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Squeezing Sand


“Relationships - of all kinds - are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand, the sand remains where it is.The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But hold too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.”

Kaleel Jamison, The Nibble Theory and the Kernel of Power: A Book about Leadership, Self-Empowerment, and Personal Growth

Control is like this, too. The harder you try to control something... the quicker you actually lose control.

Anybody else notice that trend lately?


jane_doe 11 months, 2 weeks ago

There are control issues in life that I gripped the heck out of until I squeezed the life out of it and lost it.

There are relationships that I've held onto so hard as I was being dragged under water that it pulled me under even faster.

Past few months, both of those issues I've been flirting with in a very different way. It is almost like I'm expected to back away and dance around and play coy. Does success REQUIRE a dance? Interesting.

We shall see, won't we?


Leslie Swearingen 11 months, 3 weeks ago

Indeed I do, if we are thinking the same thing. I imagine that to some being in control would mean security and peace as they could then predict what is going to happen with events and others around them, no surprises.

Then, too some are so convinced they are right and if others only followed their advice they would be right, and therefore happy also. They don't realize that we don't all think and feel alike, and that we are happy in different ways.


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