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Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

ivalueamerica doesn't live in the real world.

June 19, 2010 at 10:01 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

Thanks for calling my parenting skills into question; I question your basic understanding of how the world actually works. Is it fair to the child to be exploited like this? Did his name have to be used? Did his mom have to make this obviously trivial and legally sound decision by the bar owner her personal crusade? Did his mother really not stop to think about how this would affect his life, or was she only fixated on herself?

If you would have cared to actually interpret the words from my last post, you would have noticed that I didn't mention anything about "what other people whisper behind your back". I wrote about the child himself. His future should be taken into account. His feelings, his emotions. But, for the sake of your understanding, let's think about that scenario. You can't just tell someone to not feel uncomfortable, or embarrassed, or happy, or sad. That's why their feelings, emotions. And let's face it: In the real world, it isn't summer year round, gas doesn't smell like perfume, and every person you meet isn't looking out for your best interests. Occasionally, someone might deride you. If you happen to be able to deal with that in a healthy way, then congratulations. But when a kid has been picked on to the point of suicidal thoughts or actions, are you just going to tell them to "rise above it"? Don't worry about it? It would be nice if we could just not worry or care about some things, but we do, because they are inherently fixated to our natural characters as human beings. And, in my opinion, telling a kid to "rise above it" is a cop-out to actually dealing with a situation.

June 19, 2010 at 9:58 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

Let's say, despite this parent's obvious shortcomings in what is acceptable bar/infant etiquette, that little Dmitri grows to be a teenager. In 15 years, how do you think he will feel about this situation? Glad that, before he could walk or speak, his identity was posted online by his mother, and that his presence in a bar after 11 was the central debate in an argument about acceptable parental behavior? If given the choice, do you think Dmitri would prefer his mom publicly breast feed him at a bar, or privately at the comfort of his own house? (I think the breast feeding and late night bar escapades are two completely separate situations, but it's still something that should be given thought to). I mean, I'm glad my mother didn't take me to a bar, cause a scene, and have the local newspaper write about it.

June 19, 2010 at 2:33 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

Even the manager clearly states in the article, “It’s a busy bar,” he said. “And after 10 o’clock or so, the majority of our business is in alcohol. It can get a little rowdy and people have expressed concerns that it was not a good environment to have a child in.”

So, this quaint, cozy little coffee house, that just happens to sell liquor on the side, is not the same place after 10 PM.

June 18, 2010 at 10:51 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

Ask yourself why they're illegal. If your response is, "because it places the child in an unfair, dangerous situation" then that is all you need to know. Just because something is "illegal" or "legal" doesn't mean it isn't sensibly stupid.

June 17, 2010 at 4:03 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Mother feels unfairly singled out at local drinking establishment

To those who think that "it's wrong to tell someone else how to raise their child" - woah. Would you agree with a parent's decision to let a 2 year old ride on top of the car? How about letting a 3 year old walk across town, alone, at midnight? Would you agree that those are dangerous, unfair situations to put your child in, or just parents exercising their rights to do with their children as they see fit? With the media this catching, do you think Child Protective Services will be interested in it?

I sincerely hope Carrie learns from this mistake, because that's what it is. She's put her infant in a dangerous position and seems to be completely oblivious to this, even after talking with the owner and receiving bewildered looks from other patrons. For her child's sake, I hope she stops.

June 17, 2010 at 3:55 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Young sailor’s parents face sea of criticism

But the point of contention is that there is no point in circumnavigating the world at 16! It's not 1910, and she isn't acting valiantly to save one of her family's most important assets. I know you're very concerned with academics and critical of sports in college, so I ask why isn't this 16 year old girl in school?

I can tell people, "Hey, watch me! I'm gonna drive down this icy road on a motorcycle without a helmet!". And if I come out alright, I can guarantee that the response would not be, "Way to go man! You're really living your life to the fullest!". I think is would be more along the lines of, "Well, you made it, but that was really stupid and doesn't prove anything."

June 12, 2010 at 10:20 p.m. ( | suggest removal )

Young sailor’s parents face sea of criticism

At no point in history was a 16 year old girl given a boat and encouraged to circumnavigate the entire earth. She's risking the lives of rescue workers and wasting taxpayer money (albeit from Australia) to sail around the world at a very inopportune time (winter in the Indian Ocean) because if she went later in the year, she wouldn't be the "youngest" person to sail around the world.

June 12, 2010 at 10:20 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Young sailor’s parents face sea of criticism

If the current situation's impact is lost on anybody, here is a pretty clear analogy.

A 16 year old riding a crotch rocket at night down an icy rode, days away from anyone who can help, without cell phone reception, wearing only knee pads and elbow pads. Neither sound safe to me.

Having said that, if she wants to take a trip around the world for no reason, very greatly risking her life, well that's her decision... Actually, that's her parents decision. They encouraged and funded her, but ultimately she made the decision. The question is whether or not a 16 year old can make that decision logically and with maturity. There's only so much experience 16 years can give you. The US doesn't consider her mature enough to even vote in the election at that age. Her dad may say she is experienced, and no one disputing that; but the fact is that more experienced sailors have said how stupid it is to be in the Indian Ocean during winter, no matter your level of experience. And why did she do this? Because if she was to wait until later this year, she would no longer "be the youngest" and wouldn't hold an arbitrary award.

The most puzzling aspect is their claim that this is being done to break the world record of youngest person to complete a solo circumnavigation around the globe. Well, she has already had problems in the past, before the problems she is having now. She's already had assistance, and she's receiving some now. She won't be eligible for the record in the first place.

June 12, 2010 at 9:30 a.m. ( | suggest removal )

Lew Perkins set to retire as Kansas University's athletic director at end of 2010-11 school year

Agreed. I'm a little disgusted by how much he is taking from the university - financially and academically - as an ATHLETIC Director. Without question, every professor, director, coach, and employee (anyone with directer oversight of students) should be looking out for the best interest of the students and protecting their futures. But in the end it's all politics; they talk out of both sides of their mouths.

June 11, 2010 at 1:06 p.m. ( | suggest removal )