  20. RockChalkRoughNeck (anonymous) says…

    Ahhh..The Outhouse. Such an interesting little place for shenanigans. I attended this circus of sin 2 weekends ago and not much has changed in 4 years except I seem to recall that the strippers seemed to have more teeth a year or two ago. This last adventure it seemed half of them were missing more than a few teeth and one "dancer" looked pregnant. Also all the touching that takes place wouldn't normally be allowed in a top notch club but alas The Outhouse is aptly named. I enquired about Anna when I was there but the stripper didn't seem to know what I was talking about so I was a little disappointed. Keep up the interesting blogs Miss AU.

  21. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @RoughChalkRoughNeck
    I'm glad you like the blog, but I must ask you who in the heck looked pregnant when you visited? And who is missing teeth?

    If you ask about 'Anna Undercover' you will likely get a blank look. Just use my name. :P If all else fails, ask a bouncer. They'll point me out.

  22. puddleglum (anonymous) says…

    so appropriate, so fun.

  23. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    LoL,...u didnt have your name tag on...or a flashing g-string..
    Hi, I am undercover....stop the presses!

  24. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    obtw...how was the nap....? i just woke from mine..

  25. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @Kontum1972
    Sigh. The nap failed. I'm not good at sleeping during the day.

  26. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    LoL, i had a short one about 5 min then the office phone rang

  27. KansasPerson (anonymous) says…

    I wish I could nap today. I had a heck of a time getting to sleep last night for some reason. Last thing I remember was hearing the clock strike four..... and then it was 7:00 and time to get up. My reflexes would probably cause me to get a belt buckle to the head today, if I were in that profession. :-P

    In all seriousness -- there are probably multiple antideps that start with P -- but whichever one it is -- I've heard that Abilify often gets prescribed to be taken in conjunction with another one. So this girl may be doing nothing illegal, but even if she isn't, she needs to get with her care provider asap and report the side effects. She shouldn't be driving under those conditions. And I hate to say it, but there's a suicide risk with some of these newer antidep drugs

    And then there is the not-unlikely chance that she is either (a) self-medicating with her legally prescribed drugs, taking more than was prescribed, or (b) augmenting them with illegal drugs. It hurts to read about this. I wish we knew whether there was someone (outside the ELB) who knew about her and could talk to her. All the hints we've had so far -- young (?) girl, battling depression, possible drug abuse or at the very least some nasty side-effects going unreported; and lastly, it sounds like she is not in this job for the love of it, so I'm going to guess there are pretty severe money troubles too.

    Anna, I'm not saying you should do more -- I think you've done all a fellow-workplace-person could reasonably be expected to do, and more than a lot of others would have -- but I hope she has someone to go home to. Doesn't sound promising, though.

    Aghhh. I wish I could help.

  28. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    so what does the rest of the day look like..besides freezing our wookies off?

  29. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    and do u wear a trenchcoat and a Hat...and cheap sunglasses?

  30. meggers (anonymous) says…

    Abilify is actually an antipsychotic, however it can also be used to treat depression when used in conjunction with an antidepressant.

    My guess would be Abilify and Paxil, although unless she is taking a higher dose than prescribed, or adding something else into the mix, it seems doubtful that those meds alone would cause the problems described. For one thing, those drugs are time released and stay present in one's system, so it seems unlikely that she would be fine, and then barely functional within a couple of hours.

    My guess is that she's either upping the dosages, or she's adding something else into the mix. Good luck with that, Anna. It sounds like it would probably be best for everyone if she moves on to a job that doesn't require quite as much physical dexterity and mental alertness.

  31. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @meggers @KansasPerson
    After your comments, I'm thinking it will be best to go to her and talk about dosages/reassessing things with her doctor. Based on the possibility that she's not doing anything illegal at all, I should definitely avoid going to 'the management' at this point.

    Best case scenario, this is the kind of problem she can solve on her own.

    I might also offer to come with her to her next appointment. I do this for my roommate sometimes because he's a quiet and sweet person that doesn't stick up for himself (as much as I think he should, anyway). As a result, he often has trouble getting doctors to prescribe him the right medication for his frequent migraines. Over-the-counter painkillers just aren't making the cut. I feel awful seeing him so miserable, and it makes me sick that doctors won't give him what he needs just because it's a highly powerful painkiller.

    And I will definitely talk to her about money issues and see if she's having problems. IIf she opens up to me, I'll also help her figure out if there's another job that might be more appropriate, given her need to take these medications that affect her safety at (and driving home after!) work.

    It might just be that she needs to change clubs. The Outhouse is a pretty unique and wild experience that asks a lot of the staff. Perhaps a calmer club without crazy sacrifices would be a better alternative.

    I'm so glad I posted about this. Thanks so much for your thoughtful responses. I'll let you know how it turns out.

  32. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @Kontum1972
    Lol ZZ Top. :) Popular song choice at my first club.

  33. Katara (anonymous) says…

    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says… I usually ask permission to do it, but with her, I hadn't.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    It is absolutely great that you victimize this woman in order to cash in on it.

    You write about this person without asking permission. Apparently it is okay because you have jumped to the conclusion that she is abusing drugs rather than suffering side effects of the drugs prescribed to her.

    Why should you care, though? She is behaving in a way that is costing you cold hard cash. She is standing in the way of you and all those wallets.

    What a laugh! You are going to try to get this woman to open up to you? Maybe you could establish some trust to make it even easier for you to exploit her in your pursuit of attention.

    You are absolutely correct. You are most well suited for this job. Congratulations.

  34. Katara (anonymous) says…

    Oh and the reason the doctor does not give your roommate a powerful painkiller for his migraines is that it can cause a rebound migraine that makes the first seem like nothing. This happens with people who have frequent migraines.

    There are many "preventatives" out there now for migraines (Topamax is one) and you don't find out which one works best for you except though trial by error... which is the same method through which many anti-depressants are prescribed.

  35. Dateable_Shelter_Dude (anonymous) says…

    She might be doing an old trick many use to save money on alcohol. Not drinking during the lead up time before going out for an evening so your BAC is normal. Then just as you are ready to walk out the door drink a few shots knowing your just driving 5 miles or so before it kicks in to where you are meeting your friends. Youre only drinking a buck or so out of your large bottle at home instead of $10 at the bar. You order coke or water with your meal. Some take a small unopened bottle to drink right before they walk in to save a bar tab and toss the rest or hide it inside because it is so much cheaper than the bar bill. The people I know who did that started to get happy quick then tired early on without having drinken as many drinks as the rest.I know sometimes the girls who used to count on the guys to buy drinks sometimes did this. The guys might be scarse.

  36. Kontum1972 (anonymous) says…

    its tuesday?

  37. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @Katara
    I agree that it's not very nice to write about someone without their permission. I never said I thought it was OK.

    If someone is behaving badly in my workplace, for whatever reason--yes, they are interfering with my ability to do business, regardless of what that business is. It is better for them to get the help they need than to continue hurting themselves and, well, my ability to do work.

    It is unreasonable to expect me to apologize for making a living.

    @Dateable_Shelter_Dude
    Hm. I don't know what she was trying to do.

  38. Katara (anonymous) says…

    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says…

    @Katara
    I agree that it's not very nice to write about someone without their permission. I never said I thought it was OK.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    You didn't actually *say* that it was but it certainly didn't stop you from doing so.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says…
    If someone is behaving badly in my workplace, for whatever reason—yes, they are interfering with my ability to do business, regardless of what that business is. It is better for them to get the help they need than to continue hurting themselves and, well, my ability to do work.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    How nice of you to make that decision for another person.

    You exploited this woman for attention and now justify this repulsive behavior with a weak excuse of "interference with your ability to do business".

    You've posted enough identifiable information about this woman to interfere with *her* ability to do business. You asked her a personal question and she answered you, unfortunately believing you to be actually concerned for *her* well being when nothing could be further from the truth. You took the personal information she shared with you and you posted it on a newspaper blog.

    Side effects from legally prescribed and used as legally prescribed can and do happen and some of them are not pleasant to say the least. It is possible that the medication she said she was on could have produced the effects she was experiencing. Some have described certain anti-depressants as "zombifying" and it sounds very much like what you describe as her behavior.

    But for you to post that you suspect there is more than just prescribed medication? Pure uninformed speculation on your part. You come short of outright stating that she is a drug addict. Tell us, how does you your *speculation* as to the cause of her "business disrupting" behavior contribute to her ability to do business? What are you going to do if your speculations are way off base and she is fired as a result of them? Or is that okay because you've eliminated a potential competitor to your ability to do business?
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says…
    It is unreasonable to expect me to apologize for making a living.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    I didn't ask for nor do I expect for you to apologize for making a living. You are entitled to legally earn it as you choose.

    However, you should apologize for exploiting a woman who is part of the stripper "sisterhood" and part of the camaraderie you claim strippers have. You used her to gain attention on a newspaper blog. You took her personal information and made it public without her permission. At at minimum, you should apologize to her in person for doing so.

    At least now we catch a glimpse of the true Anna and that is why you enjoy your job so much and why you seem to excel at it. Again, congratulations on finding a job that suits your natural inclinations.

  39. Katara (anonymous) says…

    The update is good however you left the information up that our less observant readers will see and will still assume that this woman is a drug addict.

    The irony of your blog seems to be lost on you as well.

  40. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @Katara
    I can see where you're coming from on that.

    I don't think this is a dramatic and defining moment in this blog, but I can see why you might think that, too.

  41. bad_dog (anonymous) says…

    Katara, aside from "She's blonde and has pretty eyes..." as described in the previous blog, what "identifiable information" has Anna posted about this person? Blonde hair and pretty eyes are fairly common denominators in the ballet bidness, or at least that's what I've heard...

  42. Katara (anonymous) says…

    bad_dog (Anonymous) says…
    Katara, aside from “She's blonde and has pretty eyes…” as described in the previous blog, what “identifiable information” has Anna posted about this person? Blonde hair and pretty eyes are fairly common denominators in the ballet bidness, or at least that's what I've heard…
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~
    Her place of employment is an identifier. The injury she sustained is an identifier. She provided bits of other info about her in other other blog (car problems as an excuse for being late) that can be used to identify this girl.

    Anna's co-workers can identify this girl by the things Anna wrote about her. Anna's employer can identify this girl by the things Anna wrote about her. The Outhouse regulars can identify this girls by the things Anna wrote about her. These are people that this girl must face every time she goes to her place of employment.

    She gave this girl a reputation of being on drugs and that kind of thing does not go away quickly nor is a ruined reputation easily repaired. Anna repeated rumors on a newspaper blog and represented them as fact.

    From Anna's other blog:
    "Oh, hi," it was the girl on drugs, speaking really, really slowly. "Would you like some company?"

    "I'm glad she hasn't been back. She is definitely persona non grata. She is also likely on the owner's "hell no" list of girls he won't let work there anymore.

    ...And that's all for my encounters with drugs in the stripping industry (other than alcohol, which will get its own entry). "

    And Anna was wrong but she has kept all those allegations, implications and assumptions she had about this girl up with a small disclaimer about how she was incorrect at the top of the 2nd blog.

    Anna chides others about stereotypes about strippers and the unsavory things that can & do happen in that line of work but what was the first thing she assumed about her fellow stripper? That this girl was zonked out on illegal drugs. She didn't assume there was any other cause and when this girl told her about the antidepressants, Anna made it clear to us that she didn't buy that excuse and she encouraged others with this blog to speculate what this girl could be on.

    And there seems to be no remorse from Anna for smearing this girl's reputation in 2 separate blogs. She made this girl a representation of Anna's experience with drugs in the stripper world.

    What Anna to this girl is wrong and it lends credibility to some of the stereotypes of strippers and the type of people that they are.

  43. Katara (anonymous) says…

    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says…
    @Katara
    I can see where you're coming from on that.

    I don't think this is a dramatic and defining moment in this blog, but I can see why you might think that, too.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    I'd agree it isn't dramatic but you are a fool if you fail to see this as a defining moment for you. Perhaps you should re-read your blogs from the very first one to this one and reflect on it.

    I am sure you see your transformation from then to now as becoming "empowered" and increasingly confident in your abilities but you've trashed a co-worker in 2 different blogs on a public forum. That's not an improvement in your journey to celebrate your "somebodiness" or even helpful in sustaining the euphoria you experience in this job and its certainly not a good long term strategy to improve your ability to do business.

  44. GoodGirl (anonymous) says…

    Being a stripper can put you on antidepressants. It is not all glamorous and profitable. Women fought for a long time to get equal rights to men based on their intellectual abilities. Unfortunately, pretty girls still think they are in charge if some guy is lusting over their body. Wake up, you are just a sexual object, you are not empowered. You just cannot make good money doing something else for lack of education, abilities, luck, or whatever the circumstances.

  45. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    @Katara
    Having these two entries up is a good record that even someone who thinks they're beyond the stereotypes can make a mistake and buy into it.

    That's why they're still here.

    I appreciate your point of view.

  46. Katara (anonymous) says…

    AnnaUndercover (Anonymous) says…

    @Katara
    Having these two entries up is a good record that even someone who thinks they're beyond the stereotypes can make a mistake and buy into it.

    That's why they're still here.

    I appreciate your point of view.
    ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
    It is also a great way to continue to smear your competition while claiming innocence as you do.

    I've observed the workplace "narcs" many times. At first, it seems like it is a positive business strategy but it always backfires. Sure, it eliminates their initial competition but it does eliminate the ability for that person to participate in the cameradie and the "sisterhood" as your co-workers clue in to what you are doing and I don't think you understand how vital that is to your ability to do business. It is for all sales positions.

  47. AnnaUndercover (Anna Undercover) says…

    Katara, she wasn't taking any business from me before. In this state, she's not my competition, really. And as far as camaraderie and this particular girl, it's sad, but she's unable to participate.

    There's more, but I'm going to save it for now.

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