Did you promise your spouse or mother you would never put them in a nursing home? At some point in their lives, most people are faced with decisions regarding long- term care of their loved ones. Many of us will become caregivers for our spouse or elderly parents. We know very little about that role and the demands it will place upon our own lives.
Over 52 million Americans provide caregiving for a disabled or sick family member, according to a 1999 survey conducted by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services. Caregiving is so demanding that most people feel inadequate. The emotions of anger, resentment and guilt can take a heavy toll on the health of the caregiver.
The Caregiver Health Effects Study examined the risk of being a caregiver in four communities over four years. Findings suggest that participants who were providing care and experiencing caregiver strain had a mortality risk that was significantly higher than those whose spouses were not disabled. It also suggested that physicians and other health care professionals were in the best position to identify caregiver strain and to provide interventions to reduce the effect. (JAMA, 1999)
Caregivers need to cut themselves some slack, experts say, or their own health may suffer. Researchers at Indiana University recently found the longer women cared for a sick relative, the more likely they were to suffer depression, insomnia and even physical difficulties.
What can caregivers do to protect both themselves and their loved one? Find out about community programs and professional resources in you area. Talk to family and friends about your concerns. Consider joining a support group either in person or on the Internet so you can share feelings and frustrations with others who understand your situation. Make sure to acknowledge your limits and when to say no. Take the time to exercise, and get proper nutrition and social interaction for yourself.
There is a need to consider "caregiver classes" before the need arises. The more you know about the challenges and rewards of being a caregiver, the better you will care for your loved one. Check out your local department on aging or other senior resources in your community.
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