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Have you ever been bullied?

Response Percent Votes
Yes
 
82% 520
No
 
17% 113
Total 633

Comments

bd 2 years, 3 months ago

Only by liberals!

Tea anyone?

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Grammaton 2 years, 3 months ago

Yes, many times in junior high. It was tortuous, and like clockwork. One day (I was highly stressed because of my parents getting divorced), the routine bully spotted me just outside of the gym and attempted to get his hands around my neck. It had happened before, as I was so small then he liked to pick me up by my neck and laugh about how easy it was.

Luckily for me, I had been practicing Tae Kwon Do since I was three years old and had begun learning Hapkido. When he went for my neck, my new reflexes kicked in and I executed some defensive Hapkido I had learned the previous night. He never tried again, and I was never bullied again. I do not regret how I behaved.

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garyr 2 years, 3 months ago

Yeah, I was bulied when I was a kid. I moved to Kansas from Arkansas midway through my 2nd grade year. I talked differently than everyone, they would trip me at recess or walking down the hall. But did I bi7tch to my parents about it, or go home crying? No, I didn't. And you know why? Because I wasn't wussified like all the kids these days. Grow a pair and stick up for yourself. This young generation now is going to be holding their parents hands their whole lives. It's sad and sickening. And one day, they'll realize it when they can't fend for themselves, and mommy and daddy aren't there to protect them.

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acg 2 years, 3 months ago

Only a few times, and let me tell you how I handled it. In HS a cheerleader biotch thought she was going to make me the butt of her jokes and bullying until I set her pom-poms on fire with my Zippo. Told her if she ever crossed me again it was going to be something she actually cared about that burned. A jerkwad cowpoke also thought he was going to torture me on a daily basis but lo and behold, somehow his tires were slashed repeatedly, his father's cows kept getting out and running off and then...bam! He's arrested for possession of a controlled substance. Wonder how that got in his trunk? Never, ever, ever take one minute of crap from anyone! And if they get in your face...get back in theirs, but make it count.

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begin60 2 years, 3 months ago

"Will your darkest hour write a blank check on your soul?"--Slaid Cleaves

The fact that everyone in KS and MO and probably further south was raised to mob strangers for discriminatory reasons does not tell a very positive tale about diversity. People give themselves way to much credit when they stupidly define"helping" in terms of physical labor. It's an "I'm o.k. , you're not" approach to dealing with people whose lives would stay much brighter if you'd just stand back and keep your paws to yourself. Dumb people like you tend to slam doors on those they try to open them for anyway. Trust me few strangers wish to engage you as a pack horse. Anyone who isn't reasonably cautious about approaching strangers shows extremely bad judgment---f-tards and stalkers every one. Beware of strangers, especially when they hark from freaking Lawrence.

People should be able to exercise and use public facilities without being hounded by the intellectually challenged who are too thick to realize their definition of help may be someone else's ticket to destruction. There are laws about this, and people who need help would prefer to get it from experts who are required to protect privacy. There's a reason the type of busybody people that do this type of thing not work in jobs that require having one's brain in gear! They need a lot of help with their brains but are apparently unfortunately ineducable.

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goodcountrypeople 2 years, 3 months ago

It's terrifying how quickly and presumptuously strangers approach you in Lawrence. This is bullying because these people don't consider that you may have a more politically aware, sophisticated world view than they and therefore highly doubt they have much input to offer except offensive ignorance that hardly brightens anyone's day. People who are so dumb they think physically opening the door for strangers constitutes help obviously don't understand how equality works, and that the only "help" most people want and need is equal treatment. Backward chivalry needs to die a welcome death. It's harassment jerks and molesters use to violate decent social boundaries. You a-hats are ruining my life. People in this town only want to dominate and control-- to make others the butt of their ignorance. Only hicks approach strangers, so please stop it. I only talk to people who show me they have their brains in gear, bullies, who turn into rabid attack dogs as soon as someone tries to tell you the truth. Dang, Lawrence sure is a miserable, backward place. How to avoid talking to people video: (This likely won't work with the clueless locals): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa9... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa9...

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bearded_gnome 2 years, 3 months ago

yes, I was bullied terribly in grade school. it had to do with a personal trait of mine. ... no, I wasn't born with the beard.

it was very hard, and still effects me today.

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equalaccessprivacy 2 years, 3 months ago

I've become a huge fan of Hollaback and Stop Street Harassment after being terrorized by the multitudes who have been unwisely trained up in Kansas by backwoods parents to approach strangers in the public spaces of Lawrence for discriminatory reasons, not to mention and the barbaric and thuggish KU authorities like Steve Ramirez and Ola Faucher who brutalize and smear with false charges the victims of this crap.

Get a clue, you may not be not the sharpest crayon in the box. Please think twice before approaching strangers who you might scare and offend and who may not view you as God's gift or even a capable, competent, human being they care to deal with. People deserve to be able to live their own lives by their own values and not to be imposed on by misguided strangers.

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goodcountrypeople 2 years, 3 months ago

Lawrence is full of aggressive people who will approach and mess with strangers at the drop of a dime . I believe there are good reasons to beware of strangers and have always been jumpy so do not find this behavior pleasant to say the least. These people seem to need a lot of help with their brains, yet they delude themselves they are are being useful to others by aggressively intruding. "Help" is a mantra to them and they are too unaware to realize they are scaring people and making them uncomfortable. It's not easy to help people even if you are intelligent and aware, and treating people like physical objects hardly fills the bill. If you try to tell them the truth they will attack you, sometimes physically. If violating the boundaries of those who would just be grateful to be spared your stupidity is not bullying I don't know what is. It hardly promotes equal or harmonious relationships--basically just scares people off the streets and makes them dread using public facilities. It's a whole culture of white trash bullies.

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asixbury 2 years, 3 months ago

I was bullied so bad in junior high that it caused major depression. We ended up moving to a new town and school, where I was no longer bullied. The only reason it was so bad at the school I went to, it was a very, very small school (20 people in my entire class). I was not born and raised in that small town and therefore, I was an outsider. It was hard going through my junior high years with only one friend, who was only a friend after school. My mom and I tried countless times talking to the school officials, and it never helped. In fact, most of the teachers were the parents of the kids who bullied me. If I could do things over again, I would have sued the sh*t out of that school. They knew what was happening (it happened right in front of them) and never stopped it or even tried. They told me to get over it and ignore it. Not good advice. I fought back, too, and that did not help either. I will always hate that town because of the way I was treated.

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RoeDapple 2 years, 4 months ago

I've neutered a bull or two in my time too bea . . .

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beatrice 2 years, 4 months ago

I was called a witch once, so I turned the person into a newt.

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George Lippencott 2 years, 4 months ago

If the above data is representative our educational system, has a very, very large challenge. Perhaps that challenge may rest on all of us. For one thing, bullying as I define it occurs in this space quite frequently.

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Cant_have_it_both_ways 2 years, 4 months ago

The snow ordinance comes to mind. Makes me think about the new trash/recycle service we will soon get to enjoy.

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ShePrecedes 2 years, 4 months ago

In high school, my sister and I were the ones that stood up for the underdog and countered the bullies. Sis could string words together that would castrate the brain-addled Football Captain who happened to bully the underlings. I ran a close second.

If you were stupid and a bully around my sister and I, you are backed against the wall and severely punished with words you didn't even understand nor capable of understanding.

One day, a couple of neighbors came to our house with rifles in their hands. My dad opposed building a new gym and they came to get him to stand down,... with guns. My mother sent them out with their tales between their legs and the guns dragging the ground, ... with her words. What were they going to do with those guns anyway, while all us girls stood around watching the entire thing.

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ShePrecedes 2 years, 4 months ago

This forum is full of unchecked bullies, and people who make negative comments at another's expense (most of those display alcoholic behaviors, as we all can see). The GOP are full of bullies. The Democrats are bullies. There is bullying on campus. Nursing has HUGE! bullying campaigns going on. There are bullies in science. The FBI bullies. The CIA bullies. Sports holds lots of bullying. Our City Hall bullies.

The question is: Should you fire the bully for bullying? I say, YES. It should be grounds for being fired.

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Carol Bowen 2 years, 4 months ago

Bullying does not end in school. Bullying is in the workplace. See http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/bully.htm Bullying is on the rise everywhere. We're seeing it in the Republican primaries. It's prevalent on blogs. I worry about the societal trends.

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tbaker 2 years, 4 months ago

Sure I was bullied as a kid, it's rare not to be. All four of my sons were too, and all four of them used the same solution with great succes: Tell a responsible adult. If that fails, publically warn the bully to stop. If that fails, punch him in the nose as hard as you can in front of as many people as possible. The results were the same in each case: bullying stopped.

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Joe Hyde 2 years, 4 months ago

Like happens to probably every kid, I got bullied a few times, even got physically assaulted a few times; the attacks came out of the clear blue for no particular reason other than I was there and provided a handy target for some kid to vent his inner rage on, or whatever. It was scary stuff.

Bullying wears many disguises and is committed by males and females equally. I feel that the most common, the most frightening and dangerous form of bullying that society sees today is aggressive driving. Many people who otherwise lack the courage to bully someone face-to-face seem to relish bullying others anonymously. No longer doing it in the schoolyard, they bully from behind a steering wheel with their face hidden behind the tinted windows of a motor vehicle.

Looking back on it, having the legal authority to pull over and give a moving violation ticket to drivers I spotted operating rudely and aggressively, that was the absolute most satisfying thing about being a policeman.

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Jane 2 years, 4 months ago

Painful as it is to admit to ourselves, we all teach people how to treat us. If you are being mistreated, you have to take the perp back to school. Or, decide to take it, it really is up to the individual.

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cletus26 2 years, 4 months ago

well i be...yes i have.confront the bully and he/she will usually leave you alone. I found out that sometimes you have to prove to the bully that you are not going take all his/her stuff. when he/she doesn't hear "leave me alone" he/she has to feel "leave me alone"!!

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DoltSimons 2 years, 4 months ago

Principals want the job, power and money for their jobs, but they don't want to analyze bullying. So they sit there and often times mete out the same punishment to the perps as they do the victims. Anybody can do that. It would take someone with talent to solve the problem.

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jayhawklawrence 2 years, 4 months ago

I was the smallest kid in a new HS and I didn't know anybody. I looked a little bit like Bill Gates and I was really shy and trying to find my way. I guess I was a walking target because it wasn't long before I got jumped. It happened on several occasions and each time it started out with a sucker punch to the head.

These guys were bigger than me and I think they just wanted to beat me up for fun. Unfortunately for them, they were embarrassed and saved from a beating by a bunch of people, some teachers, pulling me off.

It is sometimes hard to imagine, but sometimes the little guy can be pretty mean.

I still feel resentment to this day, over 40 years later, that in every case, the Principal kicked me out of school, making my adjustment to a new school even more difficult.

This is what happens when you label kids instead of treating them as individuals and taking an active interest in finding out who they are as individuals.

I guess that Principal thought I was a problem kid that he didn't have time to deal with.

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Richard Heckler 2 years, 4 months ago

The parents is where prevention begins.

Cut off the macho stuff at home and stop the "boys will be boys" attitude.

The schools can in fact do very little EXCEPT keep calling the parents. Otherwise parents come back on schools.

Can schools video some of the bullying as back up?

I'm not saying schools cannot step in. They should for their own protection. "Boys will be Boys" is not acceptable in schools either.....no way jose'! Hear that coaches!!!

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Cait McKnelly 2 years, 4 months ago

I've not only been bullied in school I was also bullied (more than once) in the work place. I know many people who were bullied by managers and employers. Constant, veiled threats are a way of life in jobs as well as school and, in this economy, very much on the upswing.

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curmudgeon 2 years, 4 months ago

Yep, it's just part of school life...unfortunately.

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Jayhawk1958 2 years, 4 months ago

I was constantly verbally abused in Jr. High, but after a head bash on the urinal things went back to normal.

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BABBOY 2 years, 4 months ago

Bunch of stupid posts of people pretending to be tough. So, I added two more.

Truth of the matter, I was bullied in jr high and then I learned school was basically a bunch of clicks and if you were in a group they left you alone. I started playing football and became a jock and people left me alone. But, it was because I was in group, loners were in trouble in school....

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justanotherface 2 years, 4 months ago

I've got to ask, is the bullying getting worse or are today's kids just getting soft? That's the real question.

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gphawk89 2 years, 4 months ago

Daily verbal abuse and a bit of shoving now and then from one individual throughout my 8th grade year. I pretty much ignored him and let it go on all year. Then there was one little shove the first day of 9th grade. I decided I had had enough and threw him down and choked him for a while. Presto! No more bullying.

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consumer1 2 years, 4 months ago

When I was in school, if I saw someone bullying another smaller child, I would step in and say try that crap w/me awhole!! I stopped allot of bullying, but now, if someone tries to do what I did, they would get arrested for assualt and kicked out of school. What a system huh!! Fight fire with fire. This current system teaches everyone to be a wimp. Teachers know who the bullies are, they are affraid to step up and take control of the situation.

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RoeDapple 2 years, 4 months ago

I've not been bullied for a long time but have been steered wrong. I never cow down.

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consumer1 2 years, 4 months ago

My last girfriend tried to bully me, "tried". Don't laugh there are allot of women bullies out there.

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Andini 2 years, 4 months ago

Only here...you know who you are.

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catfishturkeyhunter 2 years, 4 months ago

Yeah untill I started hitting back.... Your not American if you don't hit back

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Liberty_One 2 years, 4 months ago

Yes, his name is Uncle Sam and he threatened to put me in jail if I didn't hand over a cut of my property.

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billbodiggens 2 years, 4 months ago

Yep, some 50 years ago, several school yard bullies, they stated it and I finished it.

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Antonym 2 years, 4 months ago

Only by Sam the Sham and the Pharaohs.

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