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Kansas Court of Appeals rules Martin Miller should get new murder trial

There's a phenomenon called "cognitive dissonance" I'm reading about. The book is Mistakes Were Make (but not my me) Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson. Cognitive dissonance stems from self-justification (i.e. the sin of self protection) whichs "allows us to create a distinction between our moral lapses and someone else's, and to blur the discrepancy between our actions and our moral convictions." Politicians do it, company executives do it, churches do it, we all do it. Do as I say and not as I do. I will justify my actions in my own mind so that I'm not in conflict (dissonance) with my own ideas, attitudes, beliefs, or opinions. As a result, we don't live lives of truth, and we don't even realize it. Instead we toot our own horn on grounds of being morally higher than those around us. Sounds like Adam blaming Eve as he sunk his teeth into the apple.

February 12, 2012 at 5:31 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Kansas Court of Appeals rules Martin Miller should get new murder trial

Yes, I've read those articles. The approval of men is more important than the approval of God. That's what religion has given us...rules and regulations. Then we miss the boat just like the Pharisees did and focus on behavior rather than relationship. Jesus was all about relationship.

February 12, 2012 at 2:01 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Kansas Court of Appeals rules Martin Miller should get new murder trial

I hear you on that one!

February 12, 2012 at 12:20 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Kansas Court of Appeals rules Martin Miller should get new murder trial

deec - It's called the sin of self protection.

February 12, 2012 at 12:03 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Kansas Court of Appeals rules Martin Miller should get new murder trial

I moved away from Lawrence before this horrible event happened. I am shocked and horrified that there was a technicality which allows this case to be retried. Now Mary's family, her children, friends, and the community will get dragged back through this muck at taxpayer's expenses.

I have only one question in all this. If the marriage was SO bad, why didn't he have the balls to just divorce his wife? It's not the "unpardonable sin"! That's what you get for being bound to a man-made, shame-based religion rather than true relationship with Jesus.

My heart goes out to all of you who were friends of Mary, to her family, and to her childern.

February 12, 2012 at 11:31 a.m. ( | suggest removal )