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Letter to the editor: Porn is powerful, evil

February 16, 2018

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To the editor:

On Feb. 8, the Journal-World reported on our state senators, Marci Francisco and Tom Holland, voting for a resolution concerning pornography and its potential effect on marital infidelity and erectile dysfunction. Strange to me that these two people who also support gay marriage, transgender rights and abortion are so concerned about these particular issues of morality (except the erectile dysfunction one, which seems to me to be age-related as best as I can tell, but one that the pharmaceutical industry has tried to solve).

So let’s look at pornography. I remember when I was staying in a hotel in Paris where I was presenting a talk and paper at an international conference. I turned on the TV in my room, only to find out that it was a porn station. I couldn’t believe the strong attraction of the images and I immediately turned it off because I knew it was evil. They were powerful (besides being vulgar), and this explains to me why they could be so addictive. Think about their access via smartphones, which are even more accessible to almost anyone regardless of age or gender.

Offering a resolution condemning the problem will have limited success, as shown in current and past national legislation. People have to decide whether they want to allow this evil into their lives or to resist it. Unfortunately, many who reject God’s truth concerning these behaviors are rejecting the very power they need to overcome the evil.

Comments

Steve Jacob 3 months ago

Watching porn helps you understand what you like. Watching porn together with your spouse can bring you closer together. Releases stress. Basically don't talk to me about "God's truth" and I will not talk to you about porn. We are all adults and should do what we want in our own homes and the government for sure will not tell me what to do in my bedroom.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

For your consideration:

  1. Indulging in pornography ruins how you think about sex. Sex is a gift from God that is exclusively for one man and one woman who have covenanted together in marriage. Sex in marriage is beautiful. Sex is God’s idea, and we should praise him for it. Pornography corrupts and perverts sex. If you indulge in pornography, you will think about sex perversely. If you are married and indulge in pornography, then you will delight in sex with your wife less and less.

  2. Indulging in pornography ruins how you think about women. Women are humans whom God created in his image, and they beautifully display God’s glory. If you lust after the bodies of women, then you will think about women as sex objects to satisfy your sinful lusts rather than as fellow image-bearers.

  3. Indulging in pornography ruins how you think. It destructively rewires your brain. It ruins how you think and thus warps your affections.

  4. Consequently, indulging in pornography ruins your conscience. Your conscience is your consciousness of what you believe is “right” and “wrong. When you indulge in pornography, you desensitize your conscience because you suppress and silence your conscience and rationalize away your sin. Eventually, you can damage your conscience so badly that it doesn’t condemn you when you sin. You may, for example, need to calibrate your conscience about viewing sexually charged nudity in videos

Tony Peterson 3 months ago

Porn isn't anything new. It's existed for thousands of years and can be found in ancient art from every culture around the world.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

So wrongs make a right?

Google the damage that porn causes, inside and outside a marriage.

Wicked at best....

Richard Heckler 3 months ago

About erectile dysfunction ...... try maca root. It's natures way.

Michael Kort 3 months ago

Fantasy is always an escape from reality but humans seem to need to escape their lives into it .

Most people have a hard time dealing with reality.........how many people escape their lives thru TV, professional sports, romance novels that objectify relationship roles .....or porn ?

We make hero gods out of movie stars, rock stars, the rich, radical religious leaders and political liars with an appealing story about something of government for nothing in taxes .....and we never seem to learn ! ! !

And let's not forget the holly place fetish of religions as if God only exists in some place in the Middle East and is not equally present everywhere on earth at once so we must kill others to own that place and keep others at bay ?

It is important to respect other people's relationships and your own because 1) what goes around comes around .......and it does 2) and because you don't want to live your life like a contestant on the Jerry Springer Show where off the wall people just disrespect the relationships of others and their own relationships......often just because they can ( what a great reason ?.........Right ? )

Our society teaches us to grow up and become prices or females who get rescued from the evil deeds of other women ( snow white, cinderella ) by a prince of some sort ?......and it all ends in a happy fantasy life that will last forever .

Well, not every man is prince material and not every woman is a fantasy princes in the making .

Kay Springer 3 months ago

I concur, I can't believe this is a discussion.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

  1. Porn Breaks Trust. Marriages are built on trust. Ask a woman how she feels when her husband looks at porn and if she’s honest she hates it. She’ll say it feels like he is bringing other women into the relationship. And whether the man likes that or not she’s right. It’s infidelity.

  2. Porn Creates Comparisons. You can’t look at images without comparing those images to your spouse. This can lead to ungratefulness, where you focus on what your spouse “isn’t” instead of being thankful for what he/she is.

  3. Porn Destroys Self-Esteem. Just ask your spouse how confident they feel being naked in front of you after you’ve looked at pornography and you’ll understand this one.

  4. Porn Creates Unreal Expectations. Porn is not reality! It’s a movie created by a director and paid actors who…hate to burst your bubble…are acting! It’s not real! And guess what, most of them hate it. Many of the female actors were coerced into the film industry at a very young age outside of their will. A high number of female actors take drugs to cope with both the physical pain of filming and the emotional pain. The suicide rate is high among both male and female actors.

  5. Porn Destroys Intimacy. Porn in a marriage is usually very secretive. The one looking doesn’t want the other spouse to know. The result is a lack of intimacy as one spouse is keeping secrets from the other.

  6. Porn Creates Shame. The enemy tempts us to look, and when we do, he tells us what a loser we are for looking. Shame is one of the worst side effects of porn. Because people often look at porn to escape stress or fear, it creates a downward spiral that goes like this. 1. Feel bad about your life. 2. Look at porn to escape. 3. Feel bad about your life for looking at porn. 4. Look at more to escape.

  7. Porn is Addictive. Anyone who tells you it isn’t is wrong. Studies show that porn lights up the pleasure center of the brain more than cocaine. It’s powerful and it’s very addictive.

  8. Porn Never Satisfies. The porn industry thrives on “customer dissatisfaction.” I heard a podcast explain the difference between sexual addiction and drug addiction. They stated that the drug addict craves “more” but the sexual addict craves “different.” In other words, a heroin addict wants more heroin. But a sex addict doesn’t just want more sex, he wants “different” sex.

The power behind porn is lust. And lust doesn’t crave “prettier” – it craves “different.” It’s why Tiger Woods can be married to a super model and still cheat with numerous other women. It’s not that his wife wasn’t “attractive enough,” it’s just that lust always craves “different.” The deception is that “different” will satisfy you, but of course, once you have what you craved you want something different. It never ends.

  1. Porn is Progressively Perverse. Due to its inability to satisfy, pornography always leads one to greater perversity.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

An interview with Ted Bundy, a day before he was executed:

JCD: Outside these walls, there are several hundred reporters that wanted to talk to you, and you asked me to come because you had something you wanted to say. You feel that hardcore pornography, and the door to it, softcore pornography, is doing untold damage to other people and causing other women to be abused and killed the way you did.

Ted: I’m no social scientist, and I don’t pretend to believe what John Q. Citizen thinks about this, but I’ve lived in prison for a long time now, and I’ve met a lot of men who were motivated to commit violence. Without exception, every one of them was deeply involved in pornography - deeply consumed by the addiction. The F.B.I.’s own study on serial homicide shows that the most common interest among serial killers is pornographers. It’s true.

JCD: What would your life have been like without that influence?

Ted: I know it would have been far better, not just for me, but for a lot of other people - victims and families. There’s no question that it would have been a better life. I’m absolutely certain it would not have involved this kind of violence.

So, care to make light of Dr. Burkhead's stand on the dangers of pornography?

We are slouching towards Gomorrah....

Steve Jacob 3 months ago

All I read here is a man not taking responsibility for his own actions.

Steve Jacob 3 months ago

Yes, the right to watch it anyway.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

No disagreement from me.

Is it wise? Inadvisable from reasons above.

Do you concur?

Bob Smith 3 months ago

Ted was a much better person after he got a ride on old sparky.

Bill Pasquel 3 months ago

Carl Burkhead - " I turned on the TV in my room, only to find out that it was a porn station. I couldn’t believe the strong attraction of the images and I immediately turned it off"....Ummm...Yeeeahhhh...Riiigght, Carl...

Carl. Do you prefer Kiaser, or Sling Blade, Umm Hmm?

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

Do you support marriage, or care to discount it? We are all tempted. and given a way out.

Dr Burkhead is keeping it real. Will you Karl (Bill)?

Richard Aronoff 3 months ago

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Stu Clark 3 months ago

A good application for some porn (not the freaky stuff!) could be for use in sex-ed classes.

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

As in how to undermine a marriage....

Thomas Bryce Jr. 3 months ago

If you don't like porn, don't watch it, Carl. Nobody is forcing it on you. I don't care for it so I don't watch it. It IS that simple!

Jay Keffer 3 months ago

"Don't watch it" is a lame defense.

The damage it causes is irrefutable.

Hobson's choice:

I don't like guns, but an AR15 is just fine for you.

Uh, do you agree?

Thomas Bryce Jr. 3 months ago

I don't own an AR-15 either even though I am trained in the use of an M-16, An M-60 and even the .50 cal M-2. I was in the Army Infantry and was an E-4 Weapons Specialist trained in the use of every weapon on the modern battlefield up to and including the TOW Missile. I don't need them. I am a veteran and I know what they can do. I am a fire arms owner and a CCHL carrier. I do not feel the need to own an assault rifle and I do not see why the general public needs an assault rifle either. I am not trying to stop them from owning one as the law does allow it. I do not need one so I do not own one.

Richard Aronoff 3 months ago

OK. I'm 0 for 2. Let's try it this way: Do you all know that eating Cheetos can turn your hand orange?

Bill Pasquel 3 months ago

Lol! Exactly...Me thinks Carl has an "Orange" hand and had to repent, publicly, to "get it off his chest"...

Carl - "I couldn’t believe the strong attraction of the images and I immediately turned it off because I knew it was evil. They were powerful (besides being vulgar), and this explains to me why they could be so addictive"...This sounds really kind of gross. I like the way Carl says "Besides being vulgar". If so, why even bring it up?? Carl, let it go. You won't go blind.

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