To the editor:
Once again, an anti-spanking crusader has confused spanking, hitting and violence. Spanking is not violence. Spanking is not hitting. Spanking is a form of discipline that, used with care, can be very effective.
The works of Dr. Burton White and Dr. James Dobson (in more detail) give excellent instruction on the proper use of spanking and other methods of discipline. Any disciplinary measure, from time-out to the lecturing-and-reasoning approach, can be abused and become hurtful to a child. No disciplinary measure is effective when misused. When parents are afraid to spank, they often resort to berating, name-calling, yelling and other very emotionally damaging methods of trying to change their children's behavior.
There are no perfect parents, no perfect children, and so there are no fail-safe methods of child-training, but the only method guaranteed to fail is no method at all. Spanking is one of many legitimate tools that parents may choose as they carry out their child-training responsibilities.