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Have you ever been bullied?

Response Percent Votes
82% 520
17% 113
Total 633


Antonym 6 years, 6 months ago

Only by Sam the Sham and the Pharaohs.

1southernjayhawk 6 years, 6 months ago

Who is playing every week at Flounders Restaurant in Englewood, Fl by the way.

billbodiggens 6 years, 6 months ago

Yep, some 50 years ago, several school yard bullies, they stated it and I finished it.

motercyclejim 6 years, 6 months ago

YES! finaly some one smart on this website!!1 y should I have to give tax to the US they should pay ME for livving here and making it so great!

motercyclejim 6 years, 6 months ago

taxxing is wrong! we shouldnt have to pay taxes its not in the constititution!!! i was just kiding about paying me but we shouldnt have to pay taxes its wrong.

Jeremiah Jefferson 6 years, 6 months ago

Yeah untill I started hitting back.... Your not American if you don't hit back

parrothead8 6 years, 6 months ago

Does that mean Christians are un-American, since they are supposed to turn the other cheek?

RoeDapple 6 years, 6 months ago

I've not been bullied for a long time but have been steered wrong. I never cow down.

Ron Holzwarth 6 years, 6 months ago

You might have been steered wrong, but I know you've never steered wrong yourself!

bevy 6 years, 5 months ago

Teachers' hands are tied in taking control - instead of parents backing the teachers, they will threaten to sue the teacher and the district.

gphawk89 6 years, 6 months ago

Daily verbal abuse and a bit of shoving now and then from one individual throughout my 8th grade year. I pretty much ignored him and let it go on all year. Then there was one little shove the first day of 9th grade. I decided I had had enough and threw him down and choked him for a while. Presto! No more bullying.

Jayhawk1958 6 years, 6 months ago

I was constantly verbally abused in Jr. High, but after a head bash on the urinal things went back to normal.

curmudgeon 6 years, 6 months ago

Yep, it's just part of school life...unfortunately.

Cait McKnelly 6 years, 6 months ago

I've not only been bullied in school I was also bullied (more than once) in the work place. I know many people who were bullied by managers and employers. Constant, veiled threats are a way of life in jobs as well as school and, in this economy, very much on the upswing.

Paul R Getto 6 years, 6 months ago

"I've not only been bullied in school I was also bullied (more than once) in the work place." === A good point. Sometimes people forget the Kansas law prohibits bullying by adults too, to each other or to students. Much of bullying is criminal behavior. Parents need to consider calling law enforcement as necessary and sometimes school administrators do the same. I'll not try to ascertain legislative intent on this law. They do like to pass laws that don't cost them money, create the illusion of concern for others and that someone else has to deal with. Some of the people who vote for laws like this allege schools are ineffective, until they discover another problem they want fixed.Schools have worked on this problem for decades, as they should.

Richard Heckler 6 years, 6 months ago

The parents is where prevention begins.

Cut off the macho stuff at home and stop the "boys will be boys" attitude.

The schools can in fact do very little EXCEPT keep calling the parents. Otherwise parents come back on schools.

Can schools video some of the bullying as back up?

I'm not saying schools cannot step in. They should for their own protection. "Boys will be Boys" is not acceptable in schools way jose'! Hear that coaches!!!

Flap Doodle 6 years, 6 months ago

Your "!" key is sticking, bub. You might want to get that seen to.

jayhawklawrence 6 years, 6 months ago

I was the smallest kid in a new HS and I didn't know anybody. I looked a little bit like Bill Gates and I was really shy and trying to find my way. I guess I was a walking target because it wasn't long before I got jumped. It happened on several occasions and each time it started out with a sucker punch to the head.

These guys were bigger than me and I think they just wanted to beat me up for fun. Unfortunately for them, they were embarrassed and saved from a beating by a bunch of people, some teachers, pulling me off.

It is sometimes hard to imagine, but sometimes the little guy can be pretty mean.

I still feel resentment to this day, over 40 years later, that in every case, the Principal kicked me out of school, making my adjustment to a new school even more difficult.

This is what happens when you label kids instead of treating them as individuals and taking an active interest in finding out who they are as individuals.

I guess that Principal thought I was a problem kid that he didn't have time to deal with.

Carol Bowen 6 years, 6 months ago

What a horrible experience. My daughter had trouble in school, too. My sons would get upset because of the inequities they saw. Stereotyping by school staff happens way too often.

asixbury 6 years, 6 months ago

Awesome quote! Haha....that made me smile! Love that movie.

DoltSimons 6 years, 6 months ago

Principals want the job, power and money for their jobs, but they don't want to analyze bullying. So they sit there and often times mete out the same punishment to the perps as they do the victims. Anybody can do that. It would take someone with talent to solve the problem.

Reuben Turner 6 years, 6 months ago

well i be...yes i have.confront the bully and he/she will usually leave you alone. I found out that sometimes you have to prove to the bully that you are not going take all his/her stuff. when he/she doesn't hear "leave me alone" he/she has to feel "leave me alone"!!

Joe Hyde 6 years, 6 months ago

Like happens to probably every kid, I got bullied a few times, even got physically assaulted a few times; the attacks came out of the clear blue for no particular reason other than I was there and provided a handy target for some kid to vent his inner rage on, or whatever. It was scary stuff.

Bullying wears many disguises and is committed by males and females equally. I feel that the most common, the most frightening and dangerous form of bullying that society sees today is aggressive driving. Many people who otherwise lack the courage to bully someone face-to-face seem to relish bullying others anonymously. No longer doing it in the schoolyard, they bully from behind a steering wheel with their face hidden behind the tinted windows of a motor vehicle.

Looking back on it, having the legal authority to pull over and give a moving violation ticket to drivers I spotted operating rudely and aggressively, that was the absolute most satisfying thing about being a policeman.

tbaker 6 years, 6 months ago

Sure I was bullied as a kid, it's rare not to be. All four of my sons were too, and all four of them used the same solution with great succes: Tell a responsible adult. If that fails, publically warn the bully to stop. If that fails, punch him in the nose as hard as you can in front of as many people as possible. The results were the same in each case: bullying stopped.

Carol Bowen 6 years, 6 months ago

Bullying does not end in school. Bullying is in the workplace. See Bullying is on the rise everywhere. We're seeing it in the Republican primaries. It's prevalent on blogs. I worry about the societal trends.

bearded_gnome 6 years, 6 months ago

sure does sound like the ol' poster Machiavelli-mania!

Cant_have_it_both_ways 6 years, 6 months ago

The snow ordinance comes to mind. Makes me think about the new trash/recycle service we will soon get to enjoy.

George Lippencott 6 years, 6 months ago

If the above data is representative our educational system, has a very, very large challenge. Perhaps that challenge may rest on all of us. For one thing, bullying as I define it occurs in this space quite frequently.

beatrice 6 years, 6 months ago

I was called a witch once, so I turned the person into a newt.

RoeDapple 6 years, 6 months ago

I've neutered a bull or two in my time too bea . . .

beatrice 6 years, 6 months ago

As I recall, you fell a might Oak once as well.

asixbury 6 years, 6 months ago

I was bullied so bad in junior high that it caused major depression. We ended up moving to a new town and school, where I was no longer bullied. The only reason it was so bad at the school I went to, it was a very, very small school (20 people in my entire class). I was not born and raised in that small town and therefore, I was an outsider. It was hard going through my junior high years with only one friend, who was only a friend after school. My mom and I tried countless times talking to the school officials, and it never helped. In fact, most of the teachers were the parents of the kids who bullied me. If I could do things over again, I would have sued the sh*t out of that school. They knew what was happening (it happened right in front of them) and never stopped it or even tried. They told me to get over it and ignore it. Not good advice. I fought back, too, and that did not help either. I will always hate that town because of the way I was treated.

goodcountrypeople 6 years, 6 months ago

Lawrence is full of aggressive people who will approach and mess with strangers at the drop of a dime . I believe there are good reasons to beware of strangers and have always been jumpy so do not find this behavior pleasant to say the least. These people seem to need a lot of help with their brains, yet they delude themselves they are are being useful to others by aggressively intruding. "Help" is a mantra to them and they are too unaware to realize they are scaring people and making them uncomfortable. It's not easy to help people even if you are intelligent and aware, and treating people like physical objects hardly fills the bill. If you try to tell them the truth they will attack you, sometimes physically. If violating the boundaries of those who would just be grateful to be spared your stupidity is not bullying I don't know what is. It hardly promotes equal or harmonious relationships--basically just scares people off the streets and makes them dread using public facilities. It's a whole culture of white trash bullies.

equalaccessprivacy 6 years, 6 months ago

I've become a huge fan of Hollaback and Stop Street Harassment after being terrorized by the multitudes who have been unwisely trained up in Kansas by backwoods parents to approach strangers in the public spaces of Lawrence for discriminatory reasons, not to mention and the barbaric and thuggish KU authorities like Steve Ramirez and Ola Faucher who brutalize and smear with false charges the victims of this crap.

Get a clue, you may not be not the sharpest crayon in the box. Please think twice before approaching strangers who you might scare and offend and who may not view you as God's gift or even a capable, competent, human being they care to deal with. People deserve to be able to live their own lives by their own values and not to be imposed on by misguided strangers.

bearded_gnome 6 years, 6 months ago

yes, I was bullied terribly in grade school. it had to do with a personal trait of mine. ... no, I wasn't born with the beard.

it was very hard, and still effects me today.

goodcountrypeople 6 years, 5 months ago

It's terrifying how quickly and presumptuously strangers approach you in Lawrence. This is bullying because these people don't consider that you may have a more politically aware, sophisticated world view than they and therefore highly doubt they have much input to offer except offensive ignorance that hardly brightens anyone's day. People who are so dumb they think physically opening the door for strangers constitutes help obviously don't understand how equality works, and that the only "help" most people want and need is equal treatment. Backward chivalry needs to die a welcome death. It's harassment jerks and molesters use to violate decent social boundaries. You a-hats are ruining my life. People in this town only want to dominate and control-- to make others the butt of their ignorance. Only hicks approach strangers, so please stop it. I only talk to people who show me they have their brains in gear, bullies, who turn into rabid attack dogs as soon as someone tries to tell you the truth. Dang, Lawrence sure is a miserable, backward place. How to avoid talking to people video: (This likely won't work with the clueless locals):

begin60 6 years, 5 months ago

"Will your darkest hour write a blank check on your soul?"--Slaid Cleaves

The fact that everyone in KS and MO and probably further south was raised to mob strangers for discriminatory reasons does not tell a very positive tale about diversity. People give themselves way to much credit when they stupidly define"helping" in terms of physical labor. It's an "I'm o.k. , you're not" approach to dealing with people whose lives would stay much brighter if you'd just stand back and keep your paws to yourself. Dumb people like you tend to slam doors on those they try to open them for anyway. Trust me few strangers wish to engage you as a pack horse. Anyone who isn't reasonably cautious about approaching strangers shows extremely bad judgment---f-tards and stalkers every one. Beware of strangers, especially when they hark from freaking Lawrence.

People should be able to exercise and use public facilities without being hounded by the intellectually challenged who are too thick to realize their definition of help may be someone else's ticket to destruction. There are laws about this, and people who need help would prefer to get it from experts who are required to protect privacy. There's a reason the type of busybody people that do this type of thing not work in jobs that require having one's brain in gear! They need a lot of help with their brains but are apparently unfortunately ineducable.

bevy 6 years, 5 months ago

I will probably regret asking this, but I'm going to do it anyway, because I'm curious. What the he** are you talking about? I have never been harassed anywhere in Lawrence. If you consider someone holding a door for you to be "mobbing a stranger" then perhaps your view of reality is skewed.

RoeDapple 6 years, 5 months ago

bevy . . . you're feeding the trolls . . .

bevy 6 years, 5 months ago

Thought so. Well at least he didn't rise to the bait.

acg 6 years, 5 months ago

Only a few times, and let me tell you how I handled it. In HS a cheerleader biotch thought she was going to make me the butt of her jokes and bullying until I set her pom-poms on fire with my Zippo. Told her if she ever crossed me again it was going to be something she actually cared about that burned. A jerkwad cowpoke also thought he was going to torture me on a daily basis but lo and behold, somehow his tires were slashed repeatedly, his father's cows kept getting out and running off and then...bam! He's arrested for possession of a controlled substance. Wonder how that got in his trunk? Never, ever, ever take one minute of crap from anyone! And if they get in your face...get back in theirs, but make it count.

garyr 6 years, 5 months ago

Yeah, I was bulied when I was a kid. I moved to Kansas from Arkansas midway through my 2nd grade year. I talked differently than everyone, they would trip me at recess or walking down the hall. But did I bi7tch to my parents about it, or go home crying? No, I didn't. And you know why? Because I wasn't wussified like all the kids these days. Grow a pair and stick up for yourself. This young generation now is going to be holding their parents hands their whole lives. It's sad and sickening. And one day, they'll realize it when they can't fend for themselves, and mommy and daddy aren't there to protect them.

Grammaton 6 years, 5 months ago

Yes, many times in junior high. It was tortuous, and like clockwork. One day (I was highly stressed because of my parents getting divorced), the routine bully spotted me just outside of the gym and attempted to get his hands around my neck. It had happened before, as I was so small then he liked to pick me up by my neck and laugh about how easy it was.

Luckily for me, I had been practicing Tae Kwon Do since I was three years old and had begun learning Hapkido. When he went for my neck, my new reflexes kicked in and I executed some defensive Hapkido I had learned the previous night. He never tried again, and I was never bullied again. I do not regret how I behaved.

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